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Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/12/2007 3:12:56 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		Hello Everyone,

I may have to go into hiding again, but before I go if I must, I wanted to try to warn others.

If you use a messenger service for communications with people you meet online… if they have the wherewithal, they can use that to get into your computer.  Hotmail and yahoo are very unlikely to investigate and there is little that you can do to protect yourself.

I have talked to police, the FBI and anyone I could think of to stop this freakoid and protect myself and there isn’t anything anyone can or will do to help me.  They say anything can be traced… well no one can be found if no one will do the trace.  I know where to find him, but no one will do anything.  I even have his name and all sorts of things.

This man claimed to be of the lifestyle.  In fact that is how I learned of the lifestyle.  He got all the information that is easily gotten online and knew everything about me.  Home address… everything.  He ruined three computers and four computers of men who I was in communication with.  Looking at it all, it seems the only connection in it all is a messenger service.  I have tried different online carriers and computers, changing all accounts and never going back to people-places-or email, virus protections, using another computer to hide the one I am using, switching from one computer to the next, never showing a picture or true information, moving out of state twice and on and on…

He seems not to get into a site like this or my online carrier email because they might do more than hotmail or yahoo.  I see no signs of him here, but anyone who has contacted me or has communicated with me, might be in trouble. I am very sorry.  I thought I had lost him and all was fine.  I wanted my life back and decided I wasn’t hiding anymore because I thought he was gone and maybe had found another to prey upon or keep him busy and he had gotten over the fact that I wasn’t going to be his slave.  It seems nothing works and I once again have to leave a place and people I wish to still have in my life.

Please be careful out there… use messenger only with those you have known a long time and trust… or they can get you.  I had been online for ten years and even had my address posted on health support sites and never once had a problem… then I met this guy.  He has kept me from being able to help my adult son and others, he has ran people out of my life, isolated me and stressed me to no end… besides costing me a lot of money.  His threats of a year chained, to kidnap and rape by multiple men all were not taken seriously by the FBI because it had been months since he had verbally threatened me and it was considered not current.  This man knows what he can get away with and does.

Just be careful… 

I may be around until this computer is dead… but I may have to hide.  I don't want to be a risk to others.  I don’t know… but I wanted to say… it’s been fun… I have learned a lot from you all and I will miss many of you!  Thank you… and I am sorry.

Lockit
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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/12/2007 3:20:25 PM   
feelingrisky


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Status: offline 		In the future you might want to get a router with a firewall built in.  Or, barring that, get a copy of Zonelabs, Zone alarm which is a proxy server firewall.  You IP address will be masked, limiting people's ability to trace you.  Never give people your primary messenger ID.  I keep a back up ID for get to know people chats.  Never click on links they may send you for CAMs, or websites.  Never give someone your phone number unless you are ok with day or night calls.  Get a throw away cell for first contact.

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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/12/2007 3:24:22 PM   
ready4srvce4all


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Status: offline 		I didn't even know people could do those sort of things.  Thank you for sharing OP, and I sincerely hope we don't see the last of you.

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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/12/2007 3:26:18 PM   
completenz


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Status: offline 		hi hon
nothing of substance to add just, be safe and try not to let him win by freaking out too much. i always enjoy your postings and look forward reading more of them
big supportive hug xx
chrissie

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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/12/2007 3:31:42 PM   
Mystique567


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Status: offline 		Sorry your going through that.

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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/12/2007 3:43:57 PM   
cyberdude611


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ready4srvce4all

I didn't even know people could do those sort of things.  Thank you for sharing OP, and I sincerely hope we don't see the last of you.


It is a hacker. They do exist.

Yes it is illegal but the process of identifying someone on the internet is complex and time consuming. You would almost need to hire a lawyer and pay for the investigation yourself.

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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/12/2007 3:59:17 PM   
michaelOfGeorgia


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Status: offline 		i've changed quite a few things after my visit to AZ after the "Mistress" i went to visit for 2 weeks became a freazazoid and overly demanding when no agreement was in place. i feel for You on that and hope things will work out.


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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/12/2007 4:22:31 PM   
DragonXPhoenix


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Status: offline 		Sorry that has happened to you.  I completely understand how you feel.  I also had/have an internet stalker.  Without going into much detail.  IT SUCKS!...and it can happen to anyone.

Good Luck!

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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/12/2007 4:28:11 PM   
popeye1250


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Status: offline 		Sounds like he'd be easy to get.
There's all kinds of things you can do to him!!!
"Officer, I saw a guy in a white car plate number 000-000 in front of the elementary school with his pants around his ankles."
So he likes to play huh?

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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/12/2007 4:40:10 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		Thank you feelingrisky,

I have done all that.  What people don't know is that when you get an unlisted number, it is listed in other aveunes.  You must pay for a special listing that will make it so you are not listed anywhere, not just in the phone book or online.  Also, windows xp has a locator section added to their software.  I would suggest no one adding that to their computer.  I am not sure, but it looks like this guy was using mine to locate me and this program can find the tower whatever nearest you or even give a picture of where you live somehow... getting that from reading about the program.  I wish I was an expert and could say for sure... but this is how it seems to me.  I deleted that as soon as I could when I saw that someone on my computer was using the program.  I had no idea it was even there.  When installing windows... go custom and don't put that part on.

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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/12/2007 4:41:56 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		Thank you everyone else... and popeye... lol... don't think I haven't thought of it! lol

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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/12/2007 4:57:58 PM   
Politesub53


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Status: offline 		Ma`am i would think that if You were changing computers and providers, and thus guy still managed to find You. Then maybe it was through some info You were moving from PC to PC. The only other answer is that it is someone who knows You well enough for You to tell them any new user names ect. Sad to say we cant always trust those that we do.

i hope this sorts itself out for You.

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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/12/2007 4:59:47 PM   
stella40


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Status: offline 		I'm really sorry that you're going through such an ordeal and hope that this is sorted out as soon as possible so you can be once again at peace. I had something similar, though not quite as serious, happen to me last year and I know just how law enforcement agencies such as the police are reluctant to get involved and how people who can help often turn away or refuse to see the problem, and as you write there is little you can do to protect yourself. But it isn't just that, it's the anger that you are the one who has to take evasive action and also go through the stress and turmoil of moving and rebuilding. It sucks, it really does.

Be sure that if you do go (which I hope doesn't happen and that your situation is resolved quickly in a way which eradicates the threat and brings you peace of mind and relief) be sure that others like me will miss your presence and your postings and no matter what happens you will be in our thoughts and our prayers.

S.

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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/12/2007 5:09:31 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		politesub,

I think he put something in one of my computers in a section I could not reformat.  I was afraid to change that section as I didn't know anything about partitions and such.  I no longer use that computer and I talk to very few because of this creep... and anyone I talk to would rather kick his tail end than to tell him anything about me.  I really thought I lost him.  But I think he followed someone known to me through messenger to another new account.  I was careless and wanted my friends.  I am very isolated with my adult son now and I needed my friends.  Stupid of me... I just thought he had finally seen that I couldn't now be a slave to him or anyone if I had wanted to and had gone away because I was now caring for my son.  Stupid.. just stupid...

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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/12/2007 5:11:39 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		Thank you Stella...

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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/12/2007 5:24:12 PM   
MissyRane


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Status: offline 		When you reformat a pc everything goes & every single file. The person probably sent you some file that made a file which melted into your system but it should've gone when you reformatted. Did you delete your c drive instead of just repair it when you reformatted, then it should've gone?
He must have a file in your computer to access it. He can't get into your computer by only an IP address, he can only use your internet access. If you've a dialup it's more difficult for im to trace you than when you use DSL or cable.
If you didn't delete your drives in the reformatting but only repaired them that could be the reason for the trojan is still be there.
If the reformatting didn't work try reformatting with a fresh copy of winXP, not your own.
Also take a note of which processes are running in your task manager it can often be a clue.

So I'm out of advices for now good luck.


and um...when you reformat there's no section you leave out

< Message edited by MissyRane -- 7/12/2007 5:25:29 PM >

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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/12/2007 5:31:20 PM   
Marc2b


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Status: offline 		The technical computer stuff is out of my league so I'll leave that to others.  Just wanted to extend my sympathies and my prayers that everything will work out for you.  No one should have to go through that!

Peace and prosperity to you and yours,
Marc2b


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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/12/2007 5:31:40 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		MissyRane,

Thank you... no I didn't do that.  I had no idea on how to do that and I surely would have been afraid to delete anything like that! lol  This man creates computer systems for medical facilities and businesses.  He can use a hundred systems to go through to hide.  I imagine he can do most anything.  When I was investigating him... he even gave me information that has helped me combat him without him knowing I was investigating him.  I knew of another woman in trouble and so I stuck to the situation a lot longer than I would have.  I was trying to protect her.  I finally just had to get out and hide myself.  I thought because I reformatted and hadn't seen any activity for a long while that it was over.

Thank you for this information. 

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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/12/2007 5:35:06 PM   
popeye1250


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lockit

MissyRane,

Thank you... no I didn't do that.  I had no idea on how to do that and I surely would have been afraid to delete anything like that! lol  This man creates computer systems for medical facilities and businesses.  He can use a hundred systems to go through to hide.  I imagine he can do most anything.  When I was investigating him... he even gave me information that has helped me combat him without him knowing I was investigating him.  I knew of another woman in trouble and so I stuck to the situation a lot longer than I would have.  I was trying to protect her.  I finally just had to get out and hide myself.  I thought because I reformatted and hadn't seen any activity for a long while that it was over.

Thank you for this information. 


Wow! This guy's a fucking IDIOT!
Someone could ruin his whole business with a few well placed rumors!
RING
"John Smith's been stealing all your sensitive information from your data base!"
Click.

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RE: Maybe leaving CM.. A warning - 7/12/2007 5:35:59 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		lol popeye... no comment... lol

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