PlayfulGoddess
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ORIGINAL: MystressDream
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ORIGINAL: masterlink65
so a sub is just to walk out if something doesnt go the way a sub planned? over a drink?
so does this mean if the dom or master doesnt flush the toilet properly, the sub will just walk out? maybe i bought the post instead if the daily news, the sub should walk out without a word to its dom. any self respecting sub should be able to speak for itself in time of need. dont just turn your back. i wouldnt see that as an act of submission.
doesnt sound like she was doing very much submitting to this dom of hers, other than her own selfishness of feeling the dom owed her for her making dinner. wrong for a sub or slave to expect anything owed other than its needs met, and a drink at the bar isnt a need, its a want. if i take my slave to a bar, it is my choice if slave has a drink, or wether slave stands in the corner.
the sub is worthy of conversation, yes.... but to just walk away like that? would you really expect a dom to go wow, what an obedient sub,, after all,,,,, she did get me the drink i wanted.?!?
so its BS when i write, and opinion when you write. ?!.
You just MIGHT take into account that this is NOT an M/s or even a D/s relationship. Or, at least, there is no collar here. The OP states they are just play partners. You are trying to inflict strict standards and protocol on a casual relationship as you would on an ownership. Just doesn't fly.
(I can't believe I actually responded to one of this guy's posts.... <sigh>... I must have a touch of masochist in me after all. LOL)
(LOL at MystressDream)
OMG, what ever happened to gracious hospitality? LMAO
I've "played" with a Pleasure Dom as well (even tho I consider myself Domme)
He invited me to meet him at a bar after originally inviting me to dinner/drinks (I had another previous dinner event I had commited to)
Not ONLY did he PAY FOR MY DRINK, but he bothered to remember from our earlier conversations, what type of wine I typically like, and had that pre-ordered for my arrival.
I dunno, maybe it's the "played with" standard which is different to the "owned" standard...
...maybe it was the fact that he was a "Pleasure" Dom instead of a stingy-ass Dom LOL But, seriously, what happened to good and genteel manners?
I always bring money / credit card with me, but I am of the opinion if someone "INVITES ME OUT" it is indeed REASONABLE to expect them to pick up the tab.
I have even invited men out for a meal/drink and they STILL OFFERED to pay. (It was a birthday dinner invitation, so I stuck to my guns on paying after a couple vollies of "no, sweetie, I'll pick it up, it was nice of you to offer in the first place") LOL
If invited to someone's home for a cooked meal, I ask if there is anything I can bring/contribute to the meal. (dessert, a side dish, etc)
If they say no, I remember what the entree they plan on preparing and generally select / chill a bottle of wine that would compliment that meal, and show up with it in hand.
I think if the event is/can be viewed as a "dating" situation, then the person inviting/setting up the plans should reasonably be expected to pay for the event --unless they have already mentioned, UPFRONT BEFORE the other person ACCEPTS, that it's a dutch treat meal.
If the "gentleman" (and I use that term LOOSELY) who she is speaking of hadn't offered/paid for my drink/meal when he initiated the outing, I would probably just have paid my "portion" and never saw him again.
<<< IT IS UNCOOL TO BE A POOR HOST!!! >>>
Just my two cents... (OH WAIT, not even--cuz the Gent covered it!) LOL
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