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slavegirljoy -> RE: Control, Young Subs/Slaves, and Individual Growth (1/12/2008 6:58:30 PM)
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ORIGINAL: MadRabbit
The more passage of the time, the more experience and knowledge you are able to accumulate. Able to accumulate, maybe but, not always done. There are a lot of people who never leave the town they were born and raised in and who never step outside the little box they painted themselves into at an early age. They never experience anything outside the 'safety zone' of their predictable life, no matter how many years they live. quote:
Hence, time ultimately presents a limit as to how much a person can experience and learn. Not really. Many people only really start to live and experience life after they have raised the kids, retired from their job and, sometimes become a widow or divorcee. This was the case with my mom, who was always an avid outdoors woman. But, it wasn't until she was in her 60's that she started to do the things that she really wanted to do. She rafted the length of the Colorado River, met a man through a dating service, sold her townhouse and, set sail on a 4-year adventure that took her out of San Fransisco Bay up to Alaska then down through the Panama Canal, up to New England and finally through the Caribbean to Trinidad.
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The point I am leading up to is that there CAN (Note the word CAN and not the word IS) be a substantial difference between a dominant taking control over aspects of a middle aged submissives life and a dominant taking control over aspects of a submissive's life who is barely in their 20's and hasn't finished college. There's probably a substantial difference in a Dominant taking control of any submissive of any age, with any amount of experience compared to any other submissive of any age, and with any amount of experience, since everyone is different. No two are going to be the same. Just like submitting to different Dominants has always been substantially different for me, regardless of their age differences.
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Finally, leading up to the bigger and more controversial question intended for everyone, do you think a TPE dynamic (for the purposes of discussion, I am using TPE to mean an authority dynamic where major control over an individual's life is surrendered) at too young of an age can be an unwise life decision? i was 21 1/2 when i had my first D/s relationship, although i didn't call it that and never heard that term back then. Even though i was a soldier, i became the wife and property of my very Dominant husband, who was 37 and previously married with 2 teenage kids and he had a great deal more experience in this life than i had. He took control over my life, even to the point of telling me to reenlist, when i had only joined for 3 years and had already made plans on what i was going to do when i got out. He controlled all of the money, including my pay. He decided to have me get half my pay direct deposited into my own account and the other half deposited into a joint account that he would use to pay the bills with. The half of my monthly pay that went into my account was closely monitored by him and he had to give me permission before i could spend any of it. But, that didn't hurt me any. He showed me how to manage money and, how to organize the bills. i already knew how to balance a checkbook. He also did all of the taxes. Being with this very experienced man, at a fairly young age, opened my eyes to a whole new world. He took me places and exposed me to things that i never would have gone to or experience without him, certainly not on my own and probably not with anyone else i knew back then. Some of the things he showed me were scary and unpleasant, even kind of ugly to me. But, seeing them and experiencing them helped me to see that life was much more than i had thought it was, growing up in my nice, neat, little northern California suburb. Without him taking charge of my life when he did, i most likely would never have known of my need to be owned by another or of my masochistic needs. i probably would have gone from one frustrating vanilla relationship to another, always wondering why i couldn't ever feel satisfied with any of them. Being taken by an older, experienced, Dominant man, who knew what i was and knew how to use me well, was one of the best things to ever happen to me. It's because of him that i was able to know, 30 years later, what i was looking for when i began searching for and found my Master. And, it's because of what he showed me and taught me, back when i was in my 20's, that i am now able to be the sort of submissive servant that my Master wanted to own for a 24/7 TPE relationship. But, my Master has His own ways and i still have to learn what He likes and He has done things to me that no one else has ever done and He's not done with me yet. He still has a lot more to teach me. So, it all worked out for the best, when i was 'young' and naive and now that i am older and still learning. joyOwned servant of Master David
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