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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 11:39:53 AM

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I personally fail to see how this thread that is focusing on the difficulty and hopelessness of finding a dominant because of body types and then proceeding to suggest that people take alternative routes such as switching or being a Dom, giving up on finding what they want in a person and settling for something less is "positive" or "brightening the day" of people.

I first created a thread in Ask a Master after reading the wonderful responses in the Ask a Mistress thread. Was it my fault it didn't generate positive responses from as many different people as the other one did? This thread was about pointing out the differences in the two and a possible way that some may be able to work around it if they so choose. How is that settling for less? As for me, I don't currently have a partner because I refuse to settle for some Dom that expects the first meeting to be in a hotel room. Regardless of what many on here think of me, I know I'm better than that.

No.

But you didn't have to make a thread about some double-standard that may or may not exist and about how women can settle for something less.

A positive thread would have been "Hey, I noticed the turnout in my thread about bigger, older subs wasn't as great as the one for bigger, older males. Let's hear from some bigger, older subs and their partners."

Athough I still don't think you count as older.

Edited to add: You didn't exactly wait very long did you? You posted that thread Monday night and when did you post this one? Dear God woman, give the people some time. Not everyone is as addicted to the forums as I am and even I wasn't around this weekend!

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 11:40:09 AM

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 11:41:55 AM

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erin -
Ya know I would do you...

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i wanna video tape it...please sign these papers...don't worry about what they say...

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 11:43:45 AM

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I honestly don't know how this became so ugly and judgemental of the OP being anything, let alone of 'low self esteem'. The peanut gallery strikes again like a tagteam of the lowest esteem. Makes the whole innocent thread seem so yukky.

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I started a thread in Ask a Master about Doms desiring older bbw subs and there was only 1 response in 4 hours. I was wondering if any bbw subs out there ever considered becoming switches and ordering male subs to dominate them?

1. I think male subs prefer a bigger gal because of the 'wow-mommy factor', a Mistress with meat prolly has nice big juggs and buttocks for a subs comfort and adoration. Like a thrice removed auntie that they used to dream about as a teen. All safe and cuddly and knew what is best for em as they pinched their cheeks.

2. I'm not a big gal, but if so, I wouldn't play switchy for any reason. I know of a bigger gal who used to be sub though (she is 215lbs at 5'6 and too young to be so unfit). She carried on a lot about boys/doms not diggin her and now she is acting more domme (and now bi too) lol. Not sure if is her confusion of youth (she is only 21) or her weight that caused that. So good question, overall.

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 11:44:24 AM

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holy crap dark....you're such a tease....I think I just BLUSHED!

Thinks about mist blushing and grins....then wonders if she would like some Rocky Mtn. oysters to go with that popcorn?

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 11:50:00 AM

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You know what came4u that is an excellent point...I had a friend who was 5'11 and over 200 lbs and when we first met we were both doing the pro Domme thing for fun and profit but definitely both liked being tossed around and submitting in private.

Now though she's a total Domme...I don't know if she decided she liked it, or if she just figured her commanding presence made it easier to attract submissives who totally worshipped her body.

I would never presume to say it's not what she truly wants because only she knows that, but your post did make me wonder if the change was more due to positive reinforcement than anything internal.

Meh. The world may never know

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 11:51:47 AM

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Thinks about mist blushing and grins....then wonders if she would like some Rocky Mtn. oysters to go with that popcorn?

Dang it, I was just in the middle of this really hot and steamy fantasy about me and dark with chellekitty videotaping....and you just had to bring up those Rocky Mountain Oysters????

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 11:52:11 AM

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I wouldn't think switching has to do with weight. My guess is that women may be more conditioned towards the "submissive" role and start as submissive when they enter the lifestyle. The women I know who have "switched teams" have been thin.

*shrug*

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 11:53:05 AM

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Yes, she tried the sub thing for quite a while, yet it didn't work out. She is mentally dominant, yet soft. He true weakness is the food, yet I have seen her fall prey to a$$holes who lie too or a pretty face. I felt sorry for her until she seemed to give up and acted all wish-washy.

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 11:53:06 AM

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ORIGINAL: came4U

I honestly don't know how this became so ugly and judgemental of the OP being anything, let alone of 'low self esteem'. <snip>
(she is 215lbs at 5'6 and too young to be so unfit). She carried on a lot about boys not diggin her and now she is acting more domme. Not sure if is her confusion of youth (she is only 21) or her weight that caused that. So good question, overall.

wow...talk about judgemental...at 9 years old i was 5'4" 200lbs a size 14 and fit enough for me...no i couldn't run a 5 minute mile....but at that point i had started my period i had a 38C bra and my hip bones had no fat on them in my size 14 jeans....they still have very little in my size 24 jeans...just because your standard of fit is severely skewed doesn't mean that she is is unfit nor too young to be so if she is...so...let he without sin be the first to cast stones...

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 11:54:56 AM

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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

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Thinks about mist blushing and grins....then wonders if she would like some Rocky Mtn. oysters to go with that popcorn?

Dang it, I was just in the middle of this really hot and steamy fantasy about me and dark with chellekitty videotaping....and you just had to bring up those Rocky Mountain Oysters????

~wicked grin~ just so long as you remember what I said in my earlier post about how I love women of all shapes and sizes, put me into that fantasy...perhaps sitting in a chair watching and directing chellekitty's camera work?...with the oysters all fried up and hot and breaded as sustenance for after your scene....

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 11:55:24 AM

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yeah well, even she had to balls to admit she is fat. I couldn't care less what she weighs we had fun regardless. She knows she is unfit. Her ass breaks regular chairs..what do you call that? teleasskenises?

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 11:55:57 AM

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Argh bad computer. Double posted.

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 11:59:30 AM

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whew..I thought somehow i had bumped ya..THAT freaked me out xo lol

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 12:00:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: came4U
I honestly don't know how this became so ugly and judgemental of the OP being anything, let alone of 'low self esteem'.

Then I suggest you take a day and sit down and read all of the OP's posts. I would also suggest that you have these things at the ready....trust me, you're going to need them:

One bottle of tranquilizers
One bottle of Jack Daniels (or whatever floats your boat)
One soft pillow for banging your head on
One barf bucket
One loaded handgun (because I would lay odds that you can't make it halfway through before you just want to put yourself out of your misery)
and
The phone number for a qualified therapist(because if you do make it through it you are going to need help with that PTSD)

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 12:00:09 PM

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I was wondering about that!

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 12:03:03 PM

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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant
~wicked grin~ just so long as you remember what I said in my earlier post about how I love women of all shapes and sizes, put me into that fantasy...perhaps sitting in a chair watching and directing chellekitty's camera work?...with the oysters all fried up and hot and breaded as sustenance for after your scene....

You're SUCH a sadist!

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 12:04:19 PM

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Why can't people answer a point, simple. I don't know her, nor am I going to go back to do research on her. Attempting to sway me in that direction is a childish attempt to join some sort of group-character-assasination. I have seen some weak pathetic postings of others that made comments. They are only weak comments if you aren't part of a crowd? If you are in that crowd..they are just cute? funny? or for their eyes only?

Only low-esteemers huddle together like smokers blocking the wind. Seriously, not gonna look, nope nope. Not a game I am willing to play. The subject is switching if you are bbw..not is the OP weak and pathetic as you see it.

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 12:08:57 PM

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It could be childish or could be an attempt to get you to look at the whole picture. If you don't want to, you are certainly free to continue spouting about how childish Erin is, but it might be useful if you actually want to understand how Erin and the others have reached their opinions.

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 12:10:14 PM

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Suit yourself, but then don't sit in judgement of my judgement and say that you don't understand how if you have no interest in knowing how.

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