chellekitty
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ORIGINAL: Prinsexx Emotionally though i can't deal with my own walking away. It sounds pathetic and screw ball when i say it <snip> it doesn't sound pathetic, it sounds like a slave mindset...but think about it like this....when he didn't fulfill his end of the contract, whether it was written or verbal, but filling your emotional needs (and i mean needs, not wants), he negated the contract, therefore making it null and void and you now have nothing holding you to him and you are, in effect free to go anytime you are physically able to make the break from the relationship, ie. stopping contact - in person, by phone, by email, by smoke signals, etc. but you have to be willing to make that break, willing to break the cycle, because this wasn't the first time, this wasn't the first time with him, and this wasn't the first relationship you've had like this...you have to be willing to figure out what you're doing wrong when you're picking the men you're picking....and do something different...but you know all this...do a little role play with yourself, and pretend you are your own patient telling yourself this...now tell yourself what you should do to develop healthier relationships...M/s and D/s are not inherently unhealthy, it is our choices of who we engage in M/s and D/s in with who are inherently unhealthy...figure out the pattern, and change it... take care chelle
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One thing I know: the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who will have sought and found how to serve. ~Albert Schweitzer
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