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ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama
The problem, basically, is that I dislike a sissy's attitude toward the feminine gender. I think, at some level, that a sissy expresses loathing or disgust with femininity by assuming a feminine state only under threat, and receiving it as "humiliation". They feel they are being diminished or lessened by becoming female or feminized. This attitude raises my hackles immediately.
ShaktiSama, I really respect your posts and like what you have to say a lot, but I'm finding myself offended by this statement. I'm definitely someone who would find being highly feminized humiliating. It has nothing at all to do with my level of respect for femininity. I'm very attracted, sexually, emotionally and intellectually to those who identify as feminine. Most, if not all, of my close friends in my adult life have been women, and not the 'butch' type. I tend to get along better with women than men. To be more precise, I tend to get along better with femininity than masculinity. I have the utmost respect for women, be they more feminine or masculine. I will probably be much more comfortable around women who are more the feminine type than at, say, a dyke biker bar, to use a stereotype. I'm not attracted, emotionally or intellectually, much less sexually, to masculinity. I think professional sports are inane. I don't like poker or cigars. There are countless other stereotypical masculine activities with which I want no part.
I think being instructed ('forced') to dress up, or somehow portray myself as highly masculine, I would feel just as absurd as I would being feminized. However, there would be no sexual attraction, I'd just feel dumb. I think the difference lies in a few different elements. The first is that socially, it is highly taboo for a man to dress as a woman, and any who do are viewed as somehow weak. I don't like this fact. I think it's a terrible view point, but I, nonetheless, don't doubt that it has left some impression on my psyche. Another factor is that I am attracted to femininity, not masculinity. I find feminine traits (whatever that means) much more attractive, on many levels, than masculine traits. In many ways, I do seek to emulate and emphasize those traits. However, I am genetically a male and I have a rather masculine physique. While I can certainly be dressed up and made to look feminine, I think it would take very poor lighting for me to come close to passing as female. And the last factor (well, that comes to mind at this time of night) is that I identify as a male, not a female. While I am miles from a macho, testosterone laced masculine beefcake, I'm farther from a buxom, sensuous pin-up. As far as personality traits, I think I'm actually quite balanced in terms of femininity vs. masculinity. I also think, however that I tend to lean slightly more towards the masculine side because I grew up and was socialized, and still am, as a male. Thus, while femininity is something of which I am very fond, attracted to, and try to emulate on some levels, it isn't how I identify, and so being instructed ('forced') to submit to feminization isn't something I would choose to do on my own and runs counter (well, probably closer to orthogonal) to my self-image. It's also something I seriously doubt I can emulate well. Much of the same could be said about 'masculinization,' except that I'm not attracted to masculinity, and, as a male, there is no cultural taboo about being too masculine, or not feminine enough.
While some who identify as sissies may have the views you suspect, I certainly don't think they are shared by everyone who finds the idea of feminization under another's control humiliating.
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