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RE: Stood up on first meeting - 9/2/2007 5:37:55 PM

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No, there is another wonderful part, i don't have the number asked him to give it to me in case I got lost (which I did) and no number!!!!!! But this idiot stood there for 4 hrs!!! Honestly believing he would come.

Do not be two hard on yourself.. your heart was in the right place. He is the idiot.... I had the same thing happen to me but it was a 8 hr drive. I stayed overnight had a good dinner and never looked back it is part of the risk we take trying to find that one person who fits. Personally I have to ask why after 7 months did you not have a phone number for him..

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RE: Stood up on first meeting - 9/2/2007 5:43:36 PM

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I did have a phone number for him, we had spoken several times, I lost my old cell phone and sice then he restricted it! I am not being hard on me, I am learning that the first person i have trusted in 39 years fully has screwed up, and he has a lot of working on this, not me! I have given my all and then some!

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RE: Stood up on first meeting - 9/2/2007 5:45:09 PM

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How was the movie?

LOL! "Other than that, Mrs. Lincoln. How was the play?" LOL!!!!! I may piss myself!

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RE: Stood up on first meeting - 9/2/2007 5:45:44 PM

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Sorry. mmb1, I didn't mean next time with him...I meant next time you are going to meet someone...anyone.

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RE: Stood up on first meeting - 9/2/2007 5:48:29 PM

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bandit------there won't be a next time!

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RE: Stood up on first meeting - 9/2/2007 5:51:11 PM

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And can someone explain why a Dom would get frightened off?? It makes no sense to me, i was right there.

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RE: Stood up on first meeting - 9/2/2007 5:53:47 PM

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And can someone explain why a Dom would get frightened off?

Because he's married, or in another relationship, or scared of submissives, or scared of actually doing something for real or just playing an on-line game. There are any number of reasons for why people flake.

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RE: Stood up on first meeting - 9/2/2007 5:56:36 PM

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If there isn't a next time(with anyone) he wins. You have given him all the power! We have all run into his type.. Calling ones self a Master does make it so! He gave you a gift ,he opened your eyes,and made you a bit stronger. BLOCK the jerk and move on..

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RE: Stood up on first meeting - 9/2/2007 5:57:23 PM

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I thought for a while that maybe he saw me and then didn't get out of the car etc....why i don't know......I know he is not married, I know he does all good for me, but I don't understand why he would just leave me there after this was planned for so long. I mean I am not beautiful, but attractive, i really do not get why he backed out.

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RE: Stood up on first meeting - 9/2/2007 5:58:45 PM

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I just feel that the person who has trained me all this time and who i have submitted to, and all the things we had in common such as R/T etc, were just thrown right out the window!

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RE: Stood up on first meeting - 9/2/2007 5:59:40 PM

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Mean people suck.

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RE: Stood up on first meeting - 9/2/2007 6:01:22 PM

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bandit------there won't be a next time!

mmb1 don't let one game player cause you to give up on who you are. Are you saying a next time with him? (I agree with that) or are you saying no next time with anyone... I hope this is not th case.

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RE: Stood up on first meeting - 9/2/2007 6:04:45 PM

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At least you had the courage to go. I'm to chicken to actually take a chance in the first place. I hope once the initial fury wears off, that you don't allow your bad experience to keep you from meeting someone else. Big words coming from this big chicken, I know.

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RE: Stood up on first meeting - 9/2/2007 6:05:00 PM

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They were. He threw them out the window becaue what he could manage online was not somehting he could do RT, and he chickened out. You had faith that he would show, and you were proven wrong.
So, you dust yourself off, you realize that it is HIS loss, and you find someone worth your time.
Unfortunately, people do things like that. Dom or sub, that yellow streak can run down anyones back when it comes to making the online fantasy into a reality. I have met a lot of people. Some I have met once and then they never showed up a second time. Some never made it to the first before flaking out. Others, like my Angel, have worked out incredibly well. Dont give up on everyone just becasue one turned sour. Next time, make sure you have a phone number beforehand. Next time, bring something worth reading so that even if they dont show, you arent bored to death. And of course, next time, set a time limit that you are willing to wait, and let them know that. If they are going ot be late, they should call. I usually say I will be willing to give them an hour of my life, if they cant show in that time, I am going home and going about my business.

Most importantly, though, is that there IS a next time. One bad date shouldnt ruin all your fun.

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RE: Stood up on first meeting - 9/2/2007 6:05:26 PM

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I wondering why you think it was you, that wasn't pleasing to the eye... and not him.? THIS SOUNDS LIKE HIS PROBLEM NOT YOURS. But who wants someone so shallow? If he was there and left, because of looks or size.. BLOCK him twice.. Who would want that type of person in their life for any reason?

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RE: Stood up on first meeting - 9/2/2007 6:05:49 PM

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Mean people suck.

... and nice girls swallow!

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RE: Stood up on first meeting - 9/2/2007 6:09:52 PM

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You're quite right mmb1 - everything was just thrown right out the window. Right into the garbage skip in fact. Slam the window shut, pull the drapes, wash the dirt off your hands, consider the guy an idiot (and yes, I was played for a fool once by a guy who knew all the right things to say to me, and I fell for it, so I know how mad you can get - although if you haven't heard from him, you don't quite know for sure what happened....). Take a few deep breaths and take to heart the advice being given here.

Always make sure you have a phone number, and verify it's his/hers (you know, use it beforehand). The fact that he had not confirmed that you had some way to contact him in the days leading up to this "non-meeting" is a little iffy to me. Meet half way at least if possible and so on. Meet sooner if possible, before you invest so much time. It is a lesson, albeit a hard one. I learned, you will too.
Chin up.

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RE: Stood up on first meeting - 9/2/2007 6:10:58 PM

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I am not giving up on me, I am just not ready to even fathom thinking that i would do this again! I couldn't do it............because some crazy part of me still believes in him, but I know for me the best thing to do is let the situation go. And no, I don't want another. I will read message boards etc, but no, not after this, I will not allow anyone to hurt me like that again. And maybe it happens to many several times, but me, only once, that is what I promised myself. But thanks for the help.

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RE: Stood up on first meeting - 9/2/2007 6:10:58 PM

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And can someone explain why a Dom would get frightened off?? It makes no sense to me, i was right there.

He is married, a lie about who he is and his experience, he never expected you to show up, He showed up saw you and has no balls and is so superficial he left. There are 1000 reasons why he may have done it. He may have also been in an accident who knows. I would say find out why and then if he has a good resion have him come to you this time... Or then you could just say ..... Next

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RE: Stood up on first meeting - 9/2/2007 6:14:22 PM

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Getting stood up sucks, but sometimes it's even worse if they do show up.

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