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RE: Did I break my.... - 10/6/2007 4:57:21 AM

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I did realize that that is the medical rec, yes. I go to the dentist 2x a year, and most of the people I know don't bother going that often. I would say most females have penetrated their vagina with a tampon or other object in their liftetime, and that preserving their hymen would be of no concern to them. And I seriously doubt a gynecologist would be able to stand the fact that I do not come in for examinations and they would try to force me into it. And, I think its fairly odd, that I'm criticized by people for that choice, if they know about it, considering the will power it takes, and yet almost every guy I talk to says they want to be the one's to pop a girl's cherry and that it's a huge deal to them, despite that almost no one waits until then to give it the guy anymore.

youre gonna be so pissed when it turns out ya busted your hymen when you fell off that high horse youre on and youre no longer a "virgin"

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RE: Did I break my.... - 10/6/2007 5:05:53 AM

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Madame, thank you so much. I will try to do all you've suggested. I looked at those lists, and the only one anywhere near here, says it's non-profit, and I'm sure it is, but it's actually the most expensive place you can go, I tried to go. I don't know if any of those other places are free either. I've checked a couple so far and one for for stuff like school headlice screenings.. =\ Hospital affiliated clinics tend to be like that, not sure why... I have not been able to get medicaid. It seems to only be gettable for people with severe disabilities, women with small children / pregnant.. I do have an autoimmune disorder, called lupus... I think I might've mentioned that somewhere.. I forget now. Kentucky and Indiana seem to pretty much suck.

Seeks > I did not say a hymen is what made one a virgin. I realize one is a virgin, until one has sexual intercourse. I don't know what high horse you're referring to, but thanks for another bit of helpful advice here. I have not been to this message board much, but I have gone to two medical boards, and a hobby type board for years, and all we do on them is answer questions and give personal experience. Chatrooms have always been more for entertainment purposes, and message boards for questions so people can check back and get answers. I'm not sure why most of you are here. It seems like it's only for entertainment. Why don't you all go to chatrooms if you're not going to be helpful at all, and waste people's time wading through empty text? Thanks!

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RE: Did I break my.... - 10/6/2007 5:07:56 AM

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And on a side note being a Master does not mean you have to be arrogant and rude.

Nor does being a Domme. I will not, however, abide such rabid mistreatment of the emotions of a submissive without warrant or cause.

As to "what has been posted so far" - I've talked to her about it, and yes, she does have an autoimmune disease. If you want to know more, you can message her yourself.

Hermione comes from a vastly differnet background from you, she is evidentily phobic of gyno's and she has had considerable bad experiences with doctors and dentists in the past. I know this, because I took the time to speak to her. I can tell you that her position and the reasons for it are understandable even if it is not the best for her, and I will not condemn her for it.

I can also tell you that mostly she wanted to confirm what she already knew, before she worked up the courage to seek more professional help, with a spark of hope that perhaps she was wrong.

A little compassion and tolerance for those with different lives and beliefs goes a long way. You would want no less for yourself.

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RE: Did I break my.... - 10/6/2007 5:20:18 AM

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Herm....., I just can't resist. IQ of what ? And you don't know your ass from a hole in the ground. Forgive my levity here, and I hope you got a chuckle out of it.

But really, if your ass feels different it is most likely that you have roids. If you have internal hemmoroids that are prolapsed (came out) this could account for a strange feeling or pain actually.

If you got strong muscles you can pull them back in, if not you can push them back in by sitting, say on the edge of a two by four.

I am another one who will not go to the doctor under my own power, they have to drag me in.

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RE: Did I break my.... - 10/6/2007 5:29:38 AM

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I am another one who will not go to the doctor under my own power, they have to drag me in. -- Thanks. Someone does understand. ;) I don't think I actually *said* that, :P, but yeah, I drag my loved ones in and no one ever does the same for me so I don't go. I think its a sign of love that one forces someone to go, lol. But I'd need to be hit over the head with a frying pan first. And I'd probably be grateful after.. especially since I'd have no memory. Unless blood is gushing from my ear or something - then I'd go on my own probably, hehe. Hey, I never said I had a lick of common sense as they say in Kentucky. ;) I can be the aloof professor personality type. I went to class with two different shoes on accident not too long ago. =\ Anyway, all of that is pretty graphic, lol. I really.. don't think I feel anything hanging out?? Oy, I don't know.. It's not easy for me to examine myself there! I tried with a mirror but I couldn't get a glimpse.

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RE: Did I break my.... - 10/6/2007 5:49:32 AM

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I think its a sign of love that one forces someone to go, lol.

Then please, for the love of humanity, show your asshole some love and take it to the doctor.
Why anyone with an IQ of 144 does not see the stupidity in asking a group of strangers for advice on her asshole is more than I will ever understand. I guess it takes a high IQ to get that sort of warped thinking.

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RE: Did I break my.... - 10/6/2007 6:16:36 AM

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Hermione,

You have taken 6 pages worth of good advice and in each case, rejected it. So much of what you have written is so disturbing to me about your mental state, that I really do not see why you are even on this particular site. It is fine to be a virgin and want to seek knowledge about BDSM and your desires, but at the same time, you show little essential knowledge about basics of life.

I personally know people who have fallen from grace and had to go on welfare or public assistance for a time and they had medical issues (mental issues) and they were able to secure those things with no money or insurance and this in NYC, which is really tough.

My advice to you is to keep seeking legitimate medical and mental help; I am not judging you or your beliefs or desires, but simply believe that if you are really concerned about physical and emotional health, collarme is not for you.

We are not doctors and therapists here and asking the question you did in the way you did, is not going to help you if you indeed have a medical problem.

And please stop telling people who offer you advice that they are judging you; they are not; they are just fed up with you not listening to sage advice.

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RE: Did I break my.... - 10/6/2007 6:17:08 AM

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I have read all of the posts and though about your statements.

For my 2 cents worth:

I think you really need to grow up, your claimed excess of intellegence, but seemingly a lack of basic common sense. is interesting.

You remind me of the situation where a person has been hitting themselves in the head with a hammer for hours and asking anyone who will listen, "why does my head hurt?"

However, its your life and you are free to live it as you please.

I just wouldn't involve the rest of the group in your personal problems, especially if you don't like the replies.

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RE: Did I break my.... - 10/6/2007 6:20:40 AM

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I'm one of those as well. Sure my IQ is 146 but that does not remove a really horrific and difficult phobia. I'm freaking terrified of going to a gyno.For the past week or so I thought of starting a thread hoping to find a way to deal with it. It's been over 10 years since I've gone.Dentist? Hey no problem.Regular doctor? I see him once a month.Gyno? I feel slightly nauseated with fear just thinking about it. Please don't mock someone with a real fear of something.

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RE: Did I break my.... - 10/6/2007 8:00:43 AM

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Just my random 2 cents.............I did read that you are awfully afraid of going to the gynecologist because "if something is inserted in your vagina, it will break the hymen"...............There are a thousand and one ways that the hymen may not be intact, up to and including horseback riding, sudden sharp falls, etc, etc............What do you do when you have your period? Do you use tampons? If so, hymen is probably gone.............

Some of what you are describing MIGHT be due to hemmorhoids..........you might just have aggravated a hemmorhoid that you have had for years..............anal play MIGHT do that..........is there any bleeding involved? If there is, then my only advice to you is to go to the doctor. I would MUCH rather know what is wrong than make myself nutso about WHAT IF.

If you aren't going to the doctor, then please refrain from asking the same question over and over. As others have said, NO TWO anuses are the same...................just as no two pair of breasts or eyes, or etc etc are the same................

And, echoing other posts...........what on earth are you doing HERE looking for a Dom if you are that afraid of someone seeing you? Are you looking to be an everything BUT sex submissive/slave?????????

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RE: Did I break my.... - 10/6/2007 8:41:39 AM

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ORIGINAL: SixFootMaster

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And on a side note being a Master does not mean you have to be arrogant and rude.

Nor does being a Domme. I will not, however, abide such rabid mistreatment of the emotions of a submissive without warrant or cause.

As to "what has been posted so far" - I've talked to her about it, and yes, she does have an autoimmune disease. If you want to know more, you can message her yourself.

Hermione comes from a vastly differnet background from you, she is evidentily phobic of gyno's and she has had considerable bad experiences with doctors and dentists in the past. I know this, because I took the time to speak to her. I can tell you that her position and the reasons for it are understandable even if it is not the best for her, and I will not condemn her for it.

I can also tell you that mostly she wanted to confirm what she already knew, before she worked up the courage to seek more professional help, with a spark of hope that perhaps she was wrong.

A little compassion and tolerance for those with different lives and beliefs goes a long way. You would want no less for yourself.

--edited to correct a number of typos, getting late here --

I have no idea who you think you are talking to here with this sentence but let me tell you that what you think of what I have to say is actually of no importance to me whatsoever. As for without warrant or cause, there is plenty of cause. She has been given perfectly good advice but has chosen to ignore it all. NOBODY can diagnose medical conditions effectively over the internet. If she has medical issues and she is worried about them then she needs to seek QUALIFIED help. Are you telling me now that you are qualified because when I asked you before you could not provide any detail of that.

As for coming from a different background from me, how exactly would you know that? I spent a year in hospital due to a medical blunder so if anyone around here should be scared of doctors that would be me. But I am not stupid enough to ignore the fact that when there is something wrong that is worrying enough to ask a bunch of strangers a question then it is time to GO TO A DOCTOR.

Now perhaps you could explain what a fear of a gyno has to do with seeing a doctor about an anal problem. A gynaecologist deals with the reproductive system of a female. Last time I looked that did not include the anus. Going to the doctor with an issue do with the anus does not automatically mean the doctor would look at the vagina. Obviously her fear is not of all doctors so what the hell is the problem apart from being a total drama queen.

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RE: Did I break my.... - 10/6/2007 8:46:26 AM

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There are a thousand and one ways that the hymen may not be intact, up to and including horseback riding, sudden sharp falls, etc, etc............

If she ever rode a bicycle she may not be intact.
But that doesn't solve the broken asshole problem. Just sayin.

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RE: Did I break my.... - 10/6/2007 9:15:40 AM

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You have taken 6 pages worth of good advice and in each case, rejected it. So much of what you have written is so disturbing to me about your mental state,

Sounds a lot like our GA poster. hmmm brother and sister?

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RE: Did I break my.... - 10/6/2007 9:30:00 AM

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OP: Here is advice and help click here

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RE: Did I break my.... - 10/6/2007 11:13:08 AM

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What is the point of these forums if everyone is randomly refusing to answer a straightforward question, out of disrespect for my life choices? You all are mostly sexual creatures it seems, and I would expect most of you could tell me the simple shape and feel of an anus. I've seen diagrams on adam.com etc of the same tears in the third and fourth degrees, which they said requires various types of surgery which may or may not be successful. Just because many people have had babies, etc, without tearing something doens't mean I can't do much less and tear something. I have used the same toy 10,000 times and it never felt like this before. I am in the medical field myself, but the sphincter is not something I have any practical knowledge about. I just talked to my ex-fiance about this, and he admitted to having torn his own years ago and had to go to the doctor about it more than once, and it was not from doing anything crazy. He said you mostly just have to live with it. I was horrified that it was that easy to tear it. I had never heard of anyone doing that in my life until I just asked him about this. I would really like more input from as many other people as I can, as it isn't something I just randomly ask my friends about.

This is as far as I've gotten.

THERE IS NO ADVICE ANYONE HERE IS QUALIFIED TO GIVE ... OTHER THAN SEEING A DOCTOR.

Honestly, girl ...

Look, I used to be just as shy as you. I still dislike going to the ER but if I think I've broken something I'm damn well sucking it up and going in. Doctors go to school for years and years just so they can take care of people who do things like get toys stuck in their bottoms.

As for your hymen ... If you explain to a doctor that your hymen is so god blessed important to you, they won't puncture it. (By the way, you may not even have one ... A lot of times it tears and dissentigrates while you're little. A membrane of flesh does not make you more or less a virgin.)

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RE: Did I break my.... - 10/6/2007 11:16:30 AM

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MissMagnolia, I appreciate the answer, but I have researched on the net as much as I can. It looks like this happens in childbirth, from insertions, and severe constipation sometimes, if you're particularly fragile. I don't know if it HAS actually happened or not, though. Some people have surgery, and it seems to just break again. Apparently the INNER ring is 75% of continence, and if I did break the outter, I could still go to the bathroom fine, in most cases. What do your all's or whoever's anus's feel like, honestly?? Is it oval shaped, and long towards the back, and looser on that side?? Or are they tight and round all the way around? I'm really really upset. I have seen that that is where the muscle usually DOES tear if it does...

OK fine ... I'll answer your question.

My anus is round. No loose bits. No long bits. Not an oval ...

However, I've watched enough porn to know that not everyone's anus is identical.

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RE: Did I break my.... - 10/6/2007 11:20:26 AM

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Did I actually just read that you have PCOS???? How exactly did you get that diagnosed if you can't see a doctor?

Seriously, no joke ... I was diagnosed with PCOS but I had to see a gynecologist first.

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RE: Did I break my.... - 10/6/2007 11:22:35 AM

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**** totally off topic****

How is a pic of a um allowed on a profile when they post *points to the above pic..... curious??

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RE: Did I break my.... - 10/6/2007 11:40:16 AM

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I dont know. I just liked the av ... Its one of the ones CM offers?

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RE: Did I break my.... - 10/6/2007 11:44:10 AM

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Continuing with the off topic thing, it is bizarre that a site with strict regulations regarding not mentioning ums would permit an um's picture for an avatar.

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