kyraofMists
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ORIGINAL: kyraofMists In our house I am required to ask for permission for things that I want. If I see something that I want, to not ask for it is to be disobedient. The reason for this is because it is not me who gets to decide whether I have it or not; it is him. If I don't ask for what I want, then I will not get it. However, in not asking for it, I decided that I would not get it, not him. In essence, I exercised my authority to make the decision that I would not have something by not asking permission. I took authority away from him by not asking. In asking questions, I am actively transfering authority to him. When the question is asked he gets to exercise his authority and make the decision. Knight's kyra Color me confused here, but if you are at the store, and see something that you want, but before you have the opportunity to ask, decide you don't want it, why would you ask for it? You are still taking away his authority by deciding that you no longer want it. If you were to now ask for something that you don't want, that would just be silly. Perhaps you could explain this a little further? I must be missing something. I think you may be confusing my requirement to have his permission to fulfill my wants with having permission to want something. I am not required to get permission to decide to want something or not. I am required to get permission to fulfill those wants or not. I am given the freedom to determine my own desires, thoughts, feelings and motivations. He determines how, when, where and if those things will be fulfilled, expressed or demonstrated. As for the question of if I see something I want and then change my mind “why would I ask for it”, that really depends on what changed my mind. If I changed my mind because I made an initial snap judgment and further information shows that it is not going to do what I wanted it to do, then I am not required to ask. However, this type of behavior will not please him at all. If I make the decision that I want something I am to have a clear explanation of why and have done my homework about what I want. He won’t tolerate flip-flopping and making uninformed decisions. On the other hand, if I changed my mind because I think it costs too much or I don’t have the money for it, then I am required to bring it to his attention. He makes the decisions on how money is spent and I don’t have the authority to decide that something is too expensive or doesn’t fit in the budget. It may not be phrased as a question, but I will present him with all the information and my thoughts. So it really depends on whether I truly don’t want whatever it is or if other factors make me think having what I want would be too high of a cost and not necessarily a monetary cost either. Knight's kyra
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"Passion... it lies in all of us. Sleeping, waiting, and though unbidden, it will stir, open its jaws, and howl. It speaks to us, guides us... passion rules us all. And we obey..." ~Angelus
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