sexyred1
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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael [Uh, BULLSHIT! The advice given on this board is far and away the best advice I have ever gotten anywhere and beats much of what I got out of San Francisco. The reason some see it as snobbery is because they aren't ready to hear or understand it. I don't think I would have seen the wisdom in it when I was new although if I had it would have greatly sped my growth and maturation as a dominant. When we don't give hugs to someone who comes whining about their problems but instead ask them to figure out their role in it, we are teaching them to fish, to learn and grow. No we don't coddle them, if they are too delicate for honest criticism, they are to delicate to be messing about with BDSM. We call people on their shit here, I am fairly well liked by a few here and trust me, has never stopped people from telling me I am full of shit when they see a pattern or if I am being hypocritical. This is a place by and for adults, if you aren't up to that, there are always the chat rooms. As for being mentors, it has always been my experience that the people who clammer loudest to be mentors are always the ones have no business being mentors, sort of like politicians and priests. I agree with this alot. People who throw the word snob around, often do so for many reasons. They feel insecure about their own lack of anything, intelligence, experience, HUMOR, or just not "getting" it. People who ask inane questions here (and you know who you are) usually do so for negative attention. When they actually get that negative attention, they turn all whinycrybabylittlegirlieman on us and accuse everyone of flaming, bashing, belittling and being snobby. I personally try and answer a genuine question if I have something intelligent to contribute. If I have no knowledge to contribute, I do not post or, if the thread has derailed into humor, as it often does, I will jump in with my usual brand of spirited banter. What I truly detest are those who post a question, you reply, and the person hates the answer and gets all passive-aggressive and snarky about it, as if we are all idiots. Am I a snob? To a degree, yes. But only about people who have no sense of humor or those who lack the self awareness and ability to discern what someone is trying to say to them.
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