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RE: face slapping - 8/7/2007 8:26:39 PM

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As a Man who has had female relatives and good female friends that have been in phsyical abusive relationship, it was hard for me to truly understand the dynamic of face slapping. However, I found out its more than humilation. Its a moment of sheer excstacy for one who desires it done.

Two of my recent lovers were woman who truly enjoyed it.. in fact, one that I'm playing with frequently with loves it.. it turns her on. There is something about seeing her flush with more and more passion. As I penetrated her over and over, each slap across her face made her wetness contract with more and more force. I realized how orgasmic it was for her and I continued. I have come to see the joy of slapping a pup slut/pet .... but it has to be unexpected. I knew she liked it but until I got her after a deep sensual kiss.. I didnt realize how much it would help her.

Its not for everyone thats for sure. and if your someone who don't know your own strenght.. its not something you should do. Same thing with Asphixiation. IF you dont have any control over your lust.. then believe me.. its not something that should not be tried.

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RE: face slapping - 8/7/2007 8:39:33 PM

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i don't like face slapping, but it's not something i can tell Him no too. so if He feels i am not paying attention to something He is saying He has and will slap me in the face. usually its with His hand, but last time i don't remember saying something disrespectful but He used something more intense than his hand.

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RE: face slapping - 8/8/2007 7:11:02 AM

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i don't like face slapping, but it's not something i can tell Him no too. so if He feels i am not paying attention to something He is saying He has and will slap me in the face. usually its with His hand, but last time i don't remember saying something disrespectful but He used something more intense than his hand.

If you can't tell him no...can you at least tell him how you feel?

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RE: face slapping - 8/8/2007 3:24:26 PM

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He would be holding my face and looking into my eyes and his hand would go from stroking my face so tenderly and lovingingly to a slap...and I would melt..

Quite an interesting perspective/idea. I am in the beginning stages of a relationship with a girl. While I have never slapped her face, I am told it is something that she enjoys....and I am beginning to see what could be appealing about it.

I have touched her face so very tenderly and she absolutely melts into that. I enjoy the look on her face when she rests quietly against my hand with her eyes closed. I don't think I'd ever slap her while her eyes were closed, I'd prefer my hand on her face when her eyes are closed to remain a place where she feels in absolute peace and safety. I have a feeling blindsiding her with a slap while in that state would jeopardize that head space. I can see myself doing it while her eyes are open or after I have asked her to open them.

Something to explore together further, I suppose.

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RE: face slapping - 8/8/2007 4:37:45 PM

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I kind of wonder if anyone has looked into the associated risks?
Face slapping, particularly repeated or frequent face slapping, would knock the brain around a fair bit.

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RE: face slapping - 8/8/2007 4:50:18 PM

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I kind of wonder if anyone has looked into the associated risks?
Face slapping, particularly repeated or frequent face slapping, would knock the brain around a fair bit.

It could, indeed. It can also result in other problems such as TMJ dysfunction leading to headaches leading to poor dental fit leading to more headaches and TMJ pain. But then...excessive or too intense whipping can result in permanent welts or scars or "leather-skin". Binding the breasts too often or too tightly or too often and too tightly can result in cyst formation. Knife play could result in scarring. Breath play could result in damage to the brain or to the respiratory system or even death. Edge play is just that...edge play. The closer you bring it to the edge, the more the danger increases. While I think it is a good idea that people be aware of the risks and know what they are doing at each stage of the play before they move on to more intense levels, that is my opinion. Some people do this with a total awareness of the risks...even if they do not know the consequences of those risks...and plunge ahead anyway. I wouldn't do it...and maybe you wouldn't...but there are some who will and God bless 'em and keep 'em safe.

My advice...read up on the risks so that you are indeed practicing Risk Aware Consensual Kink.

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RE: face slapping - 8/8/2007 4:51:17 PM

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oh my...how hard are we slapping here? I can't imagine slapping someone so hard that damage like that is done...but that's just me

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RE: face slapping - 8/8/2007 5:17:35 PM

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ORIGINAL: passionateflame

i don't like face slapping, but it's not something i can tell Him no too. so if He feels i am not paying attention to something He is saying He has and will slap me in the face. usually its with His hand, but last time i don't remember saying something disrespectful but He used something more intense than his hand.

I think if I didn't answer or respond to something Master was saying he would know its because I just didn't hear him for some reason and he would repeat, perhaps a little more loudly or by calling my name first to make sure I could hear what he was saying...
IMO slapping me just to GET my attention would be an action of someone lacking in patience and self-control...

if I am disobedient> punish me..
but to punish ( if you call whacking you across the face with "something more intense than his hand" as punishment << your call to make not mine) based on an assumption of disobedience >will eventually erode away at the trust of the relationship... (ie. assumed you were ignoring him, when you could have not heard him speaking to you)

I don't think we are talking about the same kind of face-slapping..

and I agree with Imthatache's question>>> if you do not feel you can say "no" ...can you at least tell him your feelings about it?

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RE: face slapping - 8/8/2007 5:57:11 PM

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CreativeDominant,

Thank you for your response. Perhaps the question I should have been raising is one I have thought about in other edgeplay threads, such as the punching thread, which is simply whether most of the people who engage in this have taken the time to research the risks, or if they are just assuming it's harmless because it's more socially accepted...

I know I am not about to run the risk of repeated or forceful slaps myself, on either end.

For that matter, I would think this can be risky for the person doing the slapping at times, as well. Personally, I have not deconditioned the parry-response to an attempted slap, since I've never quite gotten why it's acceptable for a female to "bitchslap" a random male while the other way around is not, and I don't take kindly to blows to the head. A friend of mine nearly broke his girlfriend's lower arm last time she did that. Took quite a bit of time to explain to her why his training to counter blows to the head should react to a slap.

Presumably, there are subs/slaves out there who have similar reflexes.

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RE: face slapping - 8/8/2007 6:01:32 PM

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earthycouple,

I've seen and heard people talk of rather forceful and repeated slapping. If another blow is delivered not too long after the first one, I would imagine one would, at least, run the risk of a lighter version of second impact syndrome (or whatever it's called). While I tend to agree that a light slap should probably not be a cause for concern, the potential long-term risk of a hard blow, or repeated ones, would be something I'd worry about without some facts or statistics, myself.

I'm not saying they'll get pugilistic dementia or anything, just that I'm not sure it's healthy in the long run.

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RE: face slapping - 8/8/2007 7:36:10 PM

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For me, it is the quickest way to get me out of subspace. i don't know why that is, but it never freaking fails. It would be awesome if someone could help me get over that...

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RE: face slapping - 8/9/2007 9:11:07 AM

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It puts me completely in the "mode." I am totally present within myself and His energy when He slaps my face. He always places his hand upon my face before slapping so i know what's coming and can set my jaw for it - for safety's sake. But i think it would be fun to be caught off-guard, as well.

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RE: face slapping - 8/9/2007 12:53:23 PM

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I can't answer this for everyone I can only answer this from a bottom's perspective and from the conversations I've had with the Lady in Charge (I'm into it for the same reasons as far as I can tell). And that's that She does the faceplay...not just faceslapping but faceplay, because it's personal. It's intense and it's initmate. And not very many people get into it because of that. There's no where to go when someone's in your face. And having control over that or a lack of control (depending on who you are) is... well...bliss.

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RE: face slapping - 8/9/2007 12:55:50 PM

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oh my...how hard are we slapping here? I can't imagine slapping someone so hard that damage like that is done...but that's just me

I'm tiny I got a small face too...so She has to be careful where She's slapping but as far as I'm concerned I like it lots...the hadrer the better...then again She's smacks me pretty damned hard...heavy handed woman that She is

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RE: face slapping - 8/9/2007 9:14:09 PM

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I had it done once by a play partner not Master before i met Master. I did not expect it at all and it shocked me. I looked at him and said if you ever do that again that is the last time we will see each other. It made me realize it is something i really don;t like actually i hate it. From reading the other posts i guess i am alone in this thought.

Matt's littleone

You are not alone, I cannot tolerate face slapping myself. I feel that it is usually a knee-jerk reaction by someone who should be in better control of himself, sometimes an action peformed in an instantaneous moment of anger. Even in scene I don't find it appealing at all. Face slapping to me is way too personal and borders on abuse, and if it happens I tend to hit back (doesn't go over well).

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RE: face slapping - 8/10/2007 1:32:41 AM

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for me the appeal is both humiliation and physical

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RE: face slapping - 8/10/2007 1:55:12 AM

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Interesting discussion. Face slapping is something that I enjoy giving, as does my submissive receiving. Something that she has brought up recently though, is the different contexts it is used in, and the results they have. For example, she enjoys being slapped as part of rough sex, with a humiliation component to it, and tends to get very aroused from that. I also find that slapping her face during times of punishment (always fully controlled) gets her complete and total attention, and is an effective form of communication of how displeased I am with whatever she has done. The last time this happened however, she responded that I was going to "ruin face-slapping during sex" if I continued to use it during times of her punishment. We have toys that are set aside for punishment only, so I can see where she is coming from here. I am now in the process of deciding which is more important to me, the eroticism of slapping during sex, or the physical/humiliation of a facial slap for punishment.

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RE: face slapping - 8/10/2007 2:49:12 AM

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It's interesting for me. As a dom I get a lot of pleasure from face-slapping. I'm not sure I have enough experience to quantify exactly what the nature of this pleasure is, I just know I love it. I don't use the back of my hand, rather only the palm. I have a new slave with whom I haven't explored this area yet, and in our conversations, she has described the practice as "just mean", but she might be trained to enjoy it; she seems very receptive to training in general.

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RE: face slapping - 8/11/2007 10:27:33 AM

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speaking from experience .. it was the shock of it.. for some reason it pisses me off... which steels me for the next blow.. as often I find no matter how hard i try i cannot stop from saying something like.. "oh don't forget the otherside, it feels left out" bad bad girl.. i never mean to.

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RE: face slapping - 8/11/2007 10:29:23 AM

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my defense reflexes would pop in and then there would be trouble

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