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RE: Younger Doms? - 7/4/2007 1:17:37 PM

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I can totally relate to grlneedstolearn because i'm dealing with the same thing.

Kink or not we all still want to feel treated respectfully. Yes this is D's yes we may be sub or slave but at the same time we all have a soft side and deep down in us whether we are 22 or 60 want care. Being sub or slave doesn't mean we should just have to lay down and spread our legs on the first meeting.

I havn't searched for someone in a long time seriously but guys my age do seem very immature, they seem to just be here for the sex and to count the numbers so to speak. It's like there's a competition on how many girls each guy can fuck and who ever wins gets what?

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RE: Younger Doms? - 7/4/2007 2:26:40 PM

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Thank you meticulousgirl, i'm happy that i can relate to at least one other person

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RE: Younger Doms? - 7/4/2007 3:31:49 PM

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Being sub or slave doesn't mean we should just have to lay down and spread our legs on the first meeting.

Strangely enough, I only get that from the older men.

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I havn't searched for someone in a long time seriously but guys my age do seem very immature, they seem to just be here for the sex and to count the numbers so to speak. It's like there's a competition on how many girls each guy can fuck and who ever wins gets what?

Maybe I know all the nice guys but I've never encountered men who actually do that. Women yes. Men no. Or maybe it's that the stereotype of geek and techy guys being really nice and respectful but never wanted is true.

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RE: Younger Doms? - 7/4/2007 3:44:11 PM

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Most of the Doms that I've talked with online seem only to be interested in one thing, and most of us knows what that is.

Nascar?

Seriously though, I think a lot of it has to do with upbringing. For the most part I think all men are horny bastards. The difference is that real men control it with respect for themselves and others. Just like my dominant nature I let it out at appropriate times in appropriate doses.

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RE: Younger Doms? - 7/4/2007 3:45:24 PM

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My goodness, lots of sensitivity around the age issue today, huh? Just thinking about My experience in a college classroom w/men & women aged 17-45 for a whole buncha years. In the following statement, please understand that the most important words are "personally," and "most" ... it's a generalization, not an absolute. That said:

Personally, I wouldn't expect most men to be thoughtful partners until they're 25; and I wouldn't expect most women to be able to focus on another person for a prolonged period of time until they are 35.

Flame on! (I'm leaving so won't be able to cringe until tomorrow sometime.)

And I personally doubt that most men of any age are dominant, but it's easier for their ego to think of that option than otherwise. Just saying.

Seriously, and respectfully, ProfJoe

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RE: Younger Doms? - 7/4/2007 4:06:25 PM

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It's like there's a competition on how many girls each guy can fuck and who ever wins gets what?

What a coincedence...

All the cooks in the professional kitchens I worked in played that game...

And the guys on the butcher block seem to do the same thing.

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RE: Younger Doms? - 7/4/2007 4:29:52 PM

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I would agree with the comment made earlier about many trolling emails being from older men I have found the same thing.
I dont really think it is fair just to pick on young Doms, I think a lot of men in general seem to think parading around as dominant is an easy way to get sex (because obviously submissive women are doormats who will drop to their knees for anyone who calls themself sir or master

). But it is becoming easier to spot a real Dom from a troll, genuine Doms tend put thought into thier responses/emails/communication, and generally will use more than one line in an email although of course thier are exceptions to this also and I was fooled by one who seemed to be genuine and turned out to be just looking for a fuck (lesson learned though and he was a guy who was 50).

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RE: Younger Doms? - 7/4/2007 4:47:15 PM

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People can be immature at any age. I know a 22 year old who consistantly act more mature than a lot of 40 year olds I know...AND he's Dominant. Many people are in this lifestyle because the kinky sex is a huge draw. Said Dominant very much wants kinky sex to be part of the relationship. And, remember, this is the internet. It's a wanker fest out there.

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RE: Younger Doms? - 7/4/2007 5:01:14 PM

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I am 26 years old. When it comes to a great many things, I have no idea what I want in my life. I am just now about to finish college and get going after putting my life on hold for 4 years. It's very easy for someone to be "uncertain", and still maintain a degree of maturity. It's just as easy to want a "piece of ass" and be mature about it. Maturity comes with age to a degree yes, but some people are just plain stupid, and when you combine that with uncertainty, you get the image of many younger Doms. It's not that they're immature, it's that they are idiots.

Of course, that's just one more angle to the arguement. Most of what has already been said holds true as well. My point is that don't automatically associate someone that doesn't know what they want, with being immature. I have a very dominant personality, and this type of lifestyle is something I want to live. But just how I want to live it, is still quite up in there air. While I'm getting to that point, I just might form relationships that many would consider all about getting that "piece of ass", and until recently (within the last year) , I did. But I also made it very clear that's what I did. So just because I wanted sex, was I immature? No.

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RE: Younger Doms? - 7/4/2007 5:58:22 PM

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i'm not talking about them being immature, but who are mostly only looking for a way to get the woman into bed, and of course it can also be said about Dommes as well. But on the other hand, if the Dom doesn't know or is uncertain, sure i'll take that into consideration as well, a chance for both parties to learn more about and to teach each other. Yet for some reason i would have thought that being 30 yrs of age a guy would have hopefully matured enough, even if they are either starting school again or just finishing up school, to not always want a way into bed. Fair enough Angelslave77, but when you try to find someone somewhat close to your age and they don't seem responsible, again reiterating *SP*, that not all younger Doms are like that. i did not mean to stir up a strong debate over this, but it did get me wondering with most of the younger Doms that i have talked with. And yes i've also talked with older Doms who can be like a kid in a candy store once they get one email from a younger submissive/slave. MasterFireMaam everyone can be immature at some point, even i am at times, yet that's half the fun

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RE: Younger Doms? - 7/5/2007 3:29:30 PM

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I get messages from men of all ages and having thought back about the many men that have contacted me online I would say that their age does not have the slightest relevance to their level of maturity, I have had slaves younger than me message me and be perfectly sensible and I have had older slaves message me and act like utter idiots. You have to keep in mind the fact that generally speaking no matter what age group you are looking for you are going to get more messages from silly people than you are from sensible ones. I think this might result in a person thinking that the grass might be greener on the other side if they are concentrating their efforts on one specific age group though if you take an overall look at things that really is not the case.

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RE: Younger Doms? - 7/5/2007 9:32:46 PM

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I can't believe all the guys aren't saying this. I guess I have to be the advocate of men everywhere. . . . Young woman are the SAME as young guys. Your hormones are just as out of control as mens. After 30+ BOTH woman and men get control of their respective hormones. Woman quit being CRAZY and Men quit being HORNY. . . . well not comepletely but you you get the idea. So don't throw stones at your male peers unless you've got all those mood swings completely under control.

An interesting fact which I believe corralates to this subject. Studies have found that woman are most attractive at 18, but men are most attractive at 35.

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RE: Younger Doms? - 7/5/2007 9:53:08 PM

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but men are most attractive at 35.

I couldn't agree more, but then what the fuck do we do with them when they turn 36?

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RE: Younger Doms? - 7/6/2007 5:50:13 AM

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I would like to clear a few things up for the females. And this of course dont apply to homosexual males. Men chase tail as its put, men think about sex, men like sex, some men like sex so much they spend all their free time trying to fill it with sex. It dont matter if your 15 or 50. As men get older other things get in the way of chasing tail, mainly bills, work, the few friends you still have left, etc. but in reality, men still want the tail, if they did not they would not be interested in you.

This will never change, this is how males are hardwired. Just like males are hardwired on physical appearance. Any male that claims otherwise either is completely lying out his ass to try to impress you or he severely need a psychological evaluation, is in a vegative state, or a coma.

Wow, you know nothing about gay men, do you?

And secondly, this may be your opinion and it's a great cop-out, the whole "men are neanderthals and there's nothing you can do to change it" line, but really it's not true and one person can't speak for an entire population. There are many men out there and on this forum especially whom I know would disagree with you. Doesn't mean that sex isn't important to them but it's by far not the only thing or even the primary motivator in many of their lives.

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RE: Younger Doms? - 7/6/2007 5:50:57 AM

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After 30+ BOTH woman and men get control of their respective hormones. Woman quit being CRAZY

We do? I didn't get that memo.

Did anyone else get that memo? I mean really, if we're supposed to stop being crazy and get control of our hormones at some point, the powers that be could make sure we're all on the same page dammit!

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RE: Younger Doms? - 7/6/2007 5:51:33 AM

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but men are most attractive at 35.

I couldn't agree more, but then what the fuck do we do with them when they turn 36?

Dump em.

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RE: Younger Doms? - 7/6/2007 5:56:24 AM

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People can be immature at any age. I know a 22 year old who consistantly act more mature than a lot of 40 year olds I know...AND he's Dominant.
Master Fire

And then there's me, lol. Just goes to show that for every example there's a counterexample.
...23 going on 12, yeah baby!

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RE: Younger Doms? - 7/6/2007 6:06:26 AM

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Something to do with how long it takes for an interest in BDSM to develop, maybe?.

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RE: Younger Doms? - 7/6/2007 6:56:07 AM

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*giggles*
I like lots of sex.. go the youngings I say...
I like lots of intellectual stimulation... go the professors I say....
I like to be adored... go the worshipers I say...
I like to be satisfied... go the auto-erotica I say...

Age makes no difference, I say. Maturity is emotional intelligence, that can come with age and experience, but not always...maybe in the genes or parenting...

I wonder who they conducted the studies on, and where... and if they had any brains along with their libido... that is the thing with studies you never know where they got their information from and legit it is.

Beauty is about composure, intellect, confidence, conduct, sensuality, and how well you look after yourself, it can sometimes take age to achieve all that... alot of my males friends, who have known me for 15 years, say I am more beautiful now than then, but in a different way... of course I love the feedback, but I still wont have sex with them ;)

"Woman quit being CRAZY" Maybe . Maybe hormones, doubt it, they get worse. Maybe we work something very important out... but I am not revealing any secrets...

"It's like there's a competition on how many girls each guy can fuck and who ever wins gets what? "
Slightly different but, in my local bar there is the Fuck Fund, the deal is they make a bank account on a girl, who ever gets her in bed first wins all... how do I know about it? Because I have been hanging there for 12 years and no one has got me ;) so they told me about it. I have been demanding my Fufund for myself I deserve it. They said they will wait. I think I am going to cut a deal.

"This will never change, this is how males are hardwired. Just like males are hardwired on physical appearance. Any male that claims otherwise either is completely lying out his ass to try to impress you or he severely need a psychological evaluation, is in a (vege-ta-tive, btw ;)) state, or a coma."
I would beg to differ, my ex was almost nearly as excited about sex as he was to his first passions, calculus, imaginary numbers and 0 & 1's. Luckily he was mostly online and I could send him pics of myself and have him excited by the time I came to his room, of course I would have equations written all over my body to get his attention, kidding ;) oh well no complaining when the only things you have to compete with is a computer, formulas and the slave driving CEO. oh and he was 22...
Why do I always fall for geeks? hhhmmm maybe I am boring... Bad guys? nah give me steamy spectacles, I love a guy smarter than me, and more mature ;) This kind of guy need not do to much to have me submit... I am jelly on my knees...
*giggles*

Anyway I will just keep talking to myself...blah blah auto blah!

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RE: Younger Doms? - 7/6/2007 11:13:07 AM

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eyes, You mean you didn't get in the line for the Act Your Age book? How on earth are you getting by?!?!?!? And darn if it ain't out of print now.

To the OP, there are immature men in the age group you specified, and there are mature ones. Just like there are both in any age group you choose to pick. My question to you is how good is your judgement at your age to pick the kind of guy that is going to be more mature? Not saying you choose badly, just wondering how you perceive your ability to make good choices.

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