SteelofUtah
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Joined: 10/2/2007 From: St George Utah Status: offline
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**Fair Warning I am Agitated this morning and that may reflect in this post** Okay, I have some comments. Since when is a relationship between two people supposed to be Easy? BDSM has to be one of the HARDEST things to get involved in if you ACTUALLY WANT A RELATIONSHIP. If I just wanted pussy I have had so many offers that my wife was afraid that I was going to start bringing home strays. Truth be told "A peice of ass is easy to come by, Peace of Mind is hard to find." Lets get something straight. The INTERNET does NOT a relationship make, what it does is PROLONG the Getting to know you phase because once you actually DO meet you STILL have to GET TO KNOW ONE ANOTHER. So lets call the Net what it is, The next evolution in further seperating us from having to open up. On the net anyone can be anyone they want. You can be the BIG BRAVE Chest Thumper "Obey Me girl" Huge Nut Sack Uber DOM. So Dominant that all the letters are capitalized when in reality you are a 30 something, lower middle class nobody who still lives with his parents and managed to never quite get over puberty or at very least Acne. you can be the Tempting Seductress with the Huge Tits and the small waist and the Long Flowing Hair and a Pussy that the Knights Templar once mistook for the Holy Grail, when in reality your Tits are only huge because you are 250 pounds OVER WEIGHT and they can touch the ground if you bend over slighly and the long flowing Hair Stays on a Manniquin Head so you don't crush the curls while you sleep. The subs often have a HUGE CHIP on thier shoulder which was usually put there by a Dominant with a Larger Chip on thier shoulder. No one Trusts ANYONE and because of this everyone puts up these HUGE walls. People have learned that New often means Stupid and so they are easy prey for the "I am Master, I am Lord, obey me and let me get some nude pictures of you Masturbating with a Loaded Shot Gun." and the SAD thing is IT WORKS AT LEAST ONCE Because if it didn't then they wouldn't keep trying. You get girls who have NEVER done ANY of the things they say they want and so often when they find someone to do them they realize that Fantasy and Reality RARELY MIX WELL and when they do it still doesn't always match up expectation wise. So To address the OP...... Guess what? You are FAR from alone, but getting upset about it and pinning your own stupid mistakes on EVERY DOM just makes those that ARE worth a damn see you as damaged good and NOT WORTH THE EFFORT. Why? Well look if someone has to break down your defenses, Just to then have to convince you that they are different, to then have to deal with you still not trusting them untill you get over your resentments of other Dom's...... Guess what, I'm gunna find someone who actually WANTS to give it a shot rather than someone who wants a full Dossier on your full history in BDSM and then wants to find a reason why NOT to trust you rather than looking at the reasons tou trust you. Just NOT worth my time. I am sure that these submissives could be AWESOME girls, might even make the BEST submissive ever, But you know life is too short to deal with someones irrational mistrust of me because of something someone else did. So here's the deal before you get all attached and Devoted. SPEND A WEEK WITH THEM. I mean a FULL WEEK, and see if there is fire. No fire, No flame, no future. NUFF SAID. I Move quickly so trust me this has been the GREAT equalizer. Either they are willing to visit within the first 3 months, and willing to spend a WEEK together within the first 6 to 9 months, and willing to do it again before the Year (One goes one time the other goes the other time). Now I know MANY people who didn't do it this way and it still worked...... GREAT for you ..... Me this is how I do it and if you aren't willing then I guess we just aren't compatible, because trust me the person who is right for ME will see why this is important and why it is necesary. Okay I have bitched and pissed and moan'd long enough. OP don't blame every Dom for the actions of am Online Few. As Always Steel
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