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Master's 'old' girls... help?! - 2/21/2008 3:32:41 AM   
bislavegirl4434


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Status: offline 		My Master has had alot of 'subs' in the past, girls who wanted to be with Him, and who He played around with for a while but never really connected with. I have been with Him now for 2months (although we have been online together for two years) and He is still regularly getting emails from other girls with pictures of their naked bodies/them punishing their bodies for Him, and telling Him how they want Him to fuck them.

Should I be concerned? Should I say something? Is it wrong for me to be jealous, even though he claims that they mean nothing?

(There are texts on his phone from the day I arrived saying "I really want you to punish my tits again, i loved the way you fucked my ass.." etc.)

Please help!

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RE: Master's 'old' girls... help?! - 2/21/2008 3:35:30 AM   
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ORIGINAL: bislavegirl4434

My Master has had alot of 'subs' in the past, girls who wanted to be with Him, and who He played around with for a while but never really connected with. I have been with Him now for 2months (although we have been online together for two years) and He is still regularly getting emails from other girls with pictures of their naked bodies/them punishing their bodies for Him, and telling Him how they want Him to fuck them.

Should I be concerned? Should I say something? Is it wrong for me to be jealous, even though he claims that they mean nothing?

(There are texts on his phone from the day I arrived saying "I really want you to punish my tits again, i loved the way you fucked my ass.." etc.)

Please help!


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RE: Master's 'old' girls... help?! - 2/21/2008 3:37:16 AM   
bislavegirl4434


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RE: Master - 2/21/2008 3:38:07 AM   
TotalState


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Status: offline 		Jealousy is generally rooted in insecurity, rightly or wrongly.  Ask for reassurance (always, always voice your insecurities with your significant other, but try not to be accusing...focus on it being your problem, not his), but also work on being more confident in yourself and your relationship.

If it is just them sending him messages, he may have little control over it, and really, what does it hurt if that's all it is?  You should rather think of it in terms of him being desirable to other women, but he still chose you.  Be aware of your own worth to him.


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RE: Master's 'old' girls... help?! - 2/21/2008 3:39:06 AM   
colouredin


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Status: offline 		Quite, In any relationship no one wants their current partner to be jealous, if anything it pushes them away more. He has choosen you not the other girls, if you are insecure or whatever thats your perogative but trust his descision you obviously have something that these other girls dont have. Everyone has a past, if anything the fact that other girls still want him should make you feel even better that you are the one he has chosen. 

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RE: Master's 'old' girls... help?! - 2/21/2008 3:39:37 AM   
Justme696


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Trust in my Master?


yes..the girls can send him things..but you worry He does soemthing with it.
IF he ignores them or tell them to stop...then your problem is gone. But He seems to accept them.


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RE: Master's 'old' girls... help?! - 2/21/2008 3:45:32 AM   
bislavegirl4434


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Status: offline 		*nods slowly* We have had trust issues in the past. He stopped me talking to one of my closest friends because He thought the relationship between us was "too intense". So i feel that i should be able to turn and say something similar to Him. Of course, this is my Master, and I wouldn't dare tell Him what to do... but still...

Thank You guys, I suppose i need to sit down and talk to Him about it....


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RE: Master's 'old' girls... help?! - 2/21/2008 3:51:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		There are few kinksters without a past. One of the things that goes along with being a highly sexual person is actually having lots of sex.  Is this your first M/s relationship?  If so, i could see how the fact that sluts like your Master enough to send him dirty pics might seem alarming.  But none of these girls are on your Master's doorstep flogging themselves, so there is a distance involved.  It's flirtation kicked up a notch.  Do you trust Him?  Do you have a "no text flirting with former fucks" limit already predetermined?  If that is a big deal, talk to HIM.  Tel Him how you feel...allow Him the oppurtunity to do His job...
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My Master has had alot of 'subs' in the past, girls who wanted to be with Him, and who He played around with for a while but never really connected with.
  The connection you have is something none of these girls were able to achieve with Him, so that should speak volumes.  The fact that he TOLD you and SHOWED you the emails prove He isn't trying to hide anything.  (by the way...as a bi-slave, do any of the pics tickle your fancy?  and don't you intend on playing with other women and your Master anyway?)  If he starts getting secretive...red flag! But it sounds like He's being honest in His dealings with you...so why not be honest with your feelings to Him?
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RE: Master's 'old' girls... help?! - 2/21/2008 4:02:09 AM   
bislavegirl4434


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Status: offline 		Thank You Ironitulstahp Yes, this is my first 'proper' s/M relationship. All others have just been kinky sex, no actual 'control' outside the bedroom. My main concern with these other girls, is not that they are contacting Him, but the fact that He is regularly in contact with them through his work, and through a couple of His hobbies. It worries me that while He may just be doing something He loves, He may also be flirting with these other girls. Why else would a sub stil be sending Him raunchy pictures after two years?

Do I trust Him? ...I'd love to say yes.. but i'm not sure that would be the conplete truth. I trust Him with me. I know He would always look after me... but i don't trust Him with these other girls.

He isn't trying to hide anything, no, but i do not see why He needs naked pictures of girls everywhere (maybe its just a male thing... !?) and i don't see how its any different to me having a close guy friend... *sighs*

No, the pictures don't do anything for me, because they are intended to attract my Master into going back with them. I will play with other girls, sure, but not any of His old hoes.

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RE: Master's 'old' girls... help?! - 2/21/2008 4:07:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		God i hate that, "Old Hoes" seriously women have a lot to answer for, just because they are his ex's doesnt make them hoes. You really need to talk to him about this, and not hate the women, has he told them hes with someone? Has he asked them to stop? lots of things you need to find out really. But a picture doesnt = cheating

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RE: Master's 'old' girls... help?! - 2/21/2008 4:28:17 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yes I'd say there are some trust issues here. He may enjoy the attention that these ladies are pouring his way, if he didn't he could surely stop it. I can't imagine why an "ex" sub would send pictures and emails saying the things that you claim these women are saying unless they felt they really had a chance of them coming true.

I think you need to sit down and have a talk with him, just because he is your Master doesn't mean you can't speak up respectfully. If he doesn't want you to speak up then I'd say there are more problems then just ex subs sending pics/emails.

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RE: Master's 'old' girls... help?! - 2/21/2008 4:36:14 AM   
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RE: Master's 'old' girls... help?! - 2/21/2008 4:38:10 AM   
bislavegirl4434


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Status: offline 		I think He has the power to stop it if He wanted. I mean, yeah, work could be a problem, but the emails and texts and voice messages could be stopped quite easily. I think. Which is what has me worried that maybe everythings not as innocent as He makes out.

I know He has a past, and i know He has trained other subs/slaves, but i didn't realise just how close they all appeared.

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RE: Master's 'old' girls... help?! - 2/21/2008 4:47:22 AM   
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I will play with other girls, sure, but not any of His old hoes.


i have to chime in...i hate that women use this term when referring to a partner's former female interests.  As Colouredin has pointed out, just because they are His "ex's", that does not make them "hoes"...it's like referring to yourself as a hoe in context with one of YOUR former relationships.

Insecurity is a touchy thing.  i can understand the distaste at your Sir receiving emails, texts and pictures, but as others have stated, He's chosen you. If you are insecure or having doubts about His commitment to you and the relationship you and He have, then it really needs to be discussed with Him at length.

Good luck and i wish you the best in sorting the issue out.

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RE: Master's 'old' girls... help?! - 2/21/2008 4:51:25 AM   
bislavegirl4434


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Status: offline 		Thanks SubinMaine. And i know you and colouredin have a point, that i shouldn't call girls that, especially since i don't want that label on myself...

I'll try talking to Him. Hopefully it will help. Thanks for the advice guys!

xx

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RE: Master's 'old' girls... help?! - 2/21/2008 5:16:42 AM   
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Status: offline 		If the only communication he has with these women is sexual in tone, then I have to wonder why he's still in contact with them when he claims to be only interested in you. Because the truth is, that if he never responded, they would have quit sending these messages a long time ago.

I also wonder why he would be telling you of these texts, and showing them to you, except to make you jealous. Apparently he thinks that making you feel threatened and unsafe will have you begging him to cane your breasts like he did theirs. It doesn't demonstrate much intelligence on his part.

And if he's still encouraging these women, even though he's claimed to not be interested, then I think you're being set up for poly/threesomes, with the cry of "fuck what I promised, I am teh master and don't have to keep my word" coming shortly in the future.

But being 53, I'm a cynic.

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RE: Master's 'old' girls... help?! - 2/21/2008 5:19:08 AM   
bislavegirl4434


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Status: offline 		DesFIP; Thats exactly what i'm worried about. The occasional threesome/another girl is fine. But He always promised I would be the only one for Him. that He only ever had one girl at a time. It seems he is going back on his word.

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RE: Master's 'old' girls... help?! - 2/21/2008 5:36:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		He made you cut contact with one of your friends but he still maintains contact with women who send naked pics / dirty messages. Something is kind of smelly.

You're young, bislave, and inexperienced. I don't know how old your master is but he doesn't sound like he's overly mature himself, regardless of his age.

Does he have time to play with these women? Does he smell freshly showered or like sex when he gets home? Do you have a home you can get back to easily?

Lots of lessons in here and I hope you learn them well so that you don't make these same mistakes again. I am sorry.

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RE: Master's 'old' girls... help?! - 2/21/2008 5:39:52 AM   
bislavegirl4434


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Status: offline 		He's 37, i'm 18.

No, he doesn't have time for another woman, he works in a school, so is up and at school by 8.30 every morning, and home just after 4. Which seems resonable to me. After that he has his writting career, which means he spends alot of time in his study typing away. Apart from his 'social outings' (which often include me or running off to the gym to return hot and sweaty) I don't see how he could see these girls.

I just don't like the fact that one of them (his most recent girl) is his boss.

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RE: Master's 'old' girls... help?! - 2/21/2008 5:44:23 AM   
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He's 37, i'm 18.  
GULP!!! Umm, interesting tidbit, that....

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