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RE: Do you ever - 1/8/2008 6:13:21 PM

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Read my lips. i posted about the person looking for cheap labor, taking advantage of someone eho is a sub or slave. This thread is not about how a sub or slave feels or what they like. It is about the people who try to scam them and take advantage of them without their knowledge. It has nothing to do with a person's kink. It is about being dishonest to someone who thinks you really want them as a sdub or slave. i don't know how else i can make this thread any clearer.

And you can tell by words on a profile that may apply to a myriad of things that someone is being scammed? How do you know what is in others minds?

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RE: Do you ever - 1/8/2008 6:36:34 PM

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Read my lips. i posted about the person looking for cheap labor, taking advantage of someone eho is a sub or slave. This thread is not about how a sub or slave feels or what they like. It is about the people who try to scam them and take advantage of them without their knowledge. It has nothing to do with a person's kink. It is about being dishonest to someone who thinks you really want them as a sdub or slave. i don't know how else i can make this thread any clearer.

Might want to give up takenbyjohn07. Does'nt look like many are getting it

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RE: Do you ever - 1/8/2008 6:41:55 PM

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Thank you! Great advice. You're an Angel.

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RE: Do you ever - 1/8/2008 6:49:03 PM

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LOL Im sitting beside SwtnSparkling and can assure you she is as frustrated as you must be that few are Getting what you are really asking ..... I just hope your language is a bit less, shall we say, colorful <EG>

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RE: Do you ever - 1/8/2008 6:50:19 PM

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Great advice? Well sure, it would be far better to give up than to learn how to be more open minded about what others seek in this lifestyle. As someone else stated, just because you are not into it, does not make it a scam or otherwise.

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RE: Do you ever - 1/8/2008 6:53:50 PM

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Both of you are saints. My next thread is going to be "What is your favorite color?" i can't wait to hear the responses. Are you telling me i have to have a favorite color? What is a favorite color? what are you really trying to say? Why are you demanding that i tell you my favorote colr? Is it because you think you are better than us?

And the beat goes on ")

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RE: Do you ever - 1/8/2008 7:02:59 PM

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Too cute- Loved that

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RE: Do you ever - 1/8/2008 7:05:43 PM

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ORIGINAL: MissHarlet

LOL Im sitting beside SwtnSparkling and can assure you she is as frustrated as you must be that few are Getting what you are really asking ..... I just hope your language is a bit less, shall we say, colorful <EG>

Ok... please explain to me.

Is she asking about people out to scam subs by not saying that all they want is housework on their profiles but that is all they actually want or is she asking about the people who say on their profiles that all they want is housework?

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RE: Do you ever - 1/8/2008 7:10:37 PM

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Thanks for asking.People who scam subs. They tell them they are dominant when they are not just to get someone to work for them for free. i thought my OP said that very clearly. Not all profiles gave me that feeling, but some of themn did.

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RE: Do you ever - 1/8/2008 7:11:39 PM

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I myself have submissives that are service submissives that clean etc so I certainly understand their need to serve in this way. I dont believe that service is one sided ... when a submissive cleans for me and gains satisfaction from it .. I believe that they also need to see that they have pleased me and that I recognize there service for more than just mindless labor

However, I believe the question was if there are Dominants or so called dominants that seek submissives to do this only as cheap or free labor with no real consideration about what the submissive gets from it. I do believe this to be true as I have seen it and heard people brag about it .. and this I think is wrong .. and Yes I judge them for it. I also choose not to have this type of person in my circle of friends. They of course are free to do as they please, and I am free to choose not to be involved with them in any way.

And before I get flamed for judgeing .. We all judge everyone every day .... in everyway... that is how we have preferences. I dont impose my judgements on others by saying they have to stop what they are doing ... only choose not to be around them.

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RE: Do you ever - 1/8/2008 7:14:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07

Thanks for asking.People who scam subs. They tell them they are dominant when they are not just to get someone to work for them for free. i thought my OP said that very clearly. Not all profiles gave me that feeling, but some of themn did.

It still isn't clear to me. What are you defining as a scam?

Is it a scam when someone says "I just want NSA housework and I'm not giving you anything in return" and the submissive says "All right that is fine with me"?

Or are you talking about someone saying "I want housework but we will also scene", the submissive says "Ok" and they never deliver on the scening?

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RE: Do you ever - 1/8/2008 7:18:14 PM

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That's my whole point. They are saying they are Dominants and into D/s, but their not. They are just lying so that they can get free housekeeping. Some of thoise ads give me that impression. Most don't though

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RE: Do you ever - 1/8/2008 7:19:39 PM

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Thank You Thank You Thank you and bless you for understanding.

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RE: Do you ever - 1/8/2008 7:20:28 PM

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My apologies, I thought something was in response to me.

I personally wouldn't judge someone for not caring how a submissive feels about doing housework any more than I would judge them for not caring how a submissive feels about providing sexual service. They may not be for me, but I wouldn't call, or imply, that they are fake.

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RE: Do you ever - 1/8/2008 7:21:07 PM

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In fairness tho there are those subs that say they will do no strings housekeeping that really just want to dress in a maids costume and chat with you all day about how cute they look and not ruin their manicure .......so it goes both ways

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RE: Do you ever - 1/8/2008 7:23:19 PM

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ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07

get the feeling that some Dominants and couples are just looking for someone to clean, do the launbdry and cook when they ask for submissives. This way they don't have to pay someone. Some of these profiles give me the feeling that they are just looking for cheap labor. i could be wrong.

Sure..the same way a person can pretend to be a sub just to get a beating. They might not have any desire to serve and just want the endorphin rush. I would hope that any Dominant or submissive worth their salt would be able to see right through it. I'm not entirely convinced I understand your concern. Yes, there are fakes. Do they affect you in any way? If not, then why does it matter?

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RE: Do you ever - 1/8/2008 7:23:48 PM

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Very true, and that's a whole other thread."- Which i will not be writing. :)

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RE: Do you ever - 1/8/2008 7:25:26 PM

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I didnt say they were fake .. only that I believe it to be wrong .. and that is my opinion and I will stick to it .. to paraphrase the song

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RE: Do you ever - 1/8/2008 7:27:13 PM

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ORIGINAL: MissHarlet

I didnt say they were fake .. only that I believe it to be wrong .. and that is my opinion and I will stick to it .. to paraphrase the song

Again, my apologies that was not directed at you.

It was the

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They are saying they are Dominants and into D/s, but their not. They are just lying so that they can get free housekeeping

remark, which I do feel implies fake. Only my point of view however.

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RE: Do you ever - 1/8/2008 7:28:05 PM

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I sincerely hope you have learned your lesson about starting a thread and trying to start intellegent discourse!! <wink>

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