thetammyjo
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ORIGINAL: BBBTBW Honestly I don't care what anyone thinks of my style. It is my own, it defines who I am. However, I still find it very judgemental that when someone's style doesn't fit into another's definition they are instantly given some obscure label. It is my opinion that when you put lifestyle and lables before the human factor, you have an explosive combination in the long run. I for one embrace the human element in subs slaves...this includes their weaknesses as well as their strengths as I expect them to do with and for me. I suppose we can agree to disagree on this subject. It seems we come from very different worlds. Ok, now I'm very confused. I didn't label you. I would never label you unless you asked me for an opinion and then I would say that this is what I would define it as -- I wouldn't say it was you. I do have a right to my own opinions and being on this board I have a right to express them when someone asks for opinions or asks what others think. I believe I go out of my way to say that "I call," "I define" or "I use" things instead of claiming some universal useage for a term. The only reason I might suggest that other words be used is if a person came to the group and asked for opinions or help because they keep having negative experiences or weren't finding compatible partners. At that point words may indeed matter a great deal when we try to communicate. I also think we need to look at type of person or personality we are attracted too when this happens. I'm about success here, folks. If thinking about the words we use or the character traits we are attracted to helps us choose more compatible partners I think our chances of success increase dramatically. I think you completely ignored all of my statements about reality which is really a great deal about those "human elements" you mentioned. Again it is hard to have success if you don't accept the reality of our lives. I believe you are confused, I am sorry if you thought I said you labled me...that is not what I meant. I was speaking in general terms. And yes, you do have a right to your opinions just as everyone else. I just don't understand why it is that when one person has a style that suits them and the person/people they are with they are given some obscure lable such as "service dominant" or "top" Why can't someone just be a dominant with a style that differs from anothers? I am not sure how you think I have aimed anything at you personally. Although I speak in first person alot, I speak in general terms. I was only answering your responses to my posts. Everyone has labels that they use to define themselves and others. It's part of how our brains works -- little categories that it organizes information in. I learned this years ago in a psychology course. It isn't a choice it's how our brains work. When we use those labels with others we will run into people who use the terms differently than us. At that point we can either use more words to describe ourselves or attempt to figure out what the majority of people use (and expect again to have folks who do not buy into that definition). I think is some uses their experiences and a lot of words they are less likely to come across as promoting universals or sounding like they are labeling others. Unfortunately a lot of people post with universal statements or ask for other peoples opinions. Some people seem to do these two things a lot. Make me wonder if they like the drama it seems likely to create.
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