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You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/23/2007 7:21:07 PM   
Shylahgirl


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What different types of collars have you received? (i.e: Formal collar, session/play collar, collar of consideration, collar of protection, the "online"collar)  

What do you think of the diffrent types of collars?

What is the collar to you?

Did you recive a collar right away or did you work for it? 

How would it feel if you lost your collar?

***I want opinions... I gave mine.... no verbal fist fights over you're wrong I'm right... no body is wrong, every body is right***** 

Here’s my response: ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------  

I have been collared to Master for a littler over a year now... I was his for six months before I earned his collar.

I am the first girl whom he has had earn a collar.

Master and I have a very different view on collaring then most.

He only has two types of collars, a play/party collar usually made of leather and gets taken off every night after a party... then there's the permanent collar, the one I wear is a stiff silver chain that rests on my collar bone and has a small pendent of a girl kneeling. It only comes off when I clean it (you can see the collar in some of my pics). I wear it at all times.

Master refuses to collar girl, now, before she has been in training with him for six months... it could be longer. Before that, when a girl decides to serve him, Master will give her what he calls "comfort cuffs". They are two silver bracelets, usually that will match the future collar, that the girl will wear to remind her of her commitment during training and after.

Both the collar and the cuffs can be removed at any time... giving the girl the option to leave when ever she wants by her choice.

I do not believe that the collar is like a wedding ring and I do not feel that the act of collaring is like a marriage. I believe that the collaring, when done with the right intent and with the right people, is a stronger commitment then marriage.

For me, what I feel with Master is something that will never go away. If I left tomorrow I would still be connected to him on a very deep emotional level for the rest of my life... it's not quite the "ball connection" but it's not far off.   If he were to remove my collar it would feel like a death… no matter how it happened, even if I no longer wanted to serve him.

He will ALWAYS be my Master... even if some day I choose to leave and have a sub of my own.

It can't be cut like a divorce can do with a marriage.

As far as the other collars, I don't quite understand them because I have not had them used on me.

And just a side note:

I believe that you can not collar someone in any less time then a month.... I believe that "doms" who collar a sub in less time then that don't understand the commitment they are making... the same for subs who except it... and it makes a joke of the symbol of the collar.

I'm not saying that it doesn't ever work, but how many times does a new person slap a collar on the first submissive person who will let them, then the next week they're over?

I also do not believe in "online collars"... in my experince to have that commitment you have to be able to be in the pressence of the other person. Now it you're just living an online fantacy that's diffrent then having a 24/7 D/s relationship, you can't "block" the naughty slave if they disobay in real life. If you want to be collared in the chat room during role playing then go ahead.. but it's not the same in my opinion.

Those are my thoughts.

Shylah

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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/23/2007 8:34:12 PM   
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at this time, i have never received and would never see myself receiving anything other than a permanent collar, bestowed after both parties have decided it's the right long-term fit. i personally would not take part (at this time, maybe my beliefs will change in the future) in having a "temporary, online, consideration, training" or any other kind of collar besides a long-term, 24/7 one. before i am collared, there's no "halfway" in the collaring. either the courtship period goes well or it doesn't. i also have never particularly liked the idea of having to "earn" a collar - either i am a good fit for you as a slave or i am not. there is, of course, always room for molding, but i am a firm believer that it's not emotionally healthy (for me, at least) to be treated on a continual basis (as in, outside of play) like a trick pony expected to earn a prize. for me, collaring is another layer of meaning to the relationship. for me, it is far more binding than marriage, but in some areas it's binding in different ways and with different implications.

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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/23/2007 8:44:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well it’s only my opinion – and I hope for comments either for or against what I have written which I know there will be but I want to learn more,
 
I know bugger all about collaring, and I must admit I am making comments out of ignorance, from only from what I have seen and heard, which is from a area that is very narrow in view, I am keen to follow this thread on collaring in the hope I learn more, but right now this is how I think of collaring that to me is another form of commitment.
 
To me you are either boyfriend/girlfriend, casual where you are not girlfriend/boyfriend but get together for convenience, live together unmarried because this is your choice but to me its still the same as a proper commitment, or together and married.
 
That is how I see different relationships to me collar’s does not come into it, some see a collar as the same as marriage but as far as I know to be collared is not a legal binding unless a contract comes along with it, then only the legal thing is the contract if it was done legally.
 
To me collaring is saying that this Master/Dom has claimed you as his.  It to me does not say that he is yours, it just seems a one sided thing to me, you mention it took you a certain amount of time before you earned your collar, has he earned anything?  
 
You might have earned his respect and he might think you have integrity which I would imagine if he does not think that then he would not offer his collar, if he has not earned your respect and all the other things what does he have that says you are his.
 
But its backward, I see it as the subbie/slave having to prove she is worthy of a commitment then she is given permission to say I am now owned by a Master, what about a Master.
 
To me what is the point in moving in with someone, if that person does not think you are worthy of a collar? If a collar is that valued (obviously talking off line stuff here) the choice of making that commitment to move in together should be mutual, as in you each think the other is a bit of alright and you want to make a go of things, rather than move in together then wait for your Master/Mistress has deemed you ok after six months/year or two years as worthy of been his/her subbie/slave.
 
What happens if a collar is offered and a subbie/slave has decided that her/his Master/Mistress is not worthy and leave isn’t it better to make those choices before you move in together?
 
Hope I get lots of comments on what I have written, thanks for posting on this subject it is a subject I am quite ignorant off not many I have come across have talked on this much.
 
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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/23/2007 9:25:15 PM   
Shylahgirl


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ORIGINAL: ennaozzie

Well it’s only my opinion – and I hope for comments either for or against what I have written which I know there will be but I want to learn more,
 
I know bugger all about collaring, and I must admit I am making comments out of ignorance, from only from what I have seen and heard, which is from a area that is very narrow in view, I am keen to follow this thread on collaring in the hope I learn more, but right now this is how I think of collaring that to me is another form of commitment.
 
To me you are either boyfriend/girlfriend, casual where you are not girlfriend/boyfriend but get together for convenience, live together unmarried because this is your choice but to me its still the same as a proper commitment, or together and married.
 
That is how I see different relationships to me collar’s does not come into it, some see a collar as the same as marriage but as far as I know to be collared is not a legal binding unless a contract comes along with it, then only the legal thing is the contract if it was done legally.
 


I promis you that if you go to cort trying to break a power exchange contract or show that a person can't leve cuz they signed it 9 times out of 10 or 10 out of 10 times it will be thrown out as a violation of anti slavery laws at best... at worst the "master/mistress" could be stent to jail for owning a slave.
 
Even with power exchange/slave contracts nothing is legaly binding... the only way a contract could have a hope of being legel is if a lawer worte it with legel jargen that gose around the anti slave laws... which I bet is possable but very difficult. 
 
Shylah

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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/23/2007 9:43:42 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Shylahgirl


What do you think of the diffrent types of collars?
I have only worn one collar, it was a formal collar, I suppose.

What is the collar to you?
It was a symbol of commitment to him. Quite like a wedding band. You mention you think the commitment is greater than a marriage, I do not agree with that. I don't judge one's commitment based on how they chose to  affirm it. My relationship was as strong to me, as my vanilla friends marriages are to them.  Just me. 

Did you recive a collar right away or did you work for it? 
Thats' both a easy and tough Q. I received it about 2 years into the relationship. I'm not so sure I would say I worked for it tho. I think our relationship had come to the point where we were both ready to take thatstep and realized the significance of formalizing it.
How would it feel if you lost your collar?
Lost as in misplaced or lost as taken away?


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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/23/2007 9:48:46 PM   
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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/23/2007 9:58:39 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Shylahgirl

 

What different types of collars have you received? (i.e: Formal collar, session/play collar, collar of consideration, collar of protection, the "online"collar)

Just the ones i wear from my Daddy now and years ago i had i guess what would be called a play collar....That all being said i have quite a few different ones that my Daddy has given me to dress up with or decorate with. But really they are jewlery, the collar is on my heart and mind.

What do you think of the diffrent types of collars?

I really hadn't given them alot of thought, since i've basically just had the ones from my Daddy. i guess for some ppl they just as important as the ones i wear. It isn't my place to judge the vailidity of their collars.

What is the collar to you?
It's a symbol that i am my Daddy's slave, i belong to him, he owns and loves me. It is also sometimes like a shield against the outside world.

Did you recive a collar right away or did you work for it?
Neither really. i didn't work for it at all but it wasn't given right away.

How would it feel if you lost your collar?
Not sure if you mean losing it as in "Daddy doesn't want me anymore" way...which would DESTROY me.
If you mean, literally, like lose it ...then i have had a few of them break and lost one last Friday and i was sooo sad that i almost cried. Then my Daddy explained to me, again, that it was just a material thing and a decoration.....The collar on my heart is still in tact though.:)




i would also like to add that if we get married and have a BDSM wedding then that will just deepen what we have...but i am completely his slave and getting more so all the time. Broken or lost collars or not.


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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/23/2007 10:07:10 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Shylahgirl

I got this idea from another message board.  

What different types of collars have you received? (i.e: Formal collar, session/play collar, collar of consideration, collar of protection, the "online"collar)  
 
Never ... never wanted one either


What do you think of the diffrent types of collars?
I think my opinion would be flamed... so I refrain from answering.

What is the collar to you?
 
Nothing....but I do understand what it means to others.


Did you recive a collar right away or did you work for it? 

I did not have to work to be owned...he simply wanted me for who I was.

How would it feel if you lost your collar?

I am much more secure in my relationship with Sir than I was before... if I "lost" my owner...I'd have to look for him....
Seriously... I am NOT a defiant girl, so unless we found out we were not compatable somehow, along the way....we would part ways, knowing that we must be compatible in all things or at least be able to discuss.  He will not compromise.  I do like that about him.



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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/24/2007 4:08:08 AM   
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What do you think of the diffrent types of collars?


If it makes people happy - great for them.  Personally I do not see the point of different collars, apart from maybe a house collar at a private party, but even then I have in my head the thought of what is the point of being around people a person may not be safe with?

quote:

What is the collar to you?


It can indicate ownership and commitment to a single person/house or poly union.  It can be a symbol.  It can be a tool that informs others that they are already in a relationship.

quote:

Did you recive a collar right away or did you work for it? 


I would never say 'work' for a collar, because I do not see a collar as something that is onesided.  You work at a relationship - not for the collar itself... otherwise the collar becomes more important than the relationship and nothing would or could be more important than Darcy.
(Also, I am not collared, but well, see my other post below in response to ennaozzie/beanie - because I wanted to address something she said)

quote:

How would it feel if you lost your collar?


I honestly cannot answer, simply because it hasn't occured and I do not think people can pre-empt a reaction.  Depending on the situation, I might be relieved or destroyed.
 
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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/24/2007 4:16:46 AM   
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That is how I see different relationships to me collar’s does not come into it, some see a collar as the same as marriage but as far as I know to be collared is not a legal binding unless a contract comes along with it, then only the legal thing is the contract if it was done legally.

 
There is no legally binding contract that can be held up in a court of law (as yet).
 
quote:

To me collaring is saying that this Master/Dom has claimed you as his.  It to me does not say that he is yours, it just seems a one sided thing to me, you mention it took you a certain amount of time before you earned your collar, has he earned anything?  


 
On This comment - two things.
One - Some people view that the dominant has earned the submissive/slave.  Simply by wearing his collar, he has earned her/him.  The s-type is the collar. (There is even the thrown around thought that it is the s-type who has the 'power'(cue music) - but that is a totally different discussion.
 
Secondly - do not assuming that dominants do not wear collars or other symbols of commitment.  This is a false assumption.  Many BDSM relationships exchange collars - it may not be as obvious, but it does happen.  This is also something I and my partner have discussed and would be comfortable doing.  A collar isn't always one sided.  I would wear his, he would wear mine - we would wear ours.  Pure and simple.
 
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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/24/2007 4:26:07 AM   
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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/24/2007 4:26:10 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ennaozzie

Well it’s only my opinion – and I hope for comments either for or against what I have written which I know there will be but I want to learn more,
 
I know bugger all about collaring, and I must admit I am making comments out of ignorance, from only from what I have seen and heard, which is from a area that is very narrow in view, I am keen to follow this thread on collaring in the hope I learn more, but right now this is how I think of collaring that to me is another form of commitment.
 
To me you are either boyfriend/girlfriend, casual where you are not girlfriend/boyfriend but get together for convenience, live together unmarried because this is your choice but to me its still the same as a proper commitment, or together and married.
 
That is how I see different relationships to me collar’s does not come into it, some see a collar as the same as marriage but as far as I know to be collared is not a legal binding unless a contract comes along with it, then only the legal thing is the contract if it was done legally.  I agree with you.  And if you can find a "legal" slave contract let me know.  Not to start a whole new topic but for ME a slave contract is stupid...who's moderating this when it goes bad?  Judge Judy???  If you want a set of commitments or vows then fine...but a contract?
 
To me collaring is saying that this Master/Dom has claimed you as his.  It to me does not say that he is yours, it just seems a one sided thing to me, you mention it took you a certain amount of time before you earned your collar, has he earned anything?  How bout it doesn't say he is SOLEY yours?  I am my slaves's Mistress.  Period.  No matter how many people are in the thick of things or on the sideline...I am his Mistress and he my slave.  I don't buy into the length of time aspect.  I do what I do because it's right for me.  If I make a glaring error then so be it.  There is no standard for how long it takes for two people to get married and I agree that lifestyle lives can be just as diverse and unique.  My slave has earned my collar.  What does that mean?  To us it means an unwavering committment through thick and thin.  The only reason I'd remove that collar is if he harmed my family in some way.  If I remove that collar he leaves my home. 
 
You might have earned his respect and he might think you have integrity which I would imagine if he does not think that then he would not offer his collar, if he has not earned your respect and all the other things what does he have that says you are his.  My slave and I have MUTALLY earned respect, love, trust, submission/dominance respectively, I have earned the right to collar him and he has earned the right to call me Mistress...but furthermore I earned the right to be called Mistress.  I don't take that term lightly and if I don't earn it from you, you don't call me that.  If I don't have that trust, honesty, love, respect, admiration and vice versa I'd not allow allow my collar about his neck and I'd not allow him to move into my family.
 
But its backward, I see it as the subbie/slave having to prove she is worthy of a commitment then she is given permission to say I am now owned by a Master, what about a Master.  See above *S*
 
To me what is the point in moving in with someone, if that person does not think you are worthy of a collar? If a collar is that valued (obviously talking off line stuff here) the choice of making that commitment to move in together should be mutual, as in you each think the other is a bit of alright and you want to make a go of things, rather than move in together then wait for your Master/Mistress has deemed you ok after six months/year or two years as worthy of been his/her subbie/slave.  See above
 
What happens if a collar is offered and a subbie/slave has decided that her/his Master/Mistress is not worthy and leave isn’t it better to make those choices before you move in together?  Depends on the couple.  Maybe they can work through it.  Maybe not.  Who's to say what's better about living together....some people like riding the wave even if the wave eventually dies.
 
Hope I get lots of comments on what I have written, thanks for posting on this subject it is a subject I am quite ignorant off not many I have come across have talked on this much.
 
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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/24/2007 4:39:07 AM   
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What do you think of the diffrent types of collars?
Sometimes I think they are pretty, mostly I don't care. What others choose to do doesn't have very much to do with me.

What is the collar to you?
I'm still learning that and find it hard to define. My collar is sometimes my security blanket. I can hold onto it when I can't touch Sir. Very strong emotions surround the opening and closing of the lock that I don't even really understand.

Did you recive a collar right away or did you work for it?
It began as a playful gesture and exploration. He was showing me chains and locks and keys from a little box. He slid the chain around my neck and locked it and something internally snapped into place for me. I wouldn't have been able to bear it if he had insisted on removal.  There was a period of time between that moment and when I petitioned to be allowed to explore learning and service with him, but the date on the petition is not the heartfelt one, or where I count the begining of serving him, it's that first moment and that quiet click that happened internally between us when the superficial lock was slid closed. I think that moment surprised us both. I am still "working for it". Our journey together is still just begining, we met in August of 2006.

How would it feel if you lost your collar?
Even reading that line makes me feel distressed. It is a feeling in the body and visceral. My gut tightens and I feel queezy and my eyes feel hot and liquidy. My throat closes.
Bad.
I would feel bad.
Despondant.
Miserable.
Lost.
The lame truth is that I am unsure what I would do without him. He balances out a part of me that I don't have words for. It's like finally having a suitable partner on the teeter totter. Being with him makes me feel balanced and boyant. Dang it, just typing about this is making tears run down my face. I don't want to think about that.


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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/24/2007 6:31:51 AM   
sweetnurseBBW


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Shylahgirl

I got this idea from another message board.  

What different types of collars have you received? (i.e: Formal collar, session/play collar, collar of consideration, collar of protection, the "online"collar)  
We have a formal one and one for play times.

What do you think of the different types of collars?
Means different things to different people.


What is the collar to you?
A collar to us symbolizes our commitment and permanence.

Did you recive a collar right away or did you work for it? 
What is right away to some is not to others.

How would it feel if you lost your collar?
Lost as in taken away or misplaced?

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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/24/2007 6:34:41 AM   
Kitte9


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

http://www.collarchat.com/m_498653/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#498670
The Coveted and Legendary Collar

http://www.collarchat.com/m_531609/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#531610
Collaring vs Wearing a collar

http://www.collarchat.com/m_547321/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#547475
The meaning of a collar

http://www.collarchat.com/m_485613/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#485797
Please share with me (what being collared means to you)

http://www.collarchat.com/tm.asp?m=427111&mpage=1&key=collaring&#427257
being collared

http://www.collarchat.com/tm.asp?m=410988&mpage=1&key=collaring&#411019
public collar

http://www.collarchat.com/m_291301/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#291301
Collar vs Wedding Ring

http://www.collarchat.com/m_287566/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#287566
Another Question Regarding the Collar

http://www.collarchat.com/tm.asp?m=323687&mpage=1&key=collaring&#323702
collars (2)

http://www.collarchat.com/m_287140/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#287140
Collar

http://www.collarchat.com/m_264867/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#264867
Sub Thoughts on collars

http://www.collarchat.com/m_248345/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#248345
collar before love

http://www.collarchat.com/m_247668/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#247668
ring or collar, what's the difference?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_219135/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#219135
What does a collar mean?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_190240/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#190240
collar or what else?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_187244/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#187244
Accepting a collar

http://www.collarchat.com/m_184946/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#184946
Timeframe for a Collar?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_177155/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#177155
collar (2)

http://www.collarchat.com/m_165733/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#165733
collars

http://www.collarchat.com/m_151638/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#151638
Collar Ceremony

http://www.collarchat.com/m_150934/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#150934
Losing the Collar

http://www.collarchat.com/m_132702/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#132702
From chat to collar

http://www.collarchat.com/m_124898/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#124898
Wearing training collar in public

http://www.collarchat.com/m_81449/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#81449
What are the collar types/levels please?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_80281/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#80281
When is the right time to collar?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_70392/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#70392
Collars and collaring

http://www.collarchat.com/m_61337/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#61337
Collar conundrum?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_59686/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#59686
Color of collars?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_55592/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#55592
Collars when?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_27368/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#27368
Kind of a collar question?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_11451/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#11451
Collaring a submissive?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_428/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#428
What is your definition of a training collar?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_402/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#402
Multiple collars or single collar?




Lucky, can you be a bit more specific?

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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/24/2007 6:39:13 AM   
Kitte9


Posts: 411
Joined: 11/26/2006
Status: offline 		I was given a leather studded collar from my friend when she introduced me to this lifestyle. I wear it when we play. I am not 'collared' but to me it is a symbol of the freedom to which she opened my eyes. I would be greatly distressed if I were to lose it, but then, she would be kind enough to give me another. It means so much to me because she means so much to me. As long as we are friends, the collar itself really doesn't matter.

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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/24/2007 6:49:24 AM   
imthatacheyouhav


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Status: offline 		I have no frame of reference for this, but the replies are interesting.

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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/24/2007 6:49:45 AM   
Shylahgirl


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quote:

To me collaring is saying that this Master/Dom has claimed you as his.  It to me does not say that he is yours, it just seems a one sided thing to me, you mention it took you a certain amount of time before you earned your collar, has he earned anything?  


 He has earned my respect.
 
Keep in mind that I am 20 years old and I became his when I was 18... earing my respect was not an easy thing for him, I'm not someone who has ever been blindly respectfull to anyone... add some teen rebleion in there and you can probably guess that he had some work of his own to do. He is the first to do it, at least the first to earn a levle of respecet beyond what I would give as a person to another person.
 
Shylah

< Message edited by Shylahgirl -- 5/24/2007 6:54:58 AM >

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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/24/2007 7:29:12 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kitte9
Lucky, can you be a bit more specific?

*ducks and runs away*


ROFL that was very good. :)

One thing I will say is that a lot of people TALK about a collar being a symbol of commitment, or something earned and thus conveyed on a person like a title of knighthood or something- but then they get their collar as a present, like for their birthday or anniversary or something.  That just seems to fuzz up exactly what's going on and why for me. 

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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/24/2007 7:47:26 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


Posts: 10926
Joined: 2/5/2007
From: Chicago, IL
Status: offline 		What different types of collars have you received? (i.e: Formal collar, session/play collar, collar of consideration, collar of protection, the "online"collar)  
i own 3 collars (so far). my main one is a solid metal ring which is a symbol our lifetime committment as Daddydaughter until death do we part.  another one i have is leather with lace decorations which i received on Valentine's Day and the other i have is a chain link which He gave to me for my birthday.  plus i wear a silver bracelet on my left wrist and soon i will receive a pair of anklets with locks.

now with my bf (secondary Dom), we haven't decided on collars only discussing about a (engagement) ring.

What do you think of the diffrent types of collars?
i really don't - it's Daddy's choice if i'm to have different collars.

What is the collar to you? 
a collar to me signifies my eternal pledge and committment  to my relationship with Daddy ...almost a like a wedding ring.

Did you recive a collar right away or did you work for it? 
i was chained first (before Christmas) before i received my collar on Jan 16th which was 5months and 3 days after meeting Daddy.  i didn't have to jump through hoops or go through training - Daddy was the one who decided that i was ready to receive my collar.

How would it feel if you lost your collar?
it would have to take a natural disaster for me to lose my collars since i wear either one of them 24/7 (unless i'm showering) ...same goes for my bracelet and soon my anklets.  all tokens of Daddy's ownership must be worn 24/7.  with my secondary Dom, i better NOT lose his ring - he'll definitely kill me!


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