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what made you to release your sub/slave? - 11/17/2007 7:00:25 PM

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Is it bcos you can't feel the attraction anymore? or is it bcos she did something wrong to you or your relationship?

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RE: what made you to release your sub/slave? - 11/17/2007 8:10:06 PM

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Dear Yuyu,

Very often it came down to lies or one sort or another. It's the one thing I will not forgive. number two reason would be an utter failure to walk the walk, despite a good game of talking the talk- no matter how much she says she wants to serve, how submission completes her very soul, if it come to the moment, and she balks, it's just no good for me. There have been some cases where it was just a poor match, in some absolutely mundane matter, that perhaps a good match in the kink dept sorta covered, but didn't make up for.

Really there are as many reasons as there are people in the world.

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RE: what made you to release your sub/slave? - 11/17/2007 8:23:18 PM

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same reasons a sub gets rid of a Dominant; he was an asshole and that eventually overrode all the heat and passion of the relationship. betrayals and lies will do that.

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RE: what made you to release your sub/slave? - 11/17/2007 8:30:56 PM

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If I may please answer this question {from a sub}… I personally, asked for my release {after seven years} because I felt that I grew beyond my Master… He no longer took the time to punish me or cared to listen to my feelings… Where I once was “number one” in his life, I was put on the back burner until he “felt the need” for me… I needed more, I hungered for more, I deserved more… i am worth more...

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RE: what made you to release your sub/slave? - 11/17/2007 9:04:45 PM

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I have released more than one slave/sub recently, mainly because they can not seem to listen.

I think what I see in your message is that you feel as if it is some personal attack towards you on the part of a previous owner...perhaps you should ask, why you were released and use that information to make you better, stronger, and more in line with what a future owner may seek.

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RE: what made you to release your sub/slave? - 11/17/2007 9:06:29 PM

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I personally released her because she kept spelling because, bcos.

I hate that. And that slavelet knew it and after asking nicely exactly two times I said Screw it you are no more a slave than I am a Unicorn and then I climbed onto my giant bird and flew away. ~~~~~ I tease. Just giving you crap.

The reasons that someone releases a slave are personal and thus will get a million different answers just so that you know.

I have only had to release one slave and it was because she had to move and I was unable to. It was not out of failure it was out of necessity.

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I shit you not. this post was edited because I spelled "because" wrong

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RE: what made you to release your sub/slave? - 11/17/2007 9:19:50 PM

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I released the last slave because/bcos/beecuz/becoz, because of the wonderful things he does...................oops, damn the wizard of oz and that stupid song.

I released a slave because he started asking for more than I was prepared to give. He was collared under the condition that he never asked for anything personal. It was all made extremely clear what I would give and what I would not. Eventually he started to ask me to get a strap on to use on him, asked me if I would beat him, asked if I would consider giving him enemas, etc. I had made it very plain from the outset that I had no interest in these activities (it's even in my profile).

A "slave" who demands anything is not a slave, or even a sub. Whinging to get what you want is just as bad.

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RE: what made you to release your sub/slave? - 11/17/2007 9:32:03 PM

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quote:

A "slave" who demands anything is not a slave, or even a sub. Whinging to get what you want is just as bad.

And that, Miss Magnolia, is why they make whips, floggers and chains

I have had My original slave over 10 years.... that has been a blessing.... Never had to release anyone, and I can only surmise it would be devastating to have to go there...

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RE: what made you to release your sub/slave? - 11/17/2007 9:33:52 PM

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I might be able to cope with the whipping and the flogging

, but I have zero interest in the contents of someones bumhole.

lol

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RE: what made you to release your sub/slave? - 11/17/2007 9:35:33 PM

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we ARE on the same page there!!

and to add...

I like and agree with the quote at the end of your post -- something lovely about suffering.... oh, the pink, red, magenta of it!

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RE: what made you to release your sub/slave? - 11/17/2007 10:10:17 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia
A "slave" who demands anything is not a slave, or even a sub. Whinging to get what you want is just as bad.

whining and demanding *sighs* that's me lately.

of course what i'm whining and demanding about is that i havent had any time with Daddy, and he's bitching about it as much as i am. does that count, MissMagnolia? ;)

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RE: what made you to release your sub/slave? - 11/17/2007 10:59:58 PM

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To answer your question: It was because she was a lying cunt.

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ORIGINAL: yuyu777

Is it bcos you can't feel the attraction anymore? or is it bcos she did something wrong to you or your relationship?

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RE: what made you to release your sub/slave? - 11/18/2007 12:27:09 AM

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adora, as long as you're BOTH whinging about the same thing, it's OK.

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RE: what made you to release your sub/slave? - 11/18/2007 12:29:27 AM

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ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia
Eventually he started to ask me to get a strap on to use on him, asked me if I would beat him, asked if I would consider giving him enemas, etc. I had made it very plain from the outset that I had no interest in these activities (it's even in my profile).

A "slave" who demands anything is not a slave, or even a sub. Whinging to get what you want is just as bad.

Not saying this to you personally, MissMagnolia, but just making a point: You said he "asked." Asking and "demanding" are waaaaaayyy different things. Asking doesn't have to involve "whinging" or "whining" either for that matter

. Asking is permissible in our home. Demanding and whining are not. Big difference............luci

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RE: what made you to release your sub/slave? - 11/18/2007 3:56:57 AM

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When I say started to ask, I mean continually. If he had asked once and I said no, he would have shut up about it, wouldn't he?

Asking more than once is nagging, bitching, whinging and demanding.

I would have hardly dismissed a slave I had trained, for asking for something reasonably, now would I?

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RE: what made you to release your sub/slave? - 11/18/2007 12:31:33 PM

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ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia
When I say started to ask, I mean continually. If he had asked once and I said no, he would have shut up about it, wouldn't he?

I have no idea, MissMagnolia. I don't know him.

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Asking more than once is nagging, bitching, whinging and demanding

Interesting definition. Not sure everyone shares it.

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I would have hardly dismissed a slave I had trained, for asking for something reasonably, now would I?

Again, not sure. I don't know you but you do seem a bit forceful

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RE: what made you to release your sub/slave? - 11/18/2007 3:14:32 PM

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To answer the OP, she turned out to be very neurotic which led to withholding information and playing games in an attempt to manipulate me. I don't deal with bullshit.

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I personally released her because she kept spelling because, bcos.

Why do you have to haress the posters, man?

She had an honest question, looking for constructive answers, and here you are...giving her a hard time, hurling petty insults about her spelling.

Is this the kind of positive and friendly attitude that we need here on Collarme.com?

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RE: what made you to release your sub/slave? - 11/18/2007 3:20:47 PM

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Well said kittensmailbox.

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RE: what made you to release your sub/slave? - 11/18/2007 5:38:09 PM

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Is it bcos you can't feel the attraction anymore? or is it bcos she did something wrong to you or your relationship?

When it has happened for me, the reason is most often simply that I changed or she did.

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RE: what made you to release your sub/slave? - 11/18/2007 5:49:48 PM

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ORIGINAL: MadRabbit

To answer the OP, she turned out to be very neurotic which led to withholding information and playing games in an attempt to manipulate me. I don't deal with bullshit.

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ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah

I personally released her because she kept spelling because, bcos.

Why do you have to haress the posters, man?

She had an honest question, looking for constructive answers, and here you are...giving her a hard time, hurling petty insults about her spelling.

Is this the kind of positive and friendly attitude that we need here on Collarme.com?

trying to not take myself so seriouly! I believe that was the advice I was given trying to take it.

I did offer a serious answer after my little joke.

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