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ORIGINAL: catize

Faced with threats of violence I could be coerced into doing many things……but that is not submission.  I believe it has to come from within, a driving desire to accept the authority of another.  And the one in authority must have the drive and desire to wield their influence in a manner which creates a positive relationship.  Both or all parties involved work together within their agreement if it is to be a viable union.
Before one agrees to ‘anything’ it is wise to find out what exactly that means.
Force me and I may be compelled to acquiesce but I wouldn’t be there for a repeat performance.  Guide me, lead me, inspire me and I will do my best and feel pleased to please the dominant in my life. 

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ORIGINAL: LordShadow

LMFAO...she is owned, she isn't going anywhere.....

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ORIGINAL: xsassykatx

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One thing I love about this site is when someone has a debate and then has to call all those who agree with them to come and post.

xsassykatx I would just like to point out that anything that says true submission with no hint of irony is in fact quite offensive, you are claiming that you are being more true to yourself than others are? how can you possibly know that without living their life? having their feelings or indeed being them. We can only be true to ourself in whatever capacity that is. Being true to myself would mean that i would never put myself in a position that risked serious harm, but then I dont know anyone who would ask to cut my throat or break my arm, therefore I stand by my initial post about realms of reality.

One thing I've always found interesting about threads is how people chose to read between the lines instead of reading what was written and then asking for clarification if they don't understand.  Everything in my post is based on my own opinion and my own personal experiences.  Nowhere, did I say the way anybody else choses to live their life was wrong, only that I've met several submissives from all walks of life, some with limits and happy that they have them, some with limits because they are afraid to let go and so they use it as a sheild and then wonder why they are not happy, and some with limits because they like having their cake and eat it to (being both submissive and dominant by controlling everything around them).  These are not my assumptions, but what I have learned in talking to them and getting to know them.  There are many different paths in this lifestyle and everybody has to find what works for them and then live it to its fullest, one not being more right than the other, only the best fit for the person living it.  It is by getting to know people and reading others views that I learn, not only about them, but about myself.  There are things I read and go "OMG, that would never work for me!" and there are other things I read and simply "sigh" and say "yes, that's for me."

As for LordShadow calling me to come defend him?  Oh please!  I was reading this thread just as all of you and yes, became more interested in it because I know him.  However, it makes me both irritated and laugh when someone cares enough to offer a different point of view and then is attacked for doing so (that irritates me) and all the while the attacker protesting how they are not threatened by that different point of view (that makes me laugh).  I offered my post, perhaps a little in defense of him (albeit he needs none from little ol' me), but because I had an opinion and a thought to express.  Again, all opinions of my own, born out of my own experiences, and all of my own free will, just as I would offer him my arm to do with as he wished.

be well,
kat