variation30
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Joined: 12/1/2007 From: Alabama Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: biracalsub4wmDom hiya! :) alright y'all, I have another question. i am black...well....1/2 black 1/2 white, but they say "if you have 1 drop.... you black." so...i'm black. lol and i prefer a White Dom. i also enjoy racial humilliation. actually, i enjoy it very much. but it seems like a lot of the Doms i talk to are scared of this. my question is why? i'm assuming it is because they don't want to come across as a racist. or maybe they have black family, and it is offensive to them. or maybe they are scared of what others will think if they enjoyed such a thing. i guess all of this could be true. i've been told by white doms that i should work on my self esteem....that i am disrespecting myself by thinking this way. in this lifestyle, you wouldn't tell a woman who loves to be called a slut & a whore that she needs to work on her self esteem. that would be considered HOT...right? so what is the difference? if you are a White Dom, and it is offensive to you, i am curious to find out why. is it a moral issue? is it a social issue? is it a matter of wanting to be seen as politically correct? is it something where you SAY it makes you uncomfortable, but if you were with someone who enjoyed it, you'd give it a try? just trying to pick your brains a bit. :) blessings.... ...wow. I've never thought of this. I have to say that if I were with a black or mixed woman and we were playing hard, I would have no qualms about calling her my little cunt but I would never, EVER think to call her my little nigger. My best friend (person I go to bars with) is black and we talk about racial issues in politics all the time. he knows my opinions and knows I'm not racist and I still hesitate and try to avoid saying that word if I'm quoting, say, an episode of curb your enthusiasm. here's the episode, by the way: http://youtube.com/watch?v=DVqFCXaEN2c if you told me you liked it and I were to use racial humiliation, it would take a while for me to be comfortable doing it. I wouldn't know what would be a hot topic issue and what I'd need to avoid. to be honest, I don't know if I'd ever be able to do it naturally. it's not offensive to me. I, living in alabama, hear stupid things regularly (including racism) and I'm not personally offended, my reaction is more along the lines of "jesus what an idiot." I'm also not a person who particularly cares to be politically correct or cares for the social ramifications of what I say or do.I also don't think being racist is immoral. it's an opinion and I fail to see how opinions can be moral or immoral (I only think actions can be). I suppose saying it in any context that isn't utterly self-deprecatory would make me feel as if I were one of those people that I absolutely hate for their opinions. if I were sure where your boundaries are and I were to use it with you, I would never shake the feeling that I was insulting and humiliating you for something that you have no reason to be insulted for. when I use verbal humiliation, I never use it to humiliate the woman for anything other than her actions. if she is being used for sex, I will let her know just what she is. she is what she is because of what she does, what she submits to, and what she enjoys. I do not humiliate her for anything other than this. if I have her refer to herself as a thing, it is because she is being used as a thing. if I have her refer to herself as my filthy slut, it's because she is acting like my filthy slut. I cannot picture how you could act like you happen to have more melanin in your skin. verbal humiliation is a reinforcement. I want you to act this way, you are acting this way, I am telling you, you acknowledge it. it is not an insult. humiliating you for your race makes about as much sense to me as humiliating you for having a parent who died. it has nothing to do with what we are doing here and now and as such, I don't see how it has a place in the act. but then again, I am very new to this so...if you told me you enjoyed it, I would try it.
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