thetammyjo
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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo But programming offspring, yes, I find that very offensive. Then I would suggest to you that should you ever produce any offspring, that you do not "program" them. And remember, this will apparently mean that you must present all sides of every possible decision and describe them all as equally appealing and acceptable. Therefore, if the subject of whether or not it's acceptable to be a "surrendered wife" ever comes up, I'm sure you will present all sides of this issue, letting the offspring know that there are satisfied wives living in such a dynamic. Then, if said female offspring chooses to do so herself, I'm sure you'll be 100% supportive. Yes, I would. I strongly believe that if I have offspring that I have a duty to help them become the best individuals and citizens as they can become. I think it is very sad if others do not see that as their duty. quote:
you made it so personal, slaveluci. Why exactly are you taking it so personally? Are you one of the women in the clip? quote:
Yes. Did you not see me? I was the one calling my husband "Daddy." No, tammyjo, I was not in the clip. But as I've said in post after post here, I don't have to be in the clip to be bothered by the way those women have had their relationships dismissed as creepy, sick, wrong, and abusive. And as I've also said in post after post here, I live in a dynamic very, very, very similar to these womens' marriages. That is why I am taking this so PERSONALLY. slave luci But you aren't one of these women. You are in Ds dynamic, yes, one that you and your partner designed or found that worked for you. You haven't said that you read this book and then build your life around it. Just because looks the same does not mean it is the same. As to the creepiness of the clip, as I have said repeatedly what the adult choose to do is their business. As a former childhood abuse survivor I take great interest and offensive when children are told there is one way because that is, in my personal experience and in everything I've learned in psychology and sociology, the methods of an abuser. So guess what? I get to take it personally too on behalf of every child who is denied the encouragement and resources to become the best human being they can be when they are "only" provided with one way and one model often backed by "nature" and "god" BS.
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