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RE: Would you consider this going too far? - 2/29/2008 4:57:07 PM   
HopeLost


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Status: offline 		um  i definately agree with all the others posts. have you ever um ....ah... maybe... considered telling her how much you want her or what she means to you? maybe you should try honesty and communication before you try blackmail? just my opinion

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RE: Would you consider this going too far? - 2/29/2008 5:46:35 PM   
carlie310


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Status: offline 		If he does that, she might not realize that he's scum quite as soon.

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RE: Would you consider this going too far? - 3/1/2008 3:18:43 AM   
Aileen1968


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ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave

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How do you play "blackmail"  and how do you stop?
Is it a fantasy? or do you really threaten your sub/slave"with something?

It's a real kink.  I've seen it as a subset of "financial domination," advertised by online Dommes only.  She "makes" the guy pose in various humiliating ways, and threatens to send the pics around unless he gives her a credit card that he pays the bills on.  It's worth pointing out, though, that this is a 100% consensual business relationship.



OH Damn, I was going to pop on this thread today and give everybody an ultimatum that I wanted Aileen's naked ass caged and air frieghted to my doorstep by midnight tonight or else I'm gonna squeal on everybody here to their spouses, parents, UMs, and places of employment.   I have to do something with all these stacks of yellow folders I've been keeping on you guys.   LOL...

Oh yeah, make certain she's slathered up in baby oil really good too and I want a case full of Green M&M's while you all are at it.  

First person that ships me a case of Ben & Jerry's Chunky Monkey, I'll make your folder permantly disappear. 






Would the cage have a pillow and could that case of Ben and Jerry's be packed inside during shipment?

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RE: Would you consider this going too far? - 3/1/2008 3:22:08 AM   
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stupid DOES hurt.

the problem is, it rarely ends up hurting the stupid one, mostly those who have to witness the stupidity.

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RE: Would you consider this going too far? - 3/1/2008 3:48:49 AM   
sunshinemiss


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Hmm, I did blackmail a sub that I met in a chatroom once.  Got her to come out to my place where I tied her up and had my way with her, and 'forced' her to have sex with my slaves.  I had my digital camera handy, so I acquired even better blackmail material for the future. 

However, she had previously mentioned that being blackmailed turned her on.  And she 'accidently' let slip an avenue that I could use for blackmailing her.  She seemed rather pleased that I picked up on the cues.  So it was all in good fun, and I never had any intention of outing her to her roommates.  (Oops, if she reads this I may have just ruined the fantasy for her.)  

Blackmail as a game/fantasy can be fun.  Non-consensually blackmailing someone with a threat of seriously disrupting their life is abusive, unethical, and irresponsible. 




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RE: Would you consider this going too far? - 3/1/2008 7:14:29 AM   
SummerWind


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Status: offline 		I've "trained' a married sub.  I never needed to threaten her to have her do what I wanted.  I view it as a weakness on your part if you need to use that tactic. 

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RE: Would you consider this going too far? - 3/1/2008 4:41:01 PM   
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ORIGINAL: want2try1

Background:
I have been considering a "very good" married sub for the last month or so that enjoys similar areas as I do, even some darker ones too. They are some of the reasons I decided to consider her as My sub in the first place. she has just recently told Me that she is getting a divorce and has to "lay low" until she can get on her feet and then be able to resume her consideration. I feel for her situation and the pain she is going to experience.
Question:
I am in a position that would allow Me to use her situation to My advantage. I want to know Your opinion on whether or not to as to what would You do, threaten her with telling her husband so she will do everything I say and more or let the opportunity slip by and possibly lose her for good? Some will think that I am a total bastard for thinking of being so cruel and some would relish to be in My shoes. That's why I ask here and am curious to see what everyone has to say. If you want more details to help with an answer, just pm Me and I will get back to you.


I consider capitalizing words like me" and "my" to be going too far into wanker land. It's almost as bad as blackmail, or fucking around with someone else's wife.

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RE: Would you consider this going too far? - 3/1/2008 7:54:12 PM   
corsetgirl


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Status: offline 		And what could you possibly gain from outing her to her soon to be ex-husband?  Divorce is a very stressful time and you are going to put her through more stress by blakmailing her, simply because you just have to have your needs met?!  I thought a dom was supposed to nurture, cherish and protect a sub, not be selfish. 

I know when I was divorced, I needed some time to be alone and evaluate some future choices I wanted to make considering my marriage was filled with domestic violence. 

If you do this, consider the fact that you might have an angry ex-husband who may stalk, harrass and hurt you or as the other previous posters would say, you might be with Bubba, the cellmate who would think you are sexy for him. 

The other worse case would be if you told this ex-husband and he owned a few handguns, he could possibly kill you, your sub and him, which would be very tragic for all parties.

Please reconsider your motives.



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RE: Would you consider this going too far? - 3/3/2008 8:16:32 PM   
BikerDomRealTime


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Status: offline 		To me it would not be honorable thing to do, pretty low actually.  Bastard is not the word that comes to my mind and I certainly would not relish being in your shoes.  It is not something I would do, nor would I hold anyone in high regards that did such a thing.

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RE: Would you consider this going too far? - 3/3/2008 8:20:31 PM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		I don't think what your doing is "cruel" I think its stupid. Not only will you lose her but you risk getting her and yourself hurt or killed. A Dominant is supposed to take care of their property not put them in harms way.

If you require a sub who will do whatever you say, get a unmarried no limit slave, I hear they have lots of them available in Nigeria.

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RE: Would you consider this going too far? - 3/3/2008 8:48:02 PM   
IronOre


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Status: offline 		I wish people would stop using 'sociopath' as an insult, insinuating that's the sort of thing they do. Just because I am a sociopath doesn't make me a bad person. OK so it does, but it doesn't mean I have no integrity or that I am stupid. He doesn't want to do it because he is a sociopath, it is because he isn't smart enough to have thought of it and let a bad idea go.


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RE: Would you consider this going too far? - 3/3/2008 9:34:05 PM   
Leatherist


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I wish people would stop using 'sociopath' as an insult, insinuating that's the sort of thing they do. Just because I am a sociopath doesn't make me a bad person. OK so it does, but it doesn't mean I have no integrity or that I am stupid. He doesn't want to do it because he is a sociopath, it is because he isn't smart enough to have thought of it and let a bad idea go.



Exactly. Being a GOOD sociopath means staying a step or two ahead of the morons.

Only the incompetent ones get tagged before the game plays out.

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RE: Would you consider this going too far? - 3/4/2008 5:23:45 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think (hope) ya'll are kidding, but, I think the reason people use the word sociopath is because a sociopath does not have a conscience the way most of us do.

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RE: Would you consider this going too far? - 3/4/2008 6:45:31 AM   
Rogue86


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Status: offline 		Yes, I would consider using her situation 'against' her going too far.  From my perspective, it would be inappropriate.  It feels like a violation of trust, which I think is the foundation of power exchange in the first place.  A betrayal that has the capacity for real harm.

- Rogue

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RE: Would you consider this going too far? - 3/4/2008 7:18:26 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		Most of us have a conscience?  Easy for you to say blushes . Laying there all cute like. Looks like most of you all are just bad poets. How can you blackmail anyone. The paper is white.

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RE: Would you consider this going too far? - 3/4/2008 3:05:17 PM   
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VOLCANO!!! Nice to see you on the message boards!!! My my my... *it's getting warm in here...


Well, the forums at the other place were getting old and tedious, so I thought I'd check things out here again. 



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RE: Would you consider this going too far? - 3/4/2008 8:29:23 PM   
Kitte9


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Don't try to weasel your fuckin' way out of it, I know you got a checkbook around here somewhere, and you better figure out how you are gonna pay for the check I write, cause I am not a man of insignificant appetite......

Did you come?

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bwahahahahahaha! you slay me!

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RE: Would you consider this going too far? - 3/4/2008 8:31:15 PM   
masterfixer


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Status: offline 		this is a no brainer question not for masters

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RE: Would you consider this going too far? - 3/6/2008 12:34:37 PM   
Daddyslilpookie


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Status: offline 		All I can say is Wow can you say PSYCHO! I am shocked as to why you would go this far. I hope she reads this and then runs like hell away from you. You aren't a real Dom but a manipulative freak  no "Real Dom" would do what you are doing. If I were her I would get the hell away.

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RE: Would you consider this going too far? - 3/8/2008 7:46:14 AM   
OscarHargraves


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Status: offline 		Why on earth would you WANT to try this? 
 
What possible gain could you get from it? 
 
Do you want this woman (and her husband) to hate you forever more? 
 
Have you considered what he could do to you (other than the shotgun thing) once he settled down and decided to 'get even' with you? 
 
Not to mention the tiny fact that you are forgetting a 'cardinal rule' here.  The Sub ALWAYS has the power in a relationship.  If that Sub doesn't freely give you that power, then you have NO power and you are no longer a Dom.  Think about it.

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