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RE: Daddy/Daughter on 60 minutes - 4/23/2008 10:41:33 PM   
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Well if you go off of what major religions state. We all came from the same two people and are all brothers and sisters in the eyes of their god.

Daddy/daughter to me is where my Partner is several years older then me and has the ability to teach me the world through his experiences in life. He teaches me everything I need to know, in a kind nurturing way. Much like a father teaches its child.

Im sorry shes 30 some years old, and the older you are the harder it is to get pregnant. Would you terminate a child just because it could have this or that when you know it might be the last chance you have at bringing a little baby girl and or boy in the world. Next your going to say anyone whos gotten prengant off of rape the child should be killed because it was brought into the world in an immoral way.

The point is you allow someone to control that they cant do this with their body and cant love who they love. It doesnt matter if you dont like it. But you give someone the freedom to say, No This in this context is bad. Your opening up the door to those people to anything or anyone they dont like to being stoped because this makes it wrong...

Power is like a drug a little tiny bit of it is not enough, the power to control anothers life is a high that can not be replicated, the power of thousands of millions of lives. Is like handing loaded weapons to little Ums. Absolute power corrupts absolutely...

Theres a reason why we have 3 seperate branches in the goverment, that can check and balance each other so that none become to powerful...

What two consenting adults, Do in their bedroom, is what two consenting adults do in their bedroom Its not for you or me or anyone else to judge or say this is wrong this shouldnt happen unless its endangering those that can not consent.

Sure that girl might be raised with a bit of a messed up life, but she has 2 parents that LOVE her, which is more then most ums get these days...


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RE: Daddy/Daughter on 60 minutes - 4/24/2008 12:20:18 AM   
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Quick reply to many....


Hopeless:   These people are not making choices or otherwise operating in an informational vacuum.  Both of the highlighted cases involve moving towards a deeper relationship with the blood connection already known AND with said blood connection being the primary reason for meeting in the first place.  Therein lies the uncontrolled self-gratification qualities of these individuals.  As for not knowing and then getting involved with someone, the burden of expectation would be on breaking it off immediately upon discovery. Just like someone would in a situation where, say as a believer of monogamy, are dating someone and find out they happen to be married. People have properly and successfully ended relationships over lesser issues of discovery than this. Only the selfish types try to keep things going, rationalizing in their head.    



Black:   I certainly am not a fan of nanny states, and do believe government is on a mission to control its people, but we as a society have not been very good stewards of our own destiny.  Cases like these in the story amount to us walking into the jail cell, locking the door, and handing the key to government. Can our decline of freedoms ever be more self-inflicted?    



Tsatske:   I do admit that I dont understand the attraction to age play in a "life's too busy to be dealing with adults who act like babies" kinda way, but you got it wrong. I am curious as to what the attraction is to the roleplay, and whether that desire to mimic such with non-blood partners does indeed come from a little too much "kissing cousins" in one's past.  I'm curious as to what triggers the mental attraction to it. And whether many who are a fan of age play use it to edge closer to behaving like those in the story.   So you can drop the "we're being persecuted" bit.

I do have another question for you tho, in your dealings with the Downs kids, do you volunteer or get paid?  If you get paid, Im curious if its public monies that fund your work, either direct funding or SSI Disability that is "laundered" by private enterprise (parents of the kids get the govt check, and pay a private co. that pays you). If you are working with the kids on the taxpayer dime, then yes, as someone footing the bill, I do have a say in whether we should allow, as a matter of public policy, continuing procreating behavior that generates more genetically-challenged kids needlessly.  Its like the stockholder who reminds the CEO that I don’t work for him, but he works for me.  Does restricting procreation among high risk people create some distant future evolutionary jackpot like adjusting the tilt of the earth, I don’t know. But that’s a fairly cosmic case of "forks in the road and all that", and is not really germane to the discussion of the present day problem, now is it.  

If you are someone who demands the right to live as you want and damn the consequences, then how about being a little more self-sufficient in the process.  You can't bitch about government laws that restrict this kind of behavior, engage in the behavior, and then turn to the government first thing for the funding to help raise a challenged child. I suspect that many of the "hands off" advocates on here are speaking from the perspective of never having actually carried the burden of being financially responsible for raising a disabled child without government help.  I doubt their response would be the same should the chickens come home to roost personally. The "Hands off" attitude would take a back seat pretty quick. 



I tried to be good, I was going to pass on commenting on any of this, then I saw this. I just couldn't let this go...


Are you serious????? I don't even know where to start. How do you even come up with such a idiotic, selfish, hateful idea? Are you seriously saying that you as a taxpayer have the right to say who can and can't have kids based on whether a kid just might have a disability that you think you will have to pay for? Please please tell me you are joking. How can you be that cold hearted and that unfeeling? Have you ever met a disabled child? Have you ever spent time with one? Or do you just hate them right off the bat because a tiny percentage of your tax money goes to programs and funds for them? How can you even compare human life to money?

I know let's just get rid of all the disabled kids. Hey if they are gone then you won't have to pay taxes for programs for them. And while we are at it let's get rid of all the poor people of the world too. Cause you know some of your tax money goes to them too. Hmmm let's see who else can we get rid of.....well how about schools? Money from your property taxes goes into schools, we can't have that can we. We wouldn't want some of your precious money to get used for something meaningful. I just have to ask, what exactly would you be spending this hard earned money on if it didn't go to taxes? I mean it must be something super important right? What is it? Cars, toys, electronics? Im just curious, for you to be so abdament about it not going for disabled kids it must be something important. So what is it?

Im stepping off my soapbox now. To the Mods who will probably remove this post I apoligize but I just couldn't believe that he actually said that and I stand by what I said.

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RE: Daddy/Daughter on 60 minutes - 4/24/2008 6:11:07 AM   
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I believe in people being accountable to their choices, and if they are unable to be accountable, restrict their choice. Its not on the other guy to cover for the consequences of your choice.  I realize that this concept probably doesnt go over too well here in zanadu, so I accept criticism.  

If some of you want to be drama queens and go translating the act of holding adults responsible into throwing disabled kids under the bus, thats your issue.



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RE: Daddy/Daughter on 60 minutes - 4/24/2008 6:50:43 AM   
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I do have another question for you tho, in your dealings with the Downs kids, do you volunteer or get paid?  If you get paid, I'm curious if its public monies that fund your work, either direct funding or SSI Disability that is "laundered" by private enterprise (parents of the kids get the govt check, and pay a private co. that pays you). If you are working with the kids on the taxpayer dime, then yes, as someone footing the bill, I do have a say in whether we should allow, as a matter of public policy, continuing procreating behavior that generates more genetically-challenged kids needlessly.  Its like the stockholder who reminds the CEO that I don’t work for him, but he works for me. 


No, you don't have that right, and I will tell you why I feel that way.
First, I am currently a stay at home pet, because I recently moved to Master. But when I have worked with these kids, in my case, it was in afterschool environments. In Philly, in the after school program of a private school aimed at special needs kids, and in my hometown, with the Y, where special needs kids were mixed with unchallenged kids. But, it really wouldn't matter to you if I got paid or not, even though that is what you asked (oops, I didn't mean to not answer your question - yes, I got paid). Because SOMEONE was getting paid. The parents were paying for afterschool care, although these were kids who lived at home. In Philly, I did watch as one of the girls - not a downs girl, a mentally challenged, tourettes, ADD/ODD child, deteriorated to the point, with her growing and maturing, that her parents had to take her out of the program and quit having her live at home and send her to an appropriate boarding school. But even if it was some church/charity program where EVERYONE was an unpaid volunteer, that would not satisfy your objections, because there would still be expenses, and bills to be paid.
My problem with your objection is rather complex, but I will try to explain it. Yes, most parents with handicapped kids do get government monies. But, lets face it, all they are doing is following rule #1 (if they offer money, take it). You probably would too. Did you turn down your 'Economic incentive' this year?
You also 'foot the bill' for public school. Does that mean you have the absolute right to say who, when and how many kids anyone can have? Even though you not only pay for them to attend school, you make laws (you being a member of the society who is represented by a government that you helped select) saying they MUST go to school, therefore accepting that money is not even an option, its a law. Yes, there are ways around it, but they are either cumbersome or expensive, and to insure that only people not planning to use the public school system, or other socialist aspects of our society, procreate, you are going to have to get VERY involved in who receives a license to reproduce.
Here's the thing. You (as a member of the society who is represented by a government of your choosing) chose to offer this money. Now, it is perfectly valid to chose to stop offering it - although this, being a Democracy, you may find some resistance from others who belive in offering that money, and not just the recipients. But, you'll just have to use the Democratic process like everyone else and try to push your view through. Nothing wrong with that. But, if you quit offering the money, that is fine.
But telling someone, 'Hey, I was going to pay you to do that' or even, 'I have a history of paying you to do that, so therefore I have the right to tell you NOT to do it', is ludicrous. Imagine me walking up to you on the street and saying, 'Hey, I was thinking about giving everyone who rides a motorcycle $100 this year, but I've rethought it, and I don't actually approve of motorcycles. So, as someone who WAS planning to give you money, I have the right to demand that you never ride another motorcycle!' You'd try and have my ass committed, or walk away and ignore me, more likely.
We have socialist interests in our society. As long as we keep choosing, as a democracy, to do that, that is fine. But they don't give us the right to tell people how to live, because we happen to be handing out money. It gives us the right to quit handing out money - and that is all.
The Constitution gives the Federal Government, in the vast majority of cases, only ONE way to attempt to control states - give them money, or withhold money you were offering. The federal government, for instance, can not tell states what the speed limit should be - but it can offer money to help maintain roads, and then say, you can only have that money if you use our ideal speed limit.
And, yes, people could turn down the money. But aside from the fact that people generally do not break rule number 1 (Some people do. I am a Mentally Ill person, and I do not receive disability. Not because I think it is wrong for anyone else, but because I believe that disability comes with rules <don't succeed at a job, for instance> that are not conducive to ME maintaining the highest level of mental health that I can manage). But other than it being counterintuitive to break rule #1, it is also not generally useful, most of the time, where the government is concerned. The government does not tend to say, 'Here is money, you can have it if you X,Y,Z'; they say, 'Here, have some money. Oh, btw, we gave some people some money, now everybody X,Y,Z or your going to jail, rather you were one of the ones who took the money or not'. In some cases, that makes sense and is necessary, but not always. So, yes, they take the money, because whatever control is going to be handed down is going to be there rather they take the money or not.
And, no, I do not think you have the right to tell people who can have kids, - although you do have every right to lobby for law changes to change to whom you give socialist support and money to. Just my opinion, of course.

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RE: Daddy/Daughter on 60 minutes - 4/24/2008 11:24:41 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DedicatedDom40




I tried to be good, I was going to pass on commenting on any of this, then I saw this. I just couldn't let this go...


Are you serious????? I don't even know where to start. How do you even come up with such a idiotic, selfish, hateful idea? Are you seriously saying that you as a taxpayer have the right to say who can and can't have kids based on whether a kid just might have a disability that you think you will have to pay for? Please please tell me you are joking. How can you be that cold hearted and that unfeeling?


Sub03?

Our government has taken that very action in the past. It wasnt until the 1970's a mere 32 years ago that they were forced to stop, and even more recently that they have made it a choice the handicapped have, that their parents cannot automatically override or choose for them.

An excerpt from http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/cgi/content/full/104/2/337 

At the beginning of the 20th century, in conjunction with prevalent ideas about the social utility of "improving" human genetic stock (eugenics), sterilization was encouraged or even required by state laws and practiced in ways now regarded as discriminatory and abusive. Women were prevented from reproducing based on physical disability, behavioral characteristics, or membership in socially disfavored groups or because of cognitive disabilities that did not necessarily prevent them from fulfilling parental roles.3-5

However, in 1942, in accord with more enlightened social and biological perspectives, support for reproductive freedom was growing. In that year, the US Supreme Court declared human procreation to be a fundamental right, prompting major changes in the legal landscape.6 Obtaining authorization to sterilize individuals, including those with developmental disabilities, became substantially more difficult, if not prohibited in some jurisdictions.7 Beginning in the 1970s, regulations prevented the use of federal monies to perform sterilization procedures on those deemed mentally incompetent.4 The complexities of federal rules, state laws, and judicial rulings have created a confusing and contradictory array of restrictions on surgical sterilization of persons with developmental disabilities.

Here is the kicker to that however:

http://www.geocities.com/CapitolHill/9118/mike2.html
http://muse.jhu.edu/demo/american_indian_quarterly/v024/24.3lawrence.html

In 1975 alone, some 25,000 Native American women were permanently sterilized--many after being coerced, misinformed, or threatened. One former IHS nurse reported the use of tubal ligation on "uncooperative" or "alcoholic" women into the 1990s."



Now, as repugnant as this may be, and should have caused a huge hew and cry it didn't. Moreover, in the 1970's came that lovely action of closing hospitals and institutions and "streeting" the patients. People many without families that would take them in, many of whom could not and cannot take care of themselves. The average person headed to work on the street or trains, averts their eyes and skirts around the person standing there screaming, talking to invisible people or just begging for a few coins for food. I watched as one woman stood naked in the snow by the Port Authority screaming and begging for help and ignored by every passenger that was headed out of the Port. I called the police to help her. No one else even stopped or made eye contact.

We take care of those who have Downs or Spina Bifida, CP, but ignore and refuse to see those who are Schizophrenic, have Dementia, Alzheimers unless they have family who can afford to place them privately in care facilities or dedicate a caregiver to care for them. That is a pretty heavy burden to lay on the general public who won't even stop to drop a coin in a hat to give someone a meal for the day. Our foster care systems are over burdened and just don't work, but children are dropped into it daily, many with handicaps, HIV or addicted to drugs their birth mother took during pregancy. We have few enough shelters for runaways, the homeless, the lost, and the few we have are barely making it through the grace of a handful of people who care and volunteer and grants. Grants that are cut short to fund bridges to nowhere, Opera Houses that will rarely be used, and new stadiums for Millionaire Football and Baseball teams. Our representatives each have their favorite pork barrel to fund, rarely is that pork related to education, health or the lost.

Don't be so surprised that someone who doesn't have a family member who is handicapped professes a reluctance to fund care for them at the public purse or even that someone who has born that burden is reluctant as well. Our own Government fosters that very attitude every day as they cut more and more beds, medical care and support to those who cannot help themselves and gifts it to those who don't need the help (the wealthy), or those outside our own country. 3 Trillion Dollars in debt and we support the world..but not ourselves.

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RE: Daddy/Daughter on 60 minutes - 4/24/2008 1:00:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DedicatedDom40
I do have another question for you tho, in your dealings with the Downs kids, do you volunteer or get paid?  If you get paid, Im curious if its public monies that fund your work, either direct funding or SSI Disability that is "laundered" by private enterprise (parents of the kids get the govt check, and pay a private co. that pays you). If you are working with the kids on the taxpayer dime, then yes, as someone footing the bill, I do have a say in whether we should allow, as a matter of public policy, continuing procreating behavior that generates more genetically-challenged kids needlessly.  Its like the stockholder who reminds the CEO that I don’t work for him, but he works for me.  Does restricting procreation among high risk people create some distant future evolutionary jackpot like adjusting the tilt of the earth, I don’t know. But that’s a fairly cosmic case of "forks in the road and all that", and is not really germane to the discussion of the present day problem, now is it.  

If you are someone who demands the right to live as you want and damn the consequences, then how about being a little more self-sufficient in the process.  You can't bitch about government laws that restrict this kind of behavior, engage in the behavior, and then turn to the government first thing for the funding to help raise a challenged child. I suspect that many of the "hands off" advocates on here are speaking from the perspective of never having actually carried the burden of being financially responsible for raising a disabled child without government help.  I doubt their response would be the same should the chickens come home to roost personally. The "Hands off" attitude would take a back seat pretty quick. 



Are you serious????? I don't even know where to start. How do you even come up with such a idiotic, selfish, hateful idea? Are you seriously saying that you as a taxpayer have the right to say who can and can't have kids based on whether a kid just might have a disability that you think you will have to pay for? Please please tell me you are joking. How can you be that cold hearted and that unfeeling? Have you ever met a disabled child? Have you ever spent time with one? Or do you just hate them right off the bat because a tiny percentage of your tax money goes to programs and funds for them? How can you even compare human life to money?

I know let's just get rid of all the disabled kids. Hey if they are gone then you won't have to pay taxes for programs for them. And while we are at it let's get rid of all the poor people of the world too. Cause you know some of your tax money goes to them too. Hmmm let's see who else can we get rid of.....well how about schools? Money from your property taxes goes into schools, we can't have that can we. We wouldn't want some of your precious money to get used for something meaningful. I just have to ask, what exactly would you be spending this hard earned money on if it didn't go to taxes? I mean it must be something super important right? What is it? Cars, toys, electronics? Im just curious, for you to be so abdament about it not going for disabled kids it must be something important. So what is it?


See...it's this bleeding heart mentally that kills me with humans. Animals kill and abandon the weak and yet humans have this odd urge to make the strong ones take care of the weak ones. It's insane.

When a horse can't walk anymore they get shot. If a lion can't hunt, it gets left behind. Yet all of a sudden when a human being gets broken it means spending tons of money to make their flawed life better. Modern medicine has made society weak.

Whatever happened to survival of the fittiest, where ones who could survive do and the ones that can't fall off the trail. This planet is over populated with people yet we have some sick need to keep making more AND to tend to the ones that aren't really helping society at all. Human emotions, what a double edged sword. We see what needs to be done but we're too emotionally weak to do it. When people have a disabled child they know its life is going to be hard and costly but instead of cutting their losses they're emotionally bonded because it's their child.

So many posts in this thread complain about the children of these people. Gasp that the father/daughter had a child. So bloody what. It's not your child, you'll never meet them and they'll probably never meet you. If it came out healthy or not, they can always make more and if not she already has two. The world won't end because of this, I'm pretty sure if the people who are doing incest have kids, it won't destroy the human race and if it does it just proves how weak we really are.

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RE: Daddy/Daughter on 60 minutes - 4/24/2008 2:07:39 PM   
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and what is that reason....because society says so? less than 200 years ago interbreeding among families was the only way to ensure a "pure" blood line. I agree that immediate families members can face genetic abnomolies (sp?) but there is no reason 1st or 2nd cousins can't breed. The real issues appear after several genertions of interbreeding a gene pool, just look at historic royal familes. besides breeding isn't the issue here, it is love.


In the UK thanks to Henry 8th marriage to your cousin is all legal and above board. The mad thing is though, that should you decide to, having sex or marrying your step-brother or sister is illegal! No direct blood-line, so whereb is the logic in that?

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RE: Daddy/Daughter on 60 minutes - 4/24/2008 5:09:42 PM   
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In the UK thanks to Henry 8th marriage to your cousin is all legal and above board. The mad thing is though, that should you decide to, having sex or marrying your step-brother or sister is illegal! No direct blood-line, so whereb is the logic in that?


I can't imagine, except to suspect that it is a church throwoff.
My children have an Aunt and Uncle who are step sister and brother, married with 5 beautiful daughters.
They were already dating, that is how their parents met. Because they are Catholic, the Catholic church would not allow them to marry in the Eyes of the Church if they had ever 'lived together as sister and brother'. So when their parents married, the young man moved out and on his own to preserve theri right to marry, which they later did.

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RE: Daddy/Daughter on 60 minutes - 4/24/2008 7:54:59 PM   
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See...it's this bleeding heart mentally that kills me with humans. Animals kill and abandon the weak and yet humans have this odd urge to make the strong ones take care of the weak ones. It's insane.

Whatever happened to survival of the fittiest, where ones who could survive do and the ones that can't fall off the trail.


It initially fell out of favor when the Spartans were assimilated into the Roman Empire around 146 BCE. It rose again in many 2nd and 3rd world and "barbaric"countries with the infirm, aged and disabled who unable to work were abandoned, drowned or left on the ice to die. In many Asian countries as well as India and some African cultures, female children were abandoned or slain by those too poor to bear the burden of raising a girl who would be far less useful in the fields than a male child and who would require a dowery to marry them off. Alternately some who were handicapped in portenous ways were fed and cared for by the entire village and still recieve such care these days. A girl child was born in India recently who has two faces, the entire village contributes to her care as the living representative of one of their pantheon of gods. You can find a video and information regarding her on MSN if you search.

In the U.S. and in quite a few European countries, while the handicapped and mentally ill were not actively killed often if there was a marketable deformaty  e.g. the Lobster Boy and Tom Thumb or uniqueness that piqued peoples interest they were 'sold" or hired by traveling circuses and medicine shows. Many of them earned a good living, up until around the 1960's/70's when the circus sideshows came under fire for the exhibitions as being against  dignity. Many found themselves unemployed and unemployable and retired to a town here in Florida named Gibsonton which had been the winter headquarters for many acts and shows.  Savings, the midway games and Soc Security Disabiltiy was all that was left to them to earn a living as regular employers weren't interested in hireing them. The 10n1 shows have begun to make a comeback on some circuits but most of the actors in them are swordswallowers and those who have tattoo'd themselves to the extreme or do the Human Blockhead acts. No one will pay these days to see the Seal Girl (someone who through genetics or thalidomide has flippers for limbs). Many go on to be very productive people, no one remarks at dwarves or midgets these days and with computers and telecommuting there is a lot that can be done even by someone who shies away from the public.

So man has kept several ways of the culling the herd, unfortunately it doesn't always cull those who need it.

War and the Draft takes our best, and our youngest and if they come back many of them are broken or shell shocked. Now they have started sending Felons into the military..right, they will survive and come back, better trained in how to use a gun and how to fight a running battle. Real good thought there. Anyone ever think of just dropping them in antartica? Deadlock had a reall good idea there.

Famine and disease takes another portion, though disease far less than one would expect because it is lucrative to produce drugs that don't cure but instead maintain them. Stem cell research could possibly cure..can't have that, immoral to use what will go to the biohazard dump and be destroyed, or is that immoral to cure what we can make money from by selling them drug and insurance and services?

Lots of recreational drug use out there, fight the war on drugs and keep the prices high and the wars in the street or have the government hand them out and kick the price supports right out from under them and stop blowing away kids on the corner trying to shoot the other drug dealer. They want to kill themselves taking drugs..here's a compound, earn your keep keeping it maintained and drug yourself into oblivion..we'll cremate you when you do.Oh and druggie? No Kids for you, it's the price of your free drugs.

Yeah I can sound a bit cynical, but after 55 years on this earth I have seen more than my share of the good and the bad. as i said I believe in social and biological darwinism..just wish they would stop wasting the useful ones.

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RE: Daddy/Daughter on 60 minutes - 4/26/2008 11:58:40 AM   
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Maybe Star Wars should be made illegal. Luke and Leiah have a few make out scenes after all. And who knows what might have happened if Luke never put two and two together.
Seriously though, I do think the big issue here is love. As others have stated this is not my thing in particular. But if two people sincerely love each other that way then it is not my right to say what they should do, regardless of how they are related. Logic, science, they may be all and good but what makes us human is emotion. You cannot tell somone how or what to feel.
Wait! Don't the Amish inbreed? How is it ok for a sub-culture but not for people in general?
I read an article on Nicola Tesla once and in that it was stated that he promoted the idea of selective breeding. How would you feel if this caught on? And to think I used to think he was a genius.

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RE: Daddy/Daughter on 60 minutes - 4/26/2008 12:16:01 PM   
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WHOA..ok..I MUST interject..BlueTiger. Off the bat..Your Wrong. Leaih only kissed Luke once in front of Solo to spite him(Solo) because Solo was being an ass. Other than that. Luke & Leiah not ever kissed an had a few seemingly intimate  scenes but those were due to the story, such as luke losing his hand at Bespin(Cloud City) and at the death of Obiwan. I am HUGE Star Wars/Sith fan. I know all about Star Wars there is to know. As far as "Who knows" How can it not happen about who his sister is and who his father is..How could he not ever find out? To do so of NOT finding out would ruin the story of the greatest Scifi tale ever told. Apperently your not all too keen onthe ways of the Sith or Jedi.  btw..I'ma huge Sith Fan..the jedi are weak ass peices of shit.

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RE: Daddy/Daughter on 60 minutes - 4/26/2008 1:45:12 PM   
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RE: Daddy/Daughter on 60 minutes - 4/26/2008 3:28:39 PM   
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Just thought of another angle. This is hypothetical so please don't take this the wrong way. Say if sometime in the future medical science progresses to the point where birth defects become a non-issue. For those who use this as there main argument would it change your stance on the issue and why? Remeber I want to keep this friendly, we are all entitled to our opinions.

I have actually heard of studies into the possibilities, though most are rather controversial. This could be a possibility in the future, though not likely anytime soon.

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RE: Daddy/Daughter on 60 minutes - 4/27/2008 6:48:24 AM   
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An interesting hypothesis BT as well as question. If there is no restriction against breeding due to a removal of potential birth defects and disease would it be morally permissable for related persons to wed? Answer is probably still No. Please to remember that while same sex partners cannot breed, there is still a great deal of public outcry against it being allowed as a potentail marriage combination sanctioned by church and state.

There is a lot more that goes into this than simply the fact that they are far to close to breed without running major risks. After all small tribes in South America, Africa etc don't have that large a gene pool to pull from and yet they survive.. well mostly as more than 1 has died out due to isolation. Majorically they manage through trade/fostering/capture of women, men and children to widen their gene pools successfully however, there is still an anathema against inter-familial wedding. So where in lies the problem if there is no issue with tissue exchange?

Emotions.

Where there has been no contact between the child (now adult) and the adult involved in the initial post for many years, one cannot help but wonder IF that lack of the other person in their own lives, crossed with the imprinted affection a child has for parent and vice versa (keeps us from killing them at birth, usually) did not foster the growth of adult love and allow for them to mistake one for the other initially.People consistently mistake NRE (new relationship euphoria) for love and wonder where it has all gone in a year or so. This could be a manifestation of that parental bond mistaken for love as well. Parental bonds generally for the human does not fade like it does for most animals and mammals. Once the critter is weaned and reaches adolesence as evidenced by menses and development of secondary sexual characteristics they are driven from the herd, pride etc to find their own with little parental connection remaining. We tend to carry on our parental bonds well into the death of the adult parents and beyond. Perhaps it was this capacity that allowed us to bond in such ways that we developed permanent villages and cities that extended our ability to dominate the earth to the extent we have. But this self same bonding also carries an inherent boobytrap.

When an adult that a child trusts and relies on engages in sexual activities either before that child is physically ready for such or even afterwards, emotional damage is generally the result. It is a deep betrayal of that trust, often extremely painful and shameful for the child. Part of this is sexual mores that we live under, but, please understand very often the child does not know it is legally wrong, indeed may have no concept of it legally or morally, but feels it any way. There are some tribes where the adult male or female of a family deflowers the adolescent as part of a rite of adulthood, but even there it is once, done generally as a tribe wide rite or part of the marriage ceremony, and never repeated. I suspect we in the 1st and 2nd worlds will never offer up such support as to make it acceptible here.

I could be wrong of course but I suspect, such couplings will continue to be an anathema, even if we launch ourselves into space seekng another planet to inhabit and destroy, in family groups with stored ova and sperm.

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RE: Daddy/Daughter on 60 minutes - 4/27/2008 9:33:18 AM   
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someone asked me what I thought about that genetic... thingy recently.. I had no idea what they were talking about... not my thing...

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RE: Daddy/Daughter on 60 minutes - 4/27/2008 10:58:38 AM   
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When an adult that a child trusts and relies on engages in sexual activities either before that child is physically ready for such or even afterwards, emotional damage is generally the result. It is a deep betrayal of that trust, often extremely painful and shameful for the child. Part of this is sexual mores that we live under, but, please understand very often the child does not know it is legally wrong, indeed may have no concept of it legally or morally, but feels it any way. There are some tribes where the adult male or female of a family deflowers the adolescent as part of a rite of adulthood, but even there it is once, done generally as a tribe wide rite or part of the marriage ceremony, and never repeated. I suspect we in the 1st and 2nd worlds will never offer up such support as to make it acceptible here.

I could be wrong of course but I suspect, such couplings will continue to be an anathema, even if we launch ourselves into space seekng another planet to inhabit and destroy, in family groups with stored ova and sperm.

poenkitten

You have a lot of interesting ideas and seem quite knowledgeable. However this last part concerns me. As with anything else in the lifestyle I am refering to actions between consenting adults. No children, nothing forced, no deceit. I just wanted to make that clear.

I have noticed it seems like you use the term incest synonemously with something much more vile. I won't ask why as I am sure you have a very good and personal reason for this.

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RE: Daddy/Daughter on 60 minutes - 4/27/2008 3:55:48 PM   
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incestuous relationships invoke a revulsion ... why?

ive read through the thread and there are those that are open minded to it and those that downright repel it.  but im still not completely sure why its repellant to some and not to others.  i dont believe its the argument about a child being born with special needs or medical needs.  kids are born with these every day of every year without any incestuous connections.

maybe its too close behind the daddy/uncle/big brother abusing a child emotive that kicks us off.

the point here is that in both cases we have consenting adults who know the laws and taboos but cannot give up on their feelings.  i truly feel for them.  im not repelled but neither can i honestly say that im rooting for them. 

with regard to the original question making a parrallel with daddy/daughter relationships in bdsm i think it does have a bearing.  freud said that there is always a sexual frisson between father and daughter and between mother and son.. not sure if i agree, but certainly we develop our later relationships from what we take from our parental role model.

when that parental role model isnt around, from, in my case 8 years old, what results is often a fairly hit and miss approach to men until you work out what it is that works for you.

i can see how it is possible for the daughter in this documentary to have probably missed that father figure in her life, and when she met the architect of her design it worked and filled a massive void.  so i can see how it can happen, im just not sure thats a good enough reason to do it.  why not?... im damned if i know.

we are all animals, and animals have an innate understanding of how things work best for their species, the young males are sent from the pack, herd whatever for good reason.  its all about natural selection, keeping the gene pool varied and our species strong, perhaps its just instinctive and perhaps we shouldnt mess with instinct in our attempts to be tolerant and open minded.

the romans inbred and what a load of mad sick bastards they were. 

so for one or two related couples to procreate is manageable, but society has to say no in the strongest terms to prevent the thing becoming acceptable and prevalent.... methinks

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RE: Daddy/Daughter on 60 minutes - 4/27/2008 4:11:23 PM   
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In actuallity BlueTiger I use the word incest in the way it is defined. The definition has no age limit to either side, 0 months to the grave it applies to anyone of significant relations genetically as well as emotionally. Adoptive parents can be incestuous with their children (adult or non)  even though genetically they have no blood relationship, as can steps, halves, etc. There is an emotional component to incest not just genetic as far as humans are concerned, and that has to do with the bond between the individuals, mentally, emotionally and not just physically. No matter how old I become (currently 55) I will always be my parents child and my son will be my son no matter how old he grows. Emotionally there is a bond and a presupposition of respect, safety and guidance, whether it happens in actuallity or not. It is one of the reasons that no matter how badly our parents have treated us, we still have some love for them, we may not like them, may never talk to them and actively shun them, that core bond is still going to be there. Imprinting, not just for baby chicks or chimps any more.

I was initially hesitant to discuss the child (as adolescent) instead of child (generic of any age) but the example was a prime model for the emotions I wished to discuss. Yes, presumably unless you have been raised under a rock you are extremely aware of the moral problems inherent in an incestuous relationship, but alas, I suspect one could make a case for that rock if you consider the plight of the Texas polygamous family in the current news. Since they were extremely isolated, while very much interelated from all accounts, every child was raised by the "village" so to speak, that means they were being married off to the very people they looked to for religious guidance, schooling, teaching, and were emotionally reliant on. Adult and child. The teenagers are of the same age as your great grandparents were when they wed most likely so one would be hard put to say they were not adults at least as far as their society is concerned, yet, one would also be hard set to prove they were not damaged by either the removal from the safety of their families or by the marriage to one who stood in loco parentis to them.  At the very least they are going to face culture shock as everything they have believed in is torn asunder regarding marriage and families throuygh exposure to other morals and the law.

The persons involved in the 60 minute broadcast did not even have that excuse to say what they did was not against the law. They knew it was and flaunted it so to speak, seeking a "psychological" excuse for doing what they knew to be wrong legally. I for one am tired of the Twinkie Defense, the devil made me do it defense and the I am not to blame it was (whatever). They made their choice, and while it would be nice if the government didn't step in and say what you are doing in your bedroom is right or wrong, until we as adults tell the government and religion collectively to butt out.. they will continue to keep laws on the books against incest which is ultimately what this uis, relationship as parent or not.

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RE: Daddy/Daughter on 60 minutes - 4/27/2008 7:35:07 PM   
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  Oh boy .... when did HUNDREDS of years become "pretty quick" ? all those issues and problems occure after generations of breeding back to the original sire or dame.

Beside this issue isn't about "true" incest, BP, This is called Genetic Sexual Attraction... it is believed to occure because they do not get to form the "normal" bonds that family members get to form through the natural development of their relationship... We would not consider a mother breastfeeding her child incest would we? Maybe that is what they are treying to recreate but because they are older it manifests in different ways.

So long as children are not brought into it, and I only say that due to the cruelity of other people and children passing judgment on the children themselves, I fully support how anyone wants to live their lives. Hell who are we to judge what makes another happy, so long as it doesn't interfer with our own pursuits.

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Inbreeding gets nasty pretty quickly. Take show dogs... Dalmatians have a high risk of deafness, German Shepherds have a tendency for hip problems, and Bulldogs can't even give birth naturally. (Or so the vet said)

This is why it's illegal... and I really wish I could draw one of those little Punnett square things on this post... makes it easier to explain.





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RE: Daddy/Daughter on 60 minutes - 4/27/2008 7:43:15 PM   
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If we want to stick to the scientific reasons why inbreeding is not wise then we should also expand our criteria to include non-relatives who also have the same genetic markers.  By going with this argument we are making a strong argument for government intervention with all procreations, which I am strongly opposed to.


Exactly! A friend of mine and her first husband have very similiar X chromosomes, and they are totally unrelated,-yet do to the silimarities every daughter she was pregnant with was miscarried and stillborn- and malformed internally or/and externally.

This hate mongering reminds me of Germany 1939.

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