MsSophie
Posts: 142
Joined: 3/26/2006 From: Stockholm, Sweden Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: Real0ne What is it that makes you the lifestyle domme that so many subs drool to be with. It may be better to ask them, cause it beats me from time to time. I am a very nice person though, so that may be it. quote:
What do you offer a sub that makes you worth their time. especially those who want slaves, tell us how you take care of them. what do they get out of it if things go bad 5? 10? 20? years up the road? financial? emotional? physical? retirement? personal? daily life? With that sort of attitude, even before entering a relationship, nobody ever managed to conduct a successful one. Why look at what anyone may get out of it after a split when one should look at what one can do to ensure the relationship lasts for the long haul? Each and every person has an obligation to take precautions for him and her-self. I am certainly not interested in engaging in a relationship with someone who is so careless about their own safety, and so lazy, that they expect me to plan for their "after the relationship". quote:
Every domme will tell us that they will "take care of all our needs" what do you feel those needs are. (generically speaking) Those needs are as individual as a hand print. I am not claiming to be capable of taking care of all of another human beings needs, because I am not super human. I can not be everything to someone else, neither do I want to be it. quote:
So now you found the perfect sub as described in the other thread so tell us how you intend to make a perfect life together and what does the sub get out of it. Why should the dominant part be solely responsible for planning the perfect life? Is this not a responsibility shared by all parties to the relationship? Smells do-me and lazy person from so far away all they would see of me is the cloud of dust from the road as I run away. quote:
From my experience they typically offer me a nice mortgage bill(my name is not on the deed), car payments (her name her car), insurance bills(both), utility bills(both), all the housework, child care(theirs), finally a little kink with here a spank there a spank once in a while or the other extreme of bdsm obsession that is so caustraphobic, limiting and depressing that i could puke. If any other person shares my life, and lives in my household, I expect them to contribute in proportion to their income. That is, I expect them to contribute equal percentages of their net salary, not half of the bills. If someone earns less money than I do, they pay less, but if they earn more they pay more. In the case we are dating I do enjoy being treated to the odd dinner, but in return I enjoy treating. I expect my partner to take an equal responsibility for the relationship, if he is not prepared to do this I expect him to pay for my time!
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