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-=BDSM Book List=- - 3/21/2008 11:49:49 AM   

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I wondered if we had any previous threads with a good BDSM book list.  I found several book threads but they were not solely about BDSM reading material.  I thought I would toss a copy of my book list up here for others to add to.  Please list BDSM books only. 
Forgive the copy and paste from my old web page. 



The Surrendered Wife : A Practical Guide to Finding Intimacy, Passion, and Peace with Your Man
by Laura Doyle
Surrendering is coming to terms with reality--that YOU are the only one YOU can change. Doyle gives practical tips and tools for replacing critical, controlling, or nagging behaviors with respect, trust and gratitude. A surrendered wife bravely and courageously commits to making a loving, nurturing marriage the most important goal of all -- and she will receive that and so much more. This book is easy to read, practical, and best of all it WORKS! 

Miss Abernathy's Concise Slave Training Manual
Christina Abernathy
Down-to-earth information, elegantly written, about how consensual owner-slave relationships really work. Realistic, detailed descriptions of slave duties, symbols, sexual exchange, rewards, punishments, contracts and more.

Training With Miss Abernathy : A Workbook for Erotic Slaves and Their Owners
Christina Abernathy
Training with Miss Abernathy is the follow up to Christine Abernathy's excellent book on BDSM training "Miss Abernathy's Concise Slave Training Manual". As the book states, her first book is the theory, while the second book is the practice. The manual contains fifty lessons designed to help the reader explore various elements of BDSM service.

Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns : The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism
Philip Miller, Molly Devon, William A. Granzig
Screw the Roses enthusiastically covers all the basics and even some of the not-so-basics--bondage, negotiation, sex, endorphins, dominance and submission, toys, safety, S/M community, and beyond. It's written primarily from the point of view of male dominant/female submissive interactions, but it's easily translatable into valuable advice for any relationship configuration.

SM 101 : A Realistic Introduction
Jay Wiseman
SM 101 surveys the entire spectrum of consensual sadomasochistic practices from from bondage, to spanking, to erotic role-playing, and more. Now in an expanded second edition, SM 101 includes a new chapter on starting and running sadomasochistic organizations and events for consenting adults.

The Loving Dominant
John Warren
The Loving Dominant is one of the basics. It should be--and often is--required reading before a new partner is willing to consider playing. It covers not only the how-to's, the who's, the what's and the when's, but the why's, as well as providing some great inspirational examples of scenes.

The Ethical Slut : A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities
Dossie Easton, Catherine A. Liszt
Warm, informative details about how to get your needs met, manage your jealousy, make agreements that work for all concerned, talk to your friends and relatives, and build a life full of all the sex and love you want. This book is a great guide for all who are considering changing their twosome to a threesome or other add-on to their primary sex relationship.

The Topping Book : Or, Getting Good at Being Bad
Dossie Easton, Catherine A. Liszt
This is book was a very fun and informative read. It talks about the rights and responsibilities of the Top and what it is like to be a top. It tells you that Tops and bottoms are equals. Dossie and Catherine are always very good about including all genders, preferences, and relationships.

The Bottoming Book: How to Get Terrible Things Done to You by Wonderful People
Dossie Easton, Catherine A. Liszt
Catherine & Dossie give us another great book. It is short and concise and very helpful. The sections on the psychological effects are particularly well explained. The authors repeatedly validate the experience of the person-as-bottom, whether that person identifies solely as a bottom or as a top who desires to experience bottoming, or as the in-betweener who likes it all.

Different Loving : The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission
Gloria G. Brame, Jon Jacobs, Will Brame
They begin by asking "What is normal ?" and note that if "normal" means reproductive relevance as in the Victorian standard, then few are normal. What is clear is that what is painful for some is pleasurable for others, what is unacceptable for some is delightful for others, what is frightening for some is a natural high for others.

Bound to Be Free : The Sm Experience
Charles Moser, J. J. Madeson
Of the vast array of human sexual behaviors and practices, sadomasochism (SM) is probably the least understood and, thus, the most feared among the general public. Moser and Madeson here provide perhaps the first intelligent, fully informed, fact-based discussion of what SM is, what it means to its practitioners, how it is practiced, and the structure of its subculture in contemporary American society.

The Leatherman's Handbook: Silver Jubilee Edition
by Larry Townsend, Jack Fritscher
A good introduction to the gay male SM world of the early 1970s revised briefly for the 2000 edition. It gives a good basic overview of the history of "Old Guard" as well as insights into how different from and similar to gay SM s from het SM.

The Leatherman's Handbook: The Original
by Larry Townsend
Anyone wanting to learn the "Old Guard" ways will find many of its roots here.

Exhibitionism for the Shy: Show Off, Dress Up and Talk Hot
by Carol Queen
Carol Queen is absolutely the best. She makes sense out of feelings most people share but are afraid to admit. You should read this little book, especially if you have any shy tendencies. We would all live fuller lives if we could follow half of her truths.

Learning the Ropes: A Basic Guide to Safe and Fun S/m Lovemaking
by Race Bannon
Race Bannon provides some much-appreciated accurate information in this honest and straightforward basic guide to S/M. He explodes prevalent myths about S/M and replaces them with a playground of erotic fantasy and an emphasis on consensuality.  Possibly the most important trait of this book, though, is that it's delightfully devoid of the "This is the One True Way" trap evident in too many sexuality manuals.
Delightful examples of questions and issues that commonly come up during negotiation, useful for both the novice just learning to say yes, and the more experienced hand who has met a new partner. The chapter on "S/M Technique" includes good basic safety and sensation information. A recommended reading list, and a glossary. --Cheryl Trooskin

Sensuous Magic 2 Ed: A Guide to S/M for Adventurous Couples
by Patrick Califia-Rice
Need help with your riding-crop technique? Wonder how to wrap your husband like a mummy?  Sensuous Magic has the answers. Writer, therapist, and sex radical Patrick Califia-Rice has updated his classic introduction to S/M and power play to embrace couples of all persuasions and at every stage of experience. Although not a comprehensive technical guide (you will need a book on rope bondage, for instance, if you want to learn appropriate knots and techniques), Califia-Rice's text offers insightful warnings, advice, and commentary, the kind of guidance you might expect from a seasoned mentor. It is especially well-suited to daring beginners, who can learn the basics on safety and communication, while being titillated by more advanced topics like whip selection and master/slave contracts. --Regina Marler

Sensuous Magic: A Guide for Adventurous Couples
by Pat Califia
Sensuous Magic is clear, succinct and engaging even for the reader for whom S/M isn't the sexual behavior of choice. Califia's prose is soothing, informative and non-judgmentalshe both instructs her reader and explores the territory for them. When she is writing about the dynamics of sex and the technical aspects of it, Califia is the Dr. Ruth of the alternative sexuality set.

The Bride Wore Black Leather...And He Looked Fabulous!: An Etiquette Guide for the Rest of Us
by Drew Campbell
This is an excellent, helpful guide to etiquette for folks who didn't think Miss Manners would work for them - although, as Drew slyly implies, she could! The book offers common-sense advice told humorously and well for folks who move regularly in non-traditional roles and relationship structures.

The Mistress Manual: The Good Girl's Guide to Female Dominance
by Lorelei
It's everything the author says and more. One of the few books that stresses that this should be done for the couple's MUTUAL pleasure. I also think it may be the only book out there that comes from a monogamous loving relationship viewpoint - not that is the only way to go in this lifestyle but very rarely talked about. It's fun, HUMAN, and very very helpful.

The Sexually Dominant Woman: A Workbook for Nervous Beginners
by Lady Green
This was a wonderful book for the curious beginner. It was written in a very clear and open style, defining terms as it went along. The author was careful to explain drawbacks as well as benefits of different types of dominant/submissive play, and gave many safety tips as she went along. Many suggestions for further reading were also given. The book is best for the beginner to BDSM, and works well for both dominant and submissive as a reference. For more experienced players, the safety reminders would be most useful.

Encyclopedia of Unusual Sex Practices
by Brenda Love, Paul Mavrides
What other people do for their pleasure is often shocking--and fascinating. That's why Brenda Love's authoritative and entertaining book is so mesmerizing. From adultery and birth control to computer sex and pubic hair sculpture, Love probes more than 700 topics, including both norms and extremes. 150 line drawings.

The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage
Midori, Craig Morey
Midori shows step by step how to achieve beautiful and exciting Japanese bondage on a variety of genders and body types.  Each chapter starts with a spectacular, tasteful full-color photo of the finished bondage pose -  then goes back and explains with text and line art how each rope and knot is placed to achieve the final result. 


Story of O
Pauline Reage, Jean Paulhan (Preface), Sabine D'Estree (Translator)
Considered a classic, this work is worthy to stand beside the best writings of the Marquis de Sade. This is an ironic and mystical tale of unfreedom that transcends the pornographic and even the erotic. The story is about the love of a beautiful Parisian fashion photographer for Rene. As part of that intense love, she experiences training, bondage, severe sexual and psychological tests. 

Return to the Chateau : Preceded By, a Girl in Love
Pauline Reage, Sabine D' Estree
The sequel to one of the most scandalous and sensational of modern erotic novels. The continued adventures of "O" in a controversial second book. This story's ending is subject to much debate. 

Sleeping Beauty Trilogy
A. N. Roquelaure
A boxed set of erotica by the best-selling author. Rice's enormously successful "Beauty" books are based very loosely on the Sleeping Beauty tale, and explore just about every sexually explicit fantasy imaginable. "Articulate, baroque, and fashionably pornographic".

SM Classics
Susan Wright (Editor), Susan Edited by Wright
A collection of the most important SM nonfiction of the past two decades, edited by a prominent "scene" personality with extensive editorial and writing experience. Features work by a veritable who's who of contemporary SM, including Larry Townsend, John Warren, John Preston, Laura Antoniou, Pat Califia, Joseph W. Bean Fakir Musafar, and many others.

Servants of the Cane
by Lisette Ashton
Levi L Cane is notorious for writing some of the world's most depraved stories. His tales of bondage, punishment and sexual torment are always graphic and he has been acclaimed for his attention to explicit detail. After reading only one novel, Rose is convinced that she doesn't want to know anything more about the author, or discover the secret of how he develops his stories. But fate and circumstances work against Rose, leaving her trapped and at the mercy of the novelist. Despite her reluctance, she is soon on the verge of learning all about his meticulous research and, with the help of the Servants of the Cane, it is a lesson she will never forget.

A Desirable Property
by Nicole Dere
When their plane is hijacked and forced to land in the African state of Leontondo, lovely Jane Freeman and petite redhead, Moira Kinsella, soon learn that their chief hope of survival lays in total submission to the will of their captors, in particular the beautiful, sadistic Krista, whose passion for her victims is matched only by her cruelty.Jane and Moira, together with young American Nicki Ginsburg and air-stewardess Anita Simpson, are also compelled to serve as amusement for General Koloba, Leontondo`s ruthless dictator, and his henchmen.Reunited with their husbands, Jane and Moira remain confined, during which time the quartet become involved in an exotically intricate combined relationship. Jack, Moira`s domineering and manipulative partner, is involved in secret negotiations, so that instead of the freedom they hoped for, the other three find themselves sold as slaves to the infamous Lord Staith, prisoners on his tropical island of Kendu, from which there will be no reprieve.

The Market Place Series
A diverse world of pansexual sadomasochistic delights. These are "must read" classics in our culture! Recommended highly by this webmaster. - Kalon Eric

The Marketplace (The Market Place Series, 1)
by Sara Adamson
Ms. Adamson's friendly, conversational writing style perfectly couches what to some will be shocking material. 

The Slave (The Marketplace Series, 2)
Laura Antoniou
The second volume in The Marketplace trilogy. The Slave covers the experience of one exceptionally talented submissive who longs to join the ranks of those who have proven themselves worthy of entry into the Marketplace. But the price, while delicious, is staggeringly high.

The Trainer (The Marketplace Series, 3)
by Laura Antoniou
The long-awaited conclusion of Adamson's stunning Marketplace Trilogy! Now these mentors divulge their own secrets, and the desires that led them to become the ultimate figures of authority.

The Academy: Tales of the Marketplace (The Marketplace Series, 4)
by Laura Antoniou
If you've read the first three books in this series, you'll be well equipped you jump into the Academy and learn along side the trainers and spotters. Many questions from the previous novels are answered in intelligent and arousing ways. 

The Reunion
*Note:  The Reunion is the 5th book in this series.  It was released in 2002 and as of 2004 it was already into its' second printing.  I have a copy of this in my library.  I will scan the cover and add info and link asap. 

Other Great BDSM Book Lists

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(D/s Lifestyle Books)
(D/s Flavored Erotica Books) 
(Pulp "BDSM" Fiction)
Books on Sexuality)

Books to consider adding to list
Webmaster's note to self
Venus in Furs by Leopold von Sacher-Masoch (original of the term masochism)
The Reunion by Laura Antoniou (work log:, info listed, need to add link and pic)
Exit to Eden by Anne Rampling (Anne Rice)
Kushiel's Legacy saga by Jacqueline Carey (girly romance novels starring Phedre an extreme masochist)
Kushiel's Dart
Kushiel's Avatar
Kushiel's Scion
Kushiel's Justice
Kushiel's Chosen

By Marquis de Sade
Justine or the Misfortunes of Virtue Written By Marquis De Sade
Justine, Philosophy in the Bedroom, and Other Writings by Marquis De Sade
JUSTINE or Good Conduct Well Chastised by The Marquis de Sade and Rex Saviour
The 120 Days of Sodom and Other Writings by Marquis De Sade
Letters From Prison by Marquis de Sade and Richard Seaver (my fav)
Juliette by Marquis de Sade
The Crimes of Love by Marquis de Sade and David Coward
Philosophy in the Boudoir: Or, The Immoral Mentors by Marquis de Sade, Tomer Hanuka, Francine Du Plessix-Gray, and Joachim Neugroschel
Incest by Marquis de Sade
The Gothic Tales of the Marquis De Sade by Marquis de Sade and Margaret Crosland
Three Complete Novels; Justine, Philosophy in the Bedroom, Eugenie de Franval and Other Writings by Marquis De Sade (this is the only version of The 120 Days of Sodom published as Eugenie that I know of)
Betrayal by Marquis de Sade, John Burnside, and Andrew Brown
Journal Inedit by Marquis De Sade
Oeuvres Vol. 2 (Bibliotheque de la Pleiade) by Marquis de Sade and Michel Delon (Leather Bound)
Oeuvres complètes, tome 11 : Notes littéraires, Couplets et pièces de circonstance, Notes pour les Journées de Florbelle, Journal de Charenton, Lettres de Charenton et testament, La Marquise de Gange by Marquis de Sade (Paperback)

Studies in the Marquis de Sade
Marquis de Sade: his life and works. (1899) by Iwan Bloch
Sade Mon Prochain. (1947) by Pierre Klossowski
Lautréamont and Sade. (1949) by Maurice Blanchot
The Marquis de Sade, a biography. (1961) by Gilbert Lély
The life and ideas of the Marquis de Sade. (1963) by Geoffrey Gorer
Sade, Fourier, Loyola. (1971) by Roland Barthes
The Sadeian Woman: An Exercise in Cultural Histry. (1979) by Angela Carter
Writing and the Experience of Limits. (1982) by Philippe Sollers
The Marquis de Sade: the man, his works, and his critics: an annotated bibliography. (1986) by Colette Verger Michael
The Misfits: A Study of Sexual Outsiders. (1988) by Colin Wilson
Sade, his ethics and rhetoric. (1989) collection of essays, edited by Colette Verger Michael
Marquis de Sade: A Biography. (1991) by Maurice Lever
Dark Eros: The Imagination of Sadism. (1995) by Thomas Moore
The philosophy of the Marquis de Sade. (1995) by Timo Airaksinen
Sade contre l'Être suprême. (1996) by Philippe Sollers
An Erotic Beyond: Sade. (1998) by Octavio Paz
Sade: A Biographical Essay. (1998) by Laurence L. Bongie
The Marquis de Sade: a life. (1999) by Neil Schaeffer
At Home With the Marquis de Sade: A Life. (1999) by Francine du Plessix Gray
Sade: from materialism to pornography. (2002) by Caroline Warman
Marquis de Sade: the genius of passion. (2003) by Ronald Hayman

Dear web visitors, I am sorry to say that I lost my Marquis de Sade book collection in the 1990.  I have listed all his books for my own future reference and research,  I recall being very fond of an older version of Letters From Prison.  A concept from that book has stuck with me all these years.  He explains how morals are a matter of geographical location.  There are 3 or 4 really good books by or about the Marquis de Sade and I will sort out which ones they were asap.


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RE: -=BDSM Book List=- - 3/21/2008 11:57:34 AM   

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The only few that I waould add to those would be:

"Romance of the Rod" a historical perspective on whipping, flogging and paddling.

"The 12 Cesars" a historical account of the sex lives of Rome's most famous leaders


"Sex and the Occult" (which is a bit of a mis-nomer) a historical account of extreme sexual practices conducted by their believers throughout antiquity.

Sorry that I don't have the authors names or publishers listed, but I don't have the books handy at the moment.

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RE: -=BDSM Book List=- - 3/21/2008 11:57:49 AM   

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I'm told that this is a better beginner's bondage book that Wiseman's. Although, as always, Wiseman is the expert on how to do what we do as safely as possible.


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RE: -=BDSM Book List=- - 4/8/2008 6:27:18 PM   

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Doing It for Daddy by Patrick Califia

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RE: -=BDSM Book List=- - 4/8/2008 6:53:56 PM   

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I'm told that this is a better beginner's bondage book that Wiseman's. Although, as always, Wiseman is the expert on how to do what we do as safely as possible.

Personally i like Lee's book better but obviously i am sort of biased. second one down.


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RE: -=BDSM Book List=- - 4/8/2008 6:57:30 PM   

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Anything by Dossie Easton

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RE: -=BDSM Book List=- - 4/8/2008 9:28:54 PM   

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thank you all for additions to the list 


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RE: -=BDSM Book List=- - 4/8/2008 11:23:55 PM   

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RE: -=BDSM Book List=- - 4/8/2008 11:33:19 PM   

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I also learned a lot from SlaveCraft: Roadmaps for Erotic Servitude--Principles, Skills and Tools by Guy Baldwin. 

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RE: -=BDSM Book List=- - 4/8/2008 11:54:53 PM   

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It's a personal favorite of Mine, but I would add The Sensual Art of Female Dominance by Claudia Varrin.


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RE: -=BDSM Book List=- - 4/9/2008 12:35:19 AM   

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I'm told that this is a better beginner's bondage book that Wiseman's. Although, as always, Wiseman is the expert on how to do what we do as safely as possible.

I own this.

The ONLY better Rope Book is the 1963 Edition of the Seaman's Guide to nautical knots.

Two Knotty Boys is simple to follow and LITERALLY Step By Step ILLUSTRATED steps. In a Matter of Moments I had Masters Knots that used to baffle me.


If you explor sexual Bondage Most of these knots are somewhat worthless as Each of these knots require you to have both the Beginning and the end of your rope section and when doing a Bondage Dress most of these knots never look right.

I am NOT an expert on Knots but I did find this book easier to follow than ANY OTHER and I have read QUITE a few.



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RE: -=BDSM Book List=- - 4/9/2008 3:58:21 AM   

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i have read both of Miss Abernthy's books, i have to say they were both  great reading.


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RE: -=BDSM Book List=- - 4/9/2008 7:24:03 AM   

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To add:

Dr Rubel's Books

Both Protocols and Master Slave relations were BOTH good books as is his Power Exchange Magazine if you are interested in subscription please let me know.



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RE: -=BDSM Book List=- - 4/9/2008 9:38:00 AM   

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You've got the ones we recommend listed already, but I'll mention them.

Anyone we meet that is "new" to the scene, we recommend SM101 and Screw the Roses.  We feel they are the best primers out there and actually keep a couple copies of each in our lending library.

For people new to poly, The Ethical Slut is the other important "first book".

As an aside, our local community theater is doing an adaptation of The Ethical Slut.  It promises to be a lot of fun. :)

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RE: -=BDSM Book List=- - 4/9/2008 12:09:46 PM   

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I've been told most recently by Cecilia Tan that my own fiction is very very good....


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RE: -=BDSM Book List=- - 5/26/2008 11:31:46 PM   

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i enjoyed Carrie's Story: An Erotic S/m Novel
by Molly Weatherfield
a fictional story that kept me wet from  front to back cover.


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RE: -=BDSM Book List=- - 9/23/2008 7:57:58 PM   

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Thank you to MasterFireMaam for the links in her signature.  I didn’t want to lose these lists if she ever quits the forums or goes down.  It looks like she had to bounce the humungous Amazon URLs through in order to fit them in her sig.  Thank you for again your efforts, your lists serve the community well.  /salute

MasterFireMaam’s direct links to Amazon list
MS Relationship Books
BDSM How To Books

I noticed some nice books in those lists that aren’t in this thread yet.  Even though I haven’t read them I am posting a few of them that had good reviews or familiar authors.
-Ms Relationship Books-
Some awesome looking new M/s books!

(This will be the next book I buy!)
Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice (M/s Studies Books) 
by PhD Robert J Rubel (2006)
I include this book because it was given a good review by a friend and notable leader in the leather community.  She said:
“I am amazed at what I am learning from this book. It seems the answers to all the little problems I have been struggling with are here. I had the pleasure of meeting the author at an event in Florida recently and I can tell you his workshops are excellent and he does a fantastic job of summing it all up for you in this wonderful book.  I am having a hard time putting it down and have put a lot of the information to good use already. This is a must have for anyone trying to master an M/s relationship…”

Others said:
“Learn everything you need to know about dominant and submissive relationships in one explicit volume. You'll even learn how to find your own slave.”

“It amazes me that knowledge that took me years to learn is now available in 7 easy steps. The book can accelerate your journey into BDSM by a decade.”

“Wow! An A to Z discussion of what goes into developing and maintaining a Leather Master/slave relationship. This guy clearly knows what he's talking about. Rubel begins by defining his terms, moves through self examination, touches on ways of finding a slave, describes how to begin such a relationship, moves through collars and contracts and ends up with a slightly irreverent section called: "How's it Going?"

“Where Dr. Rubel excels here is in the details. He has a background as a financial CEO, and it shows. Protocol is the greatest part of Dr. Rubel's definition to Master/slave relationships, and references to manners and etiquette are liberally used. Also frequently placed throughout "Master/slave Relations" are fragments of commentary attributed to well known Master and slave individuals, allowing for additional gravitas from outside sources. This is no "whip'em into shape" handbook. "Master/slave Relations" aims to mold more than pulverize.”
SlaveCraft: Roadmaps for Erotic Servitude--Principles, Skills and Tools
by Guy Baldwin (2002)
Guy Baldwin, author of Ties That Bind, joins forces with a grateful slave to produce this gripping and personal account on the subject of consenual slavery. 

Reviewers either loved it or hated it.  It’s probably a great book.  I suspect one reviewer said it best:
“This book, just like Guy Baldwin himself, is likely to stir up strong emotions for years to come. By focusing on the personal and individual journey of someone who imagines himself as a slave, this book challenges several of the assumptions current in the gay SM subculture.”
The Path of Service: Guideposts for Excellence (S/M Tech Educational) 
by Christina Parker (2007)
“I love the way she has incorporated both the quotes and assignments. They make you think deeply about service and how it is an integral part of our lives.”

“The author has given a prompt or assignment at the top of each page, and you fill out the lines beneath. If you are seeking to learn about the lifestyle, this book should not be your first choice. If you are seeking to learn about yourself, well, this book might be a very good learning tool for you.”
Manual Creation: Defining the Structure of an M/s Household 
by Machele Kindle

“… Machele Kindle, otherwise known as Master Fire, lays out her reasoning and purpose behind her own M/s household's structure. Her approach is purposeful, meant to help her readers consider what they want and how to get it while being grounded in reality. … A good look into one master's mind that does not fall into the common trap of thinking hers is the only way a relationship should function.”

“Overall it was decently written and covers a lot of ground. Worth a look if you've never created a manual.”

-BDSM How To Books-
Kinkycrafts: 99 Do-It-Yourself S/m Toys for the Kinky Handyperson 
by Lady Green
“If you are good with crafts and building things and you are kinky, then this is a great book for you. The 99 different projections range from simple 10 minute creations to furniture that will take a few days to make. Cost to make also varies from a buck or two to over a hundred dollars.”

“Kinkycrafts contains 99 "Do it Yourself" S&M projects organized into six major catagories: bondage furniture,... pain toys, flagellation toys, restraints, sexual toys and unclassifiable (items like tongue condoms and tool racks). Each project has instructions, a materials list, cost estimate, time estimate and a picture.”
The Family Jewels: A Guide to Male Genital Play and Torment 
by Hardy Haberman
“I found this book to be easy to read, well organized and very informative for the beginner. It covers safety issues and guidelines, as well as offers suggestions for play.”

“…Haberman's book is really focused on creating intense or simply pleasurable sensations for male genitals in ways that do not involve intercourse. The book has four main divisions: anatomy, safety (please don't skip over this one), basics & toys of CBT, and finally a collection of nine short stories to demonstrate the first three sections. The stories aren't really arousing, they are more instructive. If CBT is something you've thought about but know little about, this is a great place to get information.”
The Toybag Guide To Foot And Shoe Worship (Toybag Guide) 
by Midori
“I wanted to research the topic on foot fetish but didn't know where to start so I bought this book and was everything I needed to get started on my foot fetish research. It's for the starter foot fetishist to the most extreme.”

“Midori successfully takes a complex subject and presents it simply in this toybag book. Her writing draws in and guides new foot and shoe worshippers through step by step suggestions and images, and adds new tips and tricks for the experienced enthusiasts. The book covers everything from pampering and sensual games to torture and intense power dynamics, whether you're on top, bottom, or in between. Good for the library, coffee table, golf bag, or bathroom magazine rack.”

“This little book comes with many suggestions and opens your eyes to the realm of endless possibilities.”

“This book spells out some fantastic ideas for foot and shoe worship for everyone - from the beginner on up -- from lush recipes for foot-pampering scrubs and soaks, to meticulous, wicked ideas of how to incorporate foot/shoe worship into practically every type and perspective of D/s relationship.”


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RE: -=BDSM Book List=- - 9/23/2008 9:06:06 PM   

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Hello, RS!

One that has been recommended to me before (and is on my to-read list) was "The Ties That Bind", by Vanessa Duries (some pages have her sur name listed as Ouries, i'm not sure why).


This is an autobiographical story. It tells the story of Laika, a young student, who is initiated to BDSM and then her evolution as a slave, and also of her growing love relationship with her master, Pierre. It also provides some insight into the devastating effects of the revelation of her sexual orientation on her relationship with her parents.

Wikipedia page.
Amazon page.

Just thought i would put this out there.  Hope this helps!



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RE: -=BDSM Book List=- - 9/23/2008 10:02:49 PM   

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Kinky Girl's Guide to Dating

was a great read....


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RE: -=BDSM Book List=- - 9/24/2008 1:27:54 AM   

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*Starts googling/amazoning/ebaying*

I love books. So, so very much! ... Keep 'em coming?

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