Phoenix2raven
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raven says:
hermione, i believe that when you hear the same thing more than 3 times in answer to a question - it tends to be accurate! i see many have advised you to seek medical care. Planned Parenthood, women's clinics, and the ER offer free or low-cost/low-payment care. i add my voice to say the same!
i understand very well the fear of doctors and hospitals. especially the gyn, or a dentist. i bring a stuffed animal with me to hold on to, and focus on that. i've found that if i come right out and TELL them i'm anxious, or downright scared, they're quite understanding! when i used to stay quiet, i'd tense up and any sort of exam could hurt, reinforcing my fears. now i'm honest with any medical professional i see about my fears.
as far as i know, very tiny anal fissures happen quite often, even from *blush* how do i say this without sounding goofy ... "big poops."  they bleed profusely it seems, i guess because of the number of blood vessels in the area. they usually clear up in a few days.
as for the shape: the sphincter is a surprisingly strong and resilient set of muscles. do you do Kegels? if not, i reallllllllly recommend them, to every woman!! they affect both the vagina and sphincter. when i had my bean i had a very long labor, afterwards it was difficult to go to the bathroom, but i did my Kegel exercises like crazy and was back to normal in two days. never underestimate the power of the Kegel! *lol*
now, IF 1) you're bleeding more than a few drops upon defecating, 2) you can't defecate without severe pain, or 3) you find that you're in a lot of pain just sitting on your bum ... get immediate medical care! otherwise, get comfortable, take some advil or tylenol, place a little ice pack where you need it. and RELAX. anal pain or bleeding is scary when it's new and unknown, but if you love anal stimulation, tiny fissures may be a small thing you're going to have to deal with the rest of your life - from anal sex with your future Dom, or insertion play, etc.
i also want to talk about something, might not be on topic? there's a fairly common saying in BDSM called "protect the property." it's all about taking responsibility for one's body so as to offer a Dominant/Top/Master a healthy toy. when you're alone, protecting the property is solely your responsibility. it sounds like you have quite a variety of serious health problems, and for that i offer condolences, and i can tell you from the bottom of my heart that the only responsible thing you can do is seek - and fight for - all the health care you need.
when you meet that Dominant someday, he will be asking "do you have health issues that affect play?" and when you say "yes," he'll ask "what are you doing about it?" what will your answer be? how do you think a Dom would feel about someone who won't see a doctor and gets medicines from another country that may be more harmful than helpful? do you think a Dom would want to take responsibility for such a submissive/slave? (Doms, kick in an opinion here perhaps?)
thanks for listening! omg, i got so wordy *ducks and peeks out from under her blankie*
< Message edited by Phoenix2raven -- 10/15/2007 11:28:19 PM >
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