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RE: Why the Administrators cannot allow blacklists, but... - 12/10/2007 2:23:18 PM   
Jeffff


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I need names!!!...:)


"palpable danger"


Nice

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RE: Why the Administrators cannot allow blacklists, but... - 12/10/2007 2:24:45 PM   
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The office of Okhrana for collarme is compiling names now, Comrade Stalin.

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RE: Why the Administrators cannot allow blacklists, but... - 12/10/2007 2:25:18 PM   
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Palpable danger comes before the pulp!

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RE: Why the Administrators cannot allow blacklists, but... - 12/10/2007 2:29:02 PM   
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 We must protect the innocent!!!.....When the list is complied...we will give them all a trial, and then....take them out back and shoot them.


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RE: Why the Administrators cannot allow blacklists, but... - 12/10/2007 2:30:06 PM   
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As a last meal - are they entitled to a White Russian?

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RE: Why the Administrators cannot allow blacklists, but... - 12/10/2007 3:01:45 PM   
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Hmmmm....racist? Start a new list--

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RE: Why the Administrators cannot allow blacklists, but... - 12/10/2007 3:03:07 PM   
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Double-book me: racist and alcoholic

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RE: Why the Administrators cannot allow blacklists, but... - 12/10/2007 3:15:33 PM   
subtee


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Oh and don't forget your "biogas" addiction...

More lists! STAT!

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RE: Why the Administrators cannot allow blacklists, but... - 12/10/2007 3:16:25 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: BoiJen


I get the whole not getting involved in the mess of name calling and who's "real" or not.

I also know for a fact that the moderators of the forums are not hands off. Daily they remove posts based on their person interpretation of what they read and their own interpretation of the rules. So yeah who polices the police? Who moderates the moderators? Censorship is rampant...it just so happens that we don't know it well becuase people who want to say somthing about it are being censored.


Frankly, we moderate the moderators. 

The success of any message board, I think, depends on the moderation of that board.  What do you suppose would happen without moderation?  Many boards have dozens and dozens of spam posts every day, free advertisement on everything from webcam girls to ezpresctriptions4urhardmebner.  Obviously spam doesn't belong.  Obviously, comments that could lead to the site being shut down for legal reasons don't belong.  Then there's the community standards to consider (necrophilia and bestiality aren't permitted topics of discussion.)

Then there's the less hard and fast rules; think of it like a garden.  Weeds can easily choke out flowers in a garden, yet dandelions (pretty as they might be) are technically 'weeds.'  I think the idea is that posts that direct conversations in inappropriate directions are removed.  There's not guarantee of free speech here, except for the free speech of the site's owner; I don't have to allow someone in my house, for example, if they're constantly talking about shooting another guest in the head, or setting my house on fire, or how ugly my carpet is.  The biggest focus here, I think, is that people are free to discuss almost any topic, so long as it doesn't infringe on other people's rights to discuss any topic.  Flamewars and personal insults are the virtual version of a fistfight; it's hard to discuss things civilly and maturely, when there's nothing but shouting and fighting going on.

Which brings us back to the original point; we police the moderators, by our choice to be here or not.  If enough people are offended or feel restricted, they stop showing up.  As this is an advertising funded site, our choice to read or not can seriously hurt the bottom line.

On the blacklist topic:

I know of one group on yahoo that keeps a running blacklist of bad experiences.  One girl I'd known pretty well from here went to stay with the people who started that group.  There was an incredible amount of he said/she said drama, and they eventually kicked her out (literally; they dropped her off at a bus station without a dime to her name.)  I checked their site out, and offered my thoughts on the situation on their message boards.  I was promptly banned from the group, and I'm pretty sure I've been blacklisted.

People find strength in numbers.  I find people who thrive on that particular form of drama, though, to be just as guilty of generating it as they are of being victims of it.  I don't care much for censorship, but I do think that the bar against badmouthing people leads to the opportunity for us to simply listen to the good experiences without ignoring the possible bad experiences. 

Stephan

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RE: Why the Administrators cannot allow blacklists, but... - 12/10/2007 3:37:38 PM   
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Well, leave it to Stephan to wrench this back to reality.

Can I be on the insubordinate sub list now?

Cali


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RE: Why the Administrators cannot allow blacklists, but... - 12/10/2007 3:39:18 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CalifChick
Can I be on the insubordinate sub list now?


Jeff - I lost track...is that the spank-eligible list?

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RE: Why the Administrators cannot allow blacklists, but... - 12/10/2007 3:40:53 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: ModeratorEleven

quote:

I have read your rules and to my understanding there is nothing keeping me from keeping a bad list of my own and providing it to those who request such information from my own area and experience.

Please allow me to clarify our position on this issue; no blacklists of any kind will be tolerated here.  Should someone use our system to advertise or propogate such a list after being informed such behavior was not allowed, that user would almost certainly be removed.  I hope that clears up any remaining ambiguity on the matter.

XI


/pout

Darn it 11

there goes my chance at being put on THE LIST

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RE: Why the Administrators cannot allow blacklists, but... - 12/10/2007 3:42:57 PM   
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lol...oh your listed baby.your listed
(laughs evily)


Jeff


it's not a black list.....more charcole grey

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RE: Why the Administrators cannot allow blacklists, but... - 12/10/2007 3:45:05 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Jeffff

lol...oh your listed baby.your listed
(laughs evily)


Jeff


it's not a black list.....more charcole grey

whew

I was worried there for a sec lol



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RE: Why the Administrators cannot allow blacklists, but... - 12/10/2007 3:45:33 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DominicsJoy

The people I refer to are the ones who have left scars on others, endangered life and showed a blatant disregard for the safety of others. If you were new, would you truly want to think that someone knew what a person like this was capable of and knowingly chose to keep it from you?

Could someone be so callous as to not care about another's safety when a known predator is amoung them???




If you're making your list based on leaving scars...haha....that will be one longass list...and while you're at it can you add my doctor because last time I had blood drawn the tech slipped and collapsed a vein or something and now I have a scar from it. 

Anyone that participates in any breath play could be endangering life.  Pretty much anyone that's a sadist and inflicts pain could be seen as showing a blatant disregard for the safety of others.    While I agree there are some crazy, dangerous people in the lifestyle, your standards sound vaguely familiar to what the vanilla public says about the lifestyle.  Do you see the problem here?  Who defines, certainly not you for me because your definitions are much broader than what I have determined keep me safe.  Your definitions would hit probably a majority of the people in the lifestyle which makes your list an amusing and completely ineffective exercise, but then again maybe you're just a masochist and want an exercise in futility.


By the way, the suggestion to use the list to date off of made me laugh my ass off.

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RE: Why the Administrators cannot allow blacklists, but... - 12/10/2007 3:47:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ctrlaltdelete

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1
Wait! What if I want to fall victim to a perv? I am only meeting boring guys lately...


You can always perv the list and use it for "dating leads"


Nah, I don't have to be so proactive. I get enough pervs writing me.

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RE: Why the Administrators cannot allow blacklists, but... - 12/10/2007 3:48:09 PM   
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I feel the concern and the same pain as the op.  Several years ago I proposed a list be tabulated of those women on CM who......hmmmm....Shall we say, who don't smell so "fresh."

While I expected to be greeted and hailed as a hero...My idea was met with disdain, contempt and ridicule. For it seems that one man's funk is another man's fun.

How I weep for the future.

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RE: Why the Administrators cannot allow blacklists, but... - 12/10/2007 3:57:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

Well, leave it to Stephan to wrench this back to reality.

Can I be on the insubordinate sub list now?

Cali



What a waste that would be!

I prefer playing only with subordinates ;)

Stephan


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RE: Why the Administrators cannot allow blacklists, but... - 12/10/2007 4:00:17 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Stephann

quote:

ORIGINAL: CalifChick

Well, leave it to Stephan to wrench this back to reality.

Can I be on the insubordinate sub list now?

Cali



What a waste that would be!

I prefer playing only with subordinates ;)

Stephan





That's not what you said last night....


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RE: Why the Administrators cannot allow blacklists, but... - 12/10/2007 4:11:12 PM   
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Believe it or not, some people actually like stalkers. I know of a Dom who went back to an ex sub right after she hacked into his account here and blocked 3 subs he was considering, then hacked into his yahoo account and deleted all females from his list. Apparently, he was turned on by being stalked.

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