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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/15/2007 7:46:27 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Petronius

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ORIGINAL: Aileen68 (RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/14/2007 8:38:31 PM , p. 10

Maybe Petronius is your stalker.

Aileen68's suggestion or supposition isn't defamation but is certainly a scurrilous form of behavior.


So, You're new here, huh?


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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/15/2007 7:48:39 AM   
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Petronius, could you in 20 words or less, explain exactly what point you are trying to make here?  You have filled pages and pages of words that (imo) make very little sense.  Perhaps you could pare it down and be a bit more concise.

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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/15/2007 7:50:07 AM   
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Lockit,
I don't know if you took offense at my post or not so I will reiterate, I in no way meant to embarass or offend you. This thread has reached ridiculous proportions at this point and is a prime example of the reasons I made my post. What is occurring here is not the "usual" course of action that someone with a cyber stalker generally chooses. You said that your stalker knows everything and you have nothing to hide. I would suggest that making yourself open and available may not be the best course of action where a stalker is concerned. I think that you are sending out those "unwitting" messages that I spoke of and your continued interactions here with Petronius evidence that. If you don't want to be prey for the cat than stop presenting yourself as the perfect mouse.



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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/15/2007 8:01:53 AM   
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Petronius, I'm going to be a bit frank here. Why are you pursuing this with such nasty digs? IMO you have gone way way over the line.
Any point you may have had has been long lost. Honestly, I wish you would simply stop posting to this thread.
You seem to refuse to read other posts or if you do read them you conviently skip entire sections.
Done. Jeeeeeeeez.

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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/15/2007 8:21:58 AM   
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Hey, erin!  i have to disagree with you.  Lockit's behaviour is not unusual.  i acted in very much the same way.  i needed to warn others (at least in my mind), i too opened myself up.  The reaction here is pretty much the same reaction i got... some wanted to help... some wanted to tell me to stop posting and get offline altogether...some called me a liar. 

(This is not directed at you erin).  Many people throw out the word 'victim' as if being one and acting as one is somehow wrong.  i will not speak for Lockit, so what i post here is based on my own experience.  At the height of my being hacked and stalked i acted like i was a victim... because i was  a victim.  My behaviour was not inappropriate, i was reacting to a very bad situation.  No i did not go offline... i flat out refused to give him that satisfaction.  What did happen for me was i got to a point where it just did not matter any more.  i did not and do not care if he still sees everything i do online or if he is a member of this site.

Lockit will get through this and i hope she knows she can talk to me on the other side.

< Message edited by angelic -- 7/15/2007 8:23:40 AM >


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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/15/2007 8:39:39 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen68

My post was said tongue in cheek.  If you've been around the forums enough you'd have known that was my style of writing.


Aileen - I believe you were just subjected to an  ad hominem attack (damn where is Lewcifer in all this?)
You aren't suggesting that Petronius would read AND try to understand your writing style as well?
That can't happen, he needs hand holding and step-by-step instruction to understand anything.
 
All joking and playful ribbing aside, in his posts thusfar I have seen him single out at least one other female dominant on these board myself and gave him the benefit of the doubt for that too, but was then informed otherwise. And with his reponses based mostly on the female members and halves of those that have responded and his ignoring many of the male counterparts, I am beginning to see a pattern to Petronius' musings.
 
Peace
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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/15/2007 8:40:52 AM   
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angelic, I respect your opinion but I still disagree. This IS unusual. "Unusual" meaning not the common course. If I took a hundred victims of stalkers and gave them two options, one being to make themselves as unavailable to the stalker as possible, the other being to parade naked in front of the stalker professing they have nothing to hide...."most" would choose option one. That would make the "minority" of them who chose option two "unusual".

While I can understand the need to warn others, that is something that is "usually" secondary to keeping oneself safe. The post was made....the warning was given. The continued bantering back and forth with Petronius is serving no purpose whatsoever. It is obvious that it has become a game of cat and mouse and a cat can not play that game if there is no mouse to play it with.

< Message edited by mistoferin -- 7/15/2007 9:20:02 AM >


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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/15/2007 9:42:20 AM   
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ORIGINAL: camille65 (RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/15/2007 8:01:53 AM . p. 13)

Petronius, I'm going to be a bit frank here. Why are you pursuing this with such nasty digs? IMO you have gone way way over the line.
Any point you may have had has been long lost. Honestly, I wish you would simply stop posting to this thread.





That's a fair question, even if I disagree with the premises.

Sometimes people do go "over the line" as camille65 stated, particularly on the Internet. It isn't always easy for them to realize that.

So if I've done things that really put me that way I'd welcome camille65 pointing out the specifics of my objectionable behavior.

I seem to recall having somebody inject the notion that I'm a criminal stalker. Some might consider that "over the line" but I didn't make the complaint.

Another person wrote an elaborate fantasy of almost classical paranoid proportions about how my behavior, my profile, my self-description, and damn near everything I've done throughout my time on c.m. is evidence of my stalker psychology.

Others have presented simple gratuitous insults that I haven't yet had time to fully record.

Another person, seeing some people discuss matters in a style different from throwing bumper stickers at each other, saw things in terms of "shit" (a not uncommon perception in today's culture.)

Some may consider these things "over the line;" I tried to refer to several of them as "irrelevant" (largely because I did not want to check the spelling of "non sequitur" and other Latinisms.)

I don't particularly want to make a big thing of the insults because they are very much a part of the style of argument of Lockit and her supporters. If they are ofttimes irrelevant and insulting they are nonetheless how the people argue. For me to object would be to tell them, in essence, "don't argue the way you argue; argue the way I want you to argue or the way I tell you you should argue."

I could go on listing things. But let me stop this point and finish with another.

People have claimed I propose or denounce things that are almost the opposite of what I've written.

I'm hardly responsible for their delusions. Nor is "delusion" an "over the line" conclusion for somebody who claims I attack all victims as "paranoid."

But I hope camille65 follows through.

If I've slipped "over the line" I should pull back.

And pointing out tu quoque in my defense would be as fallacious as I've accused others of being.

But do point to my real behavior, and not claims about my behavior that others make.

quote:



You seem to refuse to read other posts or if you do read them you conviently skip entire sections.
Done. Jeeeeeeeez.


I'm unaware of any evidence that I refuse to "read other posts" though that has been claimed by people like Lothlauren and I've commented on it.

Points have been made that I have responded to. It is somewhat difficult to deal with this since the same supporters of Lockit can slag me for not writing enough and for writing too much.

Some points made were, I thought, irrelevant. Others contained logical fallacies. Others posed issues I had long since written on. Still others may have been simple insults I have no obligation to waste time on.

However, there might have been some important points that got lost. If cammile65 will point out what she thinks they are I will review matters and might address them.

Camille65 is, at least partly, correct when she mentioned that my original points have gotten lost. That often happens, particularly on the Internet, when adult discourse gives way to insults, jokes, and one-liners.

But since I thought my points important then I think them important now.

In essence, they were:

1) Generic messenger software doesn't have the holes in it Lockit claimed that let's anybody "into your computer."

2) Corporate security, the Colorado legal system, and the FBI do not have the lackadaisical attitude toward security that Lockit claimed;

3) Contrary to Lockit's suggestions, modern security software prevents or disproves the notion that "anything can be traced."

I thought that the discussion would go differently.

I wouldn't have believed that at this date nobody has tried to document the hole Lockit claimed in messenger software. People have done things like point out a bug in Windows XP or some claim of an unexploited problem with Yahoo i.m. But nobody has tried, as far as I can tell, to actually produce evidence to support Lockit's contentions.

I also thought that Lockit's second point would have been considered generic paranoia. It wasn't, to my surprise. But I don't recall anybody presenting evidence that the FBI's claims taking security seriously were the FBI "blowing it out its ass" or any similar thing.

Finally, I thought that any computer-savy person would challenge Lockit's third contention. They didn't. When I mentioned technology like public key encryption and chains of anonymous remailers that were denied, I thought people who disagreed with me would try to show how you can still track messages. Instead they prefer name calling.


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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/15/2007 10:06:52 AM   
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i just did the evelyn wood sped reddin course read of your latest post, cuz after the first paragraph, i realized it was gonna be more of the same.....typing grand thoughts and big words, filling all that space, and still not saying one thing....

that said, i bet its fun living inside your head huh? never a dull moment......

there is a saying....ignorance is bliss....i cant decide if it applies to you or not though......but still, it would be interesting to have an rss feed into your thought process.....

as for the op. i have read this thread, and whether i would choose to handle this in the way you did doesnt matter one bit.....i like to think we do the best we can on any given day, with what we have.....and i hope the nightmare is over for you soon.

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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/15/2007 10:24:05 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: angelic (RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/15/2007 7:48:39 AM . p. 13)

Petronius, could you in 20 words or less, explain exactly what point you are trying to make here?  You have filled pages and pages of words that (imo) make very little sense.  Perhaps you could pare it down and be a bit more concise.



I've already written short capsule lists of my points and many longer explantions.

If somebody can't understand either set I don't think I can figure out a new way to communicate with them.

However, you may find things more comprehensible if you go back and read Lockit's original claims of her victimization via technology she used to start this thread.

In addition, I presented most of my points in my first post "RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/12/2007 7:24:49 PM" on page 3. It was only five sentences long.

One aspect of my views was labeled "RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/13/2007 5:43:34 AM" on page 4.

I made an even longer post to early challenges in " RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/13/2007 3:34:47 PM" on page 5.

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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/15/2007 10:29:18 AM   
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I'm Too Sexist (song parody based on Right Said Fred's 'I'm Too Sexy')

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=ipZDG6__Zfc

dedicated to Petronius

I'm too sexist for you love, too sexist for you love
Love's going to leave me

I'm too sexist for my shirt, too sexist for my shirt
So sexist it hurts
And I'm too sexist for Milan, too sexist for Milan
New York and Japan

And I'm too sexist for your party
Too sexist for your party
No way I'm disco dancing

I'm a moron, you know what I mean
And I like to post my bullshit on this forum
On this forum, on this forum yeah
I love to post my bullshit on these forum
Wow!

I'm too sexist for my car too sexist for my car
Too sexist by far
And I'm too sexist for my hat
Too sexist for my hat, what do you think about that

I'm a moron, you know what I mean
And I like to post my bullshit on this forum
On this forum, on this forum yeah
I love to post my bullshit on these forum
Wow!

I'm too sexist for my, too sexyist for my, too sexist for my

I'm a moron, you know what I mean
And I like to post my bullshit on this forum
On this forums, on this forums yeah
I love to post my bullshit on these forum
Wow!

I'm too sexist for my cat, too sexist for my cat
Poor pussy, poor pussy cat
I'm too sexist for you love, too sexist for you love
Love's going to leave me

And I'm too sexist for this song

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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/15/2007 10:31:04 AM   
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erin, i hope you know i respect your opinion as well.  i do understand what you are saying and would absolutely agree that the majority of stalkees would not want to parade themselves.  If it is a face to face sort of stalking (i hate to use the word r/l here)... but let's say offline, absolutely one would be unusual if they went to their stalkers home and just paraded outside waiting for them to 'come get me'.  This however is something that is happening to Lockit o/l and although just as illegal, and just as scarey... and just as victimizing... it is not (at least in my opinion) as if she is parading in front of 'his house'.   He's going to do what he does regardless (short of her shutting off her pc and the internet) and then he will just find another victim.  The internet has become like a telephone.... if i am getting threatening phone calls do i completely get rid of the phone?  No, more than likely i change my number.  It is not quite so easy on the internet. 

Geez i hope this made some sense. 

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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/15/2007 10:32:09 AM   
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well, two of the most common attacks I get when I go into yahoo are the LSASS exploit and Oscar bot.  They are also the two biggest hits I get on this site.

You can google or not.

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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/15/2007 10:44:01 AM   
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Keep a log of everything he's done, no matter how insignificant it may seem, keep good records.

I would advise against allowing this 'tard to control your life by allowing him to alter your lifestyle...

While I'm not so sure about your claims that simply using messenger services can give others the ability to "get into your computer".. making sure your private information (such as you real name and address) private, would be advised. Electronic Stalking may be difficult to prove, but it's still a crime.


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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/15/2007 11:14:49 AM   
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If everywhere I go in the real world I see the same man popping up and waving a butcher knife at me, I might indeed be "terrified". If every time I walked out my door I see the same man standing in the bushes, I might be "terrified". If everytime I look in my rearview mirror and see the same car following me I might be "terrified". I don't however, understand the concept of being a "terrified victim" in an online world. If something on my computer was terrifying me I would make the decision to NOT sit in front of the box and turn it on. If the computer was something that was so important to me that I could not function in life without it, I would get a new one, secure it with every precaution I could, create a new online identity that did not include personal information and pictures of me, stay away from the places that I suspected the stalker of being able to penetrate and maintain contact with my friends in the real world. No one who I communicate via the computer who is not important enough to me to have taken it the step farther and get their phone number, is important enough for me to subject myself to continued "terrifying victimization". I would simply stop volunteering to be their victim. As I said, the game of cat and mouse needs both a cat and a mouse to be played effectively. If I choose to be a mouse then I am choosing to take the risk of being maimed or eaten by the cat. If I am then subsequently maimed or eaten by the cat, I have no one to blame but myself and forfeit the right to run around bitching about the mean and cruel cat.

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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/15/2007 11:19:55 AM   
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Not too sure that I heard it correctly, but did someone just say,

"Empty vessels make the most noise?"

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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/15/2007 11:20:09 AM   
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Glancing through this thread briefly, lets me know it is time to go do
other things today.
Enjoy the day folks.

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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/15/2007 11:20:22 AM   
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Hey Erin
 
I am kinda 50-50 here.  I don't believe or think from the OPs other postings that she sees herself as a victim, nor that the OP is trying to gain attention (I am not sure if that was what you infered, so please let me know that I am wrong ifso) - I am also think that the bantering between the OP and the (obvious) other poster is in a way understandable... it is easy to say 'ignore the obvious provoker' than to actually do it.  We are all 'guilty' of doing such at some point in our lives... but there is a provoker, one who is showing misogynistic behaviour and has done before in past threads, attacking longterm posters who happen to be dominant women, or basically - just women - so in a sense, you can see that a person could feel there is a justification for not allow him to powertrip like that.
 
 
My other '50%' agrees with you erin, that the OP is giving out way too much information and this does attract stalking behaviour and falling for the classic bait and hook that stalkers or those with a personal agenda do dangle and I would really stress to the OP to please see that Erin does have a point that the info that is being given could cause the OP more problems - no matter how 'open' about things a person can be.
 
 
Peace and Love Erin
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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/15/2007 11:24:16 AM   
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If this is not a clear cry for attention, I don't know what is.
As has been stated, if you read any of her other posts on here, all she usually
talks about, is being a victim.
She clearly needs some serious help. 
I think the people that keep responding to her posts are more of a victim, than she is.
Have a great day, victims and victim lovers, and those that will continue to this thread
going another 13 pages. 

I agree with those that state, that if I were in this situation, I would hardly be on here with my picture,
and giving out so much of my very personal information for hours.
But then, that is me.

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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/15/2007 11:28:50 AM   
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Actually, angelic, it is almost that easy.  Most of us don't have a static IP addy.  We use one ISP or another and "draw" our IP addy from a pool, so we don't have the same one all the time.  I've never heard of anyone getting anything from chat, but I guess it could be done.  This guy really has to know what he is doing, tho and I doubt if he does.

I'd do what erin suggests.  Change my profile, leave off all the personal stuff and be very wary of giving it out again. 

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