juliaoceania
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Joined: 4/19/2006 From: Somewhere Over the Rainbow Status: offline
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How would any of you deal with a situation where your s-type tried to simply blow you off with "I'm not in the mood"? (In reference to play or something you clearly want, not "I'm not in the mood for chinese tonight.") s-types, do you think it would be a fair turn of phrase to use or would you find it overly blunt? He isn't emotionally attached to my moods for the most part. Yes, I have told him there were things I was not in the mood for, especially when it comes to pain play, and it is valid for me not to be in the mood for that. Sometimes pain is more intense than others. The key is, he has that information, he can decide whether it matters if I am not in the mood. If he wanted to do what I was not in the mood for, he does it anyways. I am very blessed that he is an understanding. If I am unwell or stressed out, he wants to address this, and solve it. I belong to him, so treating me in a way that is counterproductive to my happiness isn't something he does often. Now the tone of voice is everything when commenting that one isn't in the mood. I am almost apologetic about it when I am not. Also, it is not something I have said very often, in fact I can only remember once. The thing is, if I am under the weather, he isn't demanding of me in a way that would cause me to say this. He has the power in the relationship. I suppose if he was insecure about that, me saying I was not in the mood might bother him...
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