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RE: Dommes - 3/16/2017 11:57:14 PM

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And what's wrong with that? Just because men aren't acting like women, they are wrong?

Just because men are seeking something different to you that doesn't mean they're wrong. Men are entitled to their needs/wants too.

She isn't talking about men, shes talking about subs with porn based expectations. And thats exactly the same for 50 shades fantasist female subs. Whether its porn or pros that trigger it the 'I want x done to me cos I saw it on the interwebz/paid for it' and you're one of them because you are Dom(me) so you must do it is the issue. Fuck all to do with gender.

Could you explain what is wrong with watching something and then wanting to try it?

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RE: Dommes - 3/17/2017 12:03:19 AM

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And what's wrong with that? Just because men aren't acting like women, they are wrong?

Just because men are seeking something different to you that doesn't mean they're wrong. Men are entitled to their needs/wants too.

She isn't talking about men, shes talking about subs with porn based expectations. And thats exactly the same for 50 shades fantasist female subs. Whether its porn or pros that trigger it the 'I want x done to me cos I saw it on the interwebz/paid for it' and you're one of them because you are Dom(me) so you must do it is the issue. Fuck all to do with gender.

So what's the real problem again when someone likes ideas from what they see in porn and wants to try?

Are you trying to say that they aren't entitled to seek what you're not seeking?

They can seek whatever they like. However if it's based on porn or pro's there is money involved which totally changes the dynamic. BDSM in whatever form is two or more people having a good time, however fucked up it might look to an outsider. Porn/prostitution is do this or have this done to you for cash, if you happen to enjoy its irrelevant as long as you do it. If you can't see the potential pitfalls in seeking the former from a reference framed entirely on the latter then you might want to do a little more thinking about how you view life.

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RE: Dommes - 3/17/2017 12:41:55 AM

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Thank you. Some of these people don't seem to understand how the whole human interaction thing actually works.

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RE: Dommes - 3/17/2017 12:54:35 AM

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While I have nothing against porn per se, even enjoyed it myself at times, it is really rude for guys to be sitting there watching porn and jerking off at the same time as they're sending out "Hello Mistress want to serve you be your slave Mistress" messages. I'm not their Mistress. They're not my slaves. Serving me means more than jerking off a your computer. We are complete strangers. They should approach me in the exact same way that you would approach a complete stranger at the grocery. That is how to speak to me. That is how you show respect to me. It's very simple. Yes, I know I'm on the computer but talk to me like a person. I am a person. I am not porn.

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RE: Dommes - 3/17/2017 1:01:44 AM

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Exactly LisaSadistic! That's the point subs don't seem to understand. We are a stranger to them, if they want to make a good first impression, treat us like a woman and not a fetish delivery system. Don't call us Mistress, we're not in a D/s (or any) relationship. We have a screen name, use it.

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RE: Dommes - 3/17/2017 1:03:50 AM

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It really should be common sense, shouldn't it?

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RE: Dommes - 3/17/2017 1:04:55 AM

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If could be wrong, but if you put yourself out there as a female domme, people are going to view you as a sexually aggressive woman. Right or wrong, that is the image that a female domme has. In a way, the image of a female domme kind of almost dehumanizes you (not you in particular, just generally) and makes one think of you as a deliverer of sexual fantasy.

I can't believe the stuff you post. This quote is such a crock of bullcrap.

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RE: Dommes - 3/17/2017 3:12:14 AM

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Could you explain what is wrong with watching something and then wanting to try it?

There's nothing inherently wrong with it. I and parters in Ds and Ms relationships have had ideas from porn although mainly from stuff friends have shared. But you need to be aware if what you are looking at is real for a start, as mentioned to your mate money changes the dynamic. I hate celery, tastes disgusting and consumes more calories to digest than it provides so its the only vegetable thats actively trying to kill you. Pay me enough money and i'll lick celery like a lollypop and tell you how amazing it tastes and you can film it and stick it on the internet. Doesn't mean that I or by association d types in general like celery. It means I like money more than I hate celery.

If it is real then are you with someone who will enjoy it? That looks cool, lets try it is all good. Becoming the guy or girl who is desperate to do/have done to x by anyone who will let them not so good. Hence the complaints about Dommes (and Doms) being treated like fetish delivery systems.

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RE: Dommes - 3/17/2017 3:55:11 AM

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ORIGINAL: MsLadySue

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If could be wrong, but if you put yourself out there as a female domme, people are going to view you as a sexually aggressive woman. Right or wrong, that is the image that a female domme has. In a way, the image of a female domme kind of almost dehumanizes you (not you in particular, just generally) and makes one think of you as a deliverer of sexual fantasy.

I can't believe the stuff you post. This quote is such a crock of bullcrap.

on the contrary, what she said is insightful.

and whats more, she was somewhat humble in suggesting it and so you look all the more foolish not only for not giving credence to what she said but also for being rude in return.

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RE: Dommes - 3/17/2017 4:24:14 AM

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Actually it is bullshit. It doesn't matter what you label yourself as, you'll get the same crap messages from ALL labeled men when you are a woman. I'm a switch, I have always stated that I am not looking, when I had my playmate it clearly stated I didn't play with others, I clearly state now that I don't want the messages, and yet I get them from Doms, subs, and slaves that are all the same crap that has been mentioned. It's just the theme that changes. Get on your knees, bitch ... Dom, or I'm a Dom, but I'd be your sub if you'd do XYZ to me. Hi Mistress, I love XYZ, I want, I want IIIIIIIIIIIIIII, ... sub. I'd let you nail my balls to the table, I'll suck your toes, I love high heels, will you walk on my back? ... slave. Even though I've also very specifically stated that even if I were to be looking, I wouldn't want ANY of them, because I'd want another switch, just like me. The shear fact is that many men see a FEMALE on these sites and instantly think with their dicks. All they see us as is the fetish delivery system, no matter who we are, or in most cases what we actually want. It's all about them. Then you get other men in here constantly bleating on about how bad women are. If they had to put up with the crap we do, they may just realise why.

You do get some really polite men, and I had a Dom mail me the other day just to say he hoped I enjoyed the forums, and that he thought I wore a collar well. These though are far and few between the rest of the dross. Again, I'm not looking, so I dread to think what the inboxes of those that are look like.

We are people first, and the fact that these men don't treat us like that is their failing, not ours, no matter how we label ourselves, no matter what our profiles state. It's about a basic level of respect that you'd show someone face-to-face, so if you think that flies out of the window just because we're on a kink site, or just because we are online, again, that is their failing, not ours.

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RE: Dommes - 3/17/2017 4:32:01 AM

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We. Are. Not. Porn. "Dominant woman" doesn't mean ooh dirty kinky slutty slut slut in rubber and latex just like I saw in a porno movie, I bet she'll hop her twat on every tongue that wags in her direction. No. We are not the porn you were jerking off to 30 seconds before you clicked on Collarspace. That's what we're trying to explain. Also, "oral service" isn't special because I can get that from a vanilla guy any time I want. These wankers calling themselves "subs" need to pull their heads out and get a clue.

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RE: Dommes - 3/17/2017 4:35:54 AM

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I also think it's pretty ridiculous for anyone to be accused of being a narcissist, special snowflake, etc, for wanting to be treated like a regular, normal person. That is, in fact, the exact opposite of being a special snowflake.

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RE: Dommes - 3/17/2017 4:39:43 AM

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Well said.

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RE: Dommes - 3/17/2017 1:05:07 PM

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Well all i can say is i haven't suffered the same experiences as you girls. Not at all.

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RE: Dommes - 3/17/2017 1:37:48 PM

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You're entitled to your opinion. My signature line speaks for me.

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RE: Dommes - 3/17/2017 3:01:39 PM

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You're entitled to your opinion. My signature line speaks for me.

Yes... your signature line and all of it's negative energy definitely speaks volumes about you. Perhaps your problem is stemming from... yourself. Imagine that.

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RE: Dommes - 3/17/2017 4:31:11 PM

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You're entitled to your opinion. My signature line speaks for me.

Yes... your signature line and all of it's negative energy definitely speaks volumes about you. Perhaps your problem is stemming from... yourself. Imagine that.

Men are always told not to be negative and bitter when they complain about not getting lucky while women usually get a free pass to be totally bitter prejudiced bitches.

As I mentioned before, women like Lisa and MLS need to show that they are relationship material. There is no sign of that out of neither of them and for so many dommes on here. Yet, they wonder why men only want them as a cum toilet. Well, that's all what they should get when they can't qualify for a relationship.

Men get told all the time to improve themselves when they're not getting luck. But as for women, it never seems to be their fault with the group think in these forums.

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RE: Dommes - 3/17/2017 7:35:23 PM

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And you're a catch? Ha. No woman with a modicum of self respect would get anywhere near you. Also, once again, I never said that I don't get any genuine messages. I said that it's one in a hundred. I have a lot to offer in terms of a relationship, but I certainly don't need to explain that to you.

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RE: Dommes - 3/17/2017 8:14:46 PM

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And you're a catch? Ha.

I'm a king!

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I have a lot to offer in terms of a relationship, but I certainly don't need to explain that to you

A man in your league would be a poo fetishist.

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RE: Dommes - 3/17/2017 8:28:42 PM

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That's very classy. Well, that's one I haven't ran into yet, but I'm sure I'm bound to eventually. But seeing as one in a hundred messages I get is decent, I'm sure that the number of decent messages I receive is greater than the total number that you receive. :)

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