Prinsexx
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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie quote:
I still have issues I need to work on but realizing MY part in who I allowed into my life, who I allowed to remain, and what sort of drama swirled around me was the key to understanding what I need and still need to work on. Using this quote, I'll ask the OP to look at this. In recovering from my marriage, my therapist kept telling me to recognize MY part in this. I would tell him to fuck off, because >I< wasn't the one doing all the abusive shit in my marriage. WTF did he mean, MY part?? And then one day I walked in his office and asked, "Why did I let someone treat me this way?" He stood up and cheered, and said NOW we're making progress. It was the beginning of understanding how to create healthy boundaries for myself and how I would allow myself to be treated. Understanding myself and protecting my boundaries eliminated most of the drama in my life, much of which I created myself. OK here's the deal...why am i here asking for help and starting out by blaming my Master fror being wrong because He abandoned me?.....i'm here to get as many pin downs, as many pointers as to what i should do...i'm asking what is, where is, is there a protocol?....because not only do i want to take responsibility for my recognition that i feel crap, but i want suggestions as to how to do it which DOESN'T make it his fault.... i want Him and i want the dynamic but i do realise it's destructive per se, in and of itself....it's a take, it's a one way street, and there's no limits, have been no limits, as to what is expected of me, and what he wants of me, and there's nothing comng back to me execpet a comment that i impressed him, and i am his top slut, and then my feelings that i am so grateful oh so very grateful how grateful i felt for that.... i respect Him in his abilities to limit my arrogance, to hold a mirror up to me, that when i say i am pansexual, a pain slut, and a switch he goes in essence...ok show me....and above all i want Him to be the one....but at the same time where on the planet is He and who is He with that means a mobile phone call won't be made and if anythng serious would happen to either of us there would be no way either of us would be able to let the other one know...... somewhere between here and now, i mean, when he returns, i will have got up off my sick bed, pulled my act together and look fixed again, boundaries and self worth all intact and happy with just my own company. But that state of mind seems incompatible with slave mindset.......
< Message edited by Prinsexx -- 1/30/2008 2:46:28 PM >
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