Just saw this one as a newbie,I loved the list. Some of my personal favorites not on the list:
-Macho Sluts, by Patrick Califia
-The Beauty Series by Anne Rice
As far as the Gor books go, I realize a lot of people love them, and there is subculture that uses it as the basis for their style, and while acknowledging that, i saw what an earlier poster had written about being reluctant to recommend it, and I kind of agree. No, I don't believe as some seem to that the Gor books are a disaster to BD/SM, but rather that I have run into people who think Gor is a training manual or about bd/sm and seem to take almost a fundamentalist idea that 'this is how you do it' (which I blame them for, not the book). There used to be an old joke years ago about what do you do if you run into a dominant who says they learned everything from Gore, and the the answer is run away..... What some people forget IMHO is that these are books of fiction with a BD/SM like theme to them, and more importantly,they depict a fictional universe, not reality, which leaves out that there is a real world out there, with real lives and human emotions. Patterning real life BD/SM relationships, M/s relationships, after the books while taking reality into mind is cool IMO; but trying to live it in reality can lead to issues, and like the original posters, i know people, both M and s, who have gotten screwed up by trying to take it literally. One of the strong attractions to lifestyle BD/SM for me is the fantasy element of it, of being able to live into something so different while doing so living in 'the real world', so I perfectly understand the attraction of those into the Gor lifestyle, but I also respect there is a line between fantasy and reality. Fiction can inspire us, but reality has to guide us, too.