laurell3 -> RE: Not a 'true' Dom\sub because your a switch. (11/21/2007 11:57:57 PM)
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ORIGINAL: TheInstrument quote:
ORIGINAL: txnights05 Synonyms being constant, steady, unwavering. I require a Dom that is also constant, steady, unwavering in his role with me hence i am not interested in a switch for a partner. Everyone's entitled to their own opinions (and insert every other standard IMO preface). With that said, I don't really see how a Dom being a switch, or ::gasp:: even a bisexual switch means he couldn't or wouldn't be "constant, steady, unwavering" with you. While I'm not one of these people, I most certainly know switches who are very concrete in their interactions with people once they've settled. Once they decide someone's a sub, they always treat them as such and - most likely because of threads and sentiments like the ones here - stand steadfast by the decision that their own sub tendencies are no business of someone subservient to them. Also, I think it's interesting that you say you aren't implying a switch can't be monogamous and that such a thought would be ridiculous, because I'm of the opinion that a woman thinking she can't fulfill the needs of a bisexual man is just as ridiculous if not more. What is fulfillment if anything but relative? Such a statement is rife with insecurity, in my opinion, especially when you close your argument by speaking of the simple fact that you don't even want to "think" of your Dom in a submissive role. It's always more a matter of what people would rather "think" than how such a Dom actually operates. So many loaded words are thrown around on message boards that don't translate well to real life. We all like to think we like our Dom/mes to rule with an iron fist but wouldn't you agree that a good Dom/me should be fluid and able to adapt to any situation with relative ease? I think that's the hallmark of a true Dominant personality. A Dominant person knows how to take control and how to make things go completely according to their plans, but a -true- (::cringe::) Dominant person knows what to do when things don't work out so neatly. So tell me, if it's not a matter of thinking such a Dom "weak," what is it that upsets you about the thought? It "throwing you off balance," and you not being able to "wrap your head" around the thought do nothing to provide us with insight into your feelings on the matter...or at least the phrases themselves don't. Well put. I don't limit myself or my partner by rigid roles or labels. I am faithful to him and his desires regardless of the fact that my preferences or interests can be varied, even if not fulfilled. All of his desires, regardless of their label, because that is what is important to me, not some imaginary projection of what he should be based on some internet group's fantasies. I don't imagine him in any role other than the role that is uniquely him.
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