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ORIGINAL: kails

I can see arguments happening on both sides for this one.

Ok, Im playing with this Dom. He's been fed several meals by me, out of my cupboard. Fine, cosy in fact. 

Then he tells me we are going to a pub. We get there, he gives me the amount for his drink and tells me to get it.

I purchase the drink, take it over to him, give him his 5 cents change, turn around, leave the pub and do the 1 1/2 hour walk home. He states later that he does not believe paying for my drink is part of D/s.

Im interested to see what others views are on this. My view is ... I did not have a choice about going to a pub, i give full control over to the Dom. But damned if Im gonna go dutch when we go out. Especially considering control is expected and happily given at all times, no matter where we are.

Opinions ????

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ORIGINAL: masterlink65

cheap of him, yes. proper slave behavior, no

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

But this seems to be more the case of:
If you're going Dutch, he ain't worth much.

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

The compatibility regarding the issue of finances is no less a consideration than compatibility regarding which end of the flogger preferred.

One person's "cheap" is another's "frugal".

The other consideration is upbringing and social philosophy. There is a generation of men raised to believe that paying for a woman's drink is a sexist insult insinuating, as one person pointed out here, that it is a pre-payment for expected future "services" rendered.

Many talk of "communicating" and exposing personal beliefs; but rare do those discussions include the pragmatic aspects of every day life - like who pays for drinks at a Pub. Maybe it's one of those little discussed issues pointed out in other threads where people expect and use deceit in lieu of honesty. The lesson learned from this experience is if you don't know and would be insulted if the answer isn't what was expected - have taxi fare in your purse. At least wear comfortable shoes for the long walk home. 

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ORIGINAL: masterlink65

sounds to me like you were doing good,,,,, up until the part where you turned and left. who is in charge here anyway? you or your dom.? you should feel fortunate he felt you worthy of an explanation after that.


one word....... communication

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ORIGINAL: masterlink65

sounds to me like you were doing good,,,,, up until the part where you turned and left. who is in charge here anyway? you or your dom.? you should feel fortunate he felt you worthy of an explanation after that.


one word....... communication

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ORIGINAL: masterlink65

so a sub is just to walk out if something doesnt go the way a sub planned? over a drink?

so does this mean if the dom or master doesnt flush the toilet properly, the sub will just walk out? maybe i bought the post instead if the daily news, the sub should walk out without a word to its dom. any self respecting sub should be able to speak for itself in time of need. dont just turn your back. i wouldnt see that as an act of submission.

doesnt sound like she was doing very much submitting to this dom of hers, other than her own selfishness of feeling the dom owed her for her making dinner. wrong for a sub or slave to expect anything owed other than its needs met, and a drink at the bar isnt a need, its a want. if i take my slave to a bar, it is my choice if slave has a drink, or wether slave stands in the corner.

the sub is worthy of conversation, yes.... but to just walk away like that? would you really expect a dom to go wow, what an obedient sub,, after all,,,,, she did get me the drink i wanted.?!?

so its BS when i write, and opinion when you write. ?!.