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KnightofMists -> RE: Control, Young Subs/Slaves, and Individual Growth (1/12/2008 3:34:59 PM)
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ORIGINAL: MadRabbit
For mainly the Dominants/Masters/Whatevers out there who's demographic involves young girls (late teens, early 20's), have you ever been faced with this moral dilemma? Do you think it is an unwise decision to take control of certain aspects of someone's life when it might stalwart their growth as an individual?
Finally, leading up to the bigger and more controversial question intended for everyone, do you think a TPE dynamic (for the purposes of discussion, I am using TPE to mean an authority dynamic where major control over an individual's life is surrendered) at too young of an age can be an unwise life decision?
As Kyra has already stated in this thread and many on this board already know, Alandra has been in my life at a rather young age and Kyra as come into my life in her mid thirties. So I have the ability to appreciate both taking a young person into my life as a young adult and another in late years with more time under the belt.
Interestingly enough, there is not alot of difference in my eyes. The key aspect in both cases was were we all ready for the relationship? In our case it was a Authority transfer dynamic. In the early years with Alandra we didn't have any labels or such. It was very much a nature path that we followed. It wasn't until years later that what we did so naturally and easily was something many have grouped, labeled and strive for years. It was somewhat surprizing there was entire group of people that lived this lifestyle.
Dispite the labels or lack of labels, the question of being self-aware of oneself and what one desires in an intimate relationship go a long ways. This self-awareness to live a transfer authority dynamic is what motivates a relationship to go forward. Every relationship is going to have challenges and there will be a variety of uniqueness to any specific relationship as compared to other relationships. As a young adult, I had certain experiences, skills and talents etc. This knowledge base affect what my decisions was within the relationship with Alandra, but not my desire to have the authority in the first place. Jump ahead a couple of decades with more experience etc... and once again my choices are affected.. but not my desire to have the authority in the first place. Alandra and Kyra both came into my life at a point where they where self-aware of this particluar aspect of themselves. They had a intiutive appreciation that they enjoyed and desired to transfer authority.
For a Dominant of any age... I think it is important to be aware of their own limitations, abilities, skills etc. and make the decisions that fall within those areas. The Serenity Pray is indeed something that I hold rather integral to my mindset as a successful Dominant. It reminds me that some things I can change or more specifically decide on and some that I just can't. I can only hope that I have the wisdom to appreciate which is which.
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