sambamanslilgirl
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Joined: 2/5/2007 From: Chicago, IL Status: offline
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ok let's break it down: quote:
ORIGINAL: AAkasha Are you not considered a "lifestyler" unless you are part of the community?What makes you a part of the community -- attending munches and play parties? If you never attend any of these things, are you still a member of the BDSM community? just because i (Daddy and my bf are the same way) are not part of any local community and/or attend munches/parties doesn't mean i'm not a member of the BDSM community. they tend to be more private and discrete mostly because of their (Daddy and bf) professions however on the other hand - i have no interest in attending play/fetish parties because i find them boring. i have seen more action with BDSM on stage with rock bands than i do at the parties. quote:
Do people ever mix their communities? If you have a close set of friends that are from a hobby group of some sort, do you tell them about your bdsm community friends and vice versa? why would i want to announce to the world - hey, look at me! i'm wearing a leather collar with a leash around my neck! i have friends in and out of the bdsm community and no one asks why i wear i metal wedding ring most days or that chain link one. if they are that curious, they will ask but they don't. Daddy has His set of friends and colleagues too- He would never tell His patients or others about this because it's part of His private life. my bf same thing. quote:
If you had a wedding, could all your friends from all communities attend together, or do you keep them separate? good question since i have thought about that recently when it came up and of course it will be a traditional, white outdoor ceremony. sorry but no leather and/or BDSM wear - this will be a very formal and classy ceremony and our family/relatives/firends/co-workers will be in attendance (with UMs) . i wouldn't want our guests offended however if it's a private ceremony just between us two say like a collaring one, then it would be only BDSM community. quote:
Is the BDSM community your main circle of friends and support? no - i also have Daddy, my mother, godmothers, father, etc. quote:
What about online community? How many communities do you consider yourself a part of, and how accepting are they? let's see i'm part of a music community (radio station included) and they already knew about my lifestyle ...never made the point to hide it. plus i blend in nicely with all the punk and metalheads during the shows i review by wearing my collars. i'm part of a religious community - i don't have to wear my collars but i do anyway. no one has asked me what's around my neck ...the congregation is pretty conservative since dressing comfy is allowed. i'm part of the school community being room mom to my UMs' schools ...same thing no one asks nor do i bring it up - it's great being one of the cool moms.
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