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The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 4:26:37 AM

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Ever get that feeling that all the 'good ones' are taken? Or to far away? Or just to busy with their real lives?

*sigh* I just get a little frustrated sometimes. I have found four Excellent subs on CM. Each one seemed so devoted and perfectly matched for me when we first started communicating. Then, each one seems to have drifted away. They still write, just not as often. They don't even log onto the site.

I guess it's my own darned fault that I'm only interested in the ones who HAVE real lives. They are the more fully rounded personalities. I always said I liked a "spirited" sub who knew his own mind. Then they get caught up in those 'interesting real lives' and just don't have time to sit at a computer and type anymore.

Oh well. There's always the next one. And the one after that. And then another. Like city busses. However, subs aren't really interchangeable. Nor easily replaced when I actually grow fond of one... or two... or four.

(Not ranting. Just whining a bit. I miss my favorites.)

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 4:37:28 AM

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I agree with everything you've said.. and I feel similarly...

that said, the good ones ARE taken for a reason... and I remind myself, in some sense, I'm taken, which means what I have to offer is limited...

and then I remind myself again, I just need one.. that's all I want.. just one..

*grin*

put I feel your.. frustration?

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 4:38:52 AM

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the good ones came from somewhere...so new ones will be on their way ;)

patience little grasshopper

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 4:45:20 AM

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I completely understand what you're getting at. I've had a few come and go that I've really enjoyed talking/emailing with that seemed to fade away over time. While none of them were perfectly matched for Me, there was certainly some good compatibility points, at least on a friendly level. Absolutely some good exchanges that I missed when they dropped off.

I don't consider it a whine thread. I'm sure it happens to all of us.

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 5:23:20 AM

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whineing is still whineing. But your all whineing in a good way.

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 6:07:29 AM

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Well let's see here..east Tennessee is about 8 hours away from maybe more.Add to the fact that my wife is from East Tennessee and well..you get the idea.Now there are forces at work here that will allow this marriage to continue or it will end it permanently but then i would be on my way back to New York also permanently because it seems as if all the good Dominas are taken also..either by sub/slaves they have already collared and don't need another or they are married as well.I am a realist..i know i am not wanted by anyone as long as i am married and i accept that.But as tempting as the OP is..wel MsStarlett..you are married as well.Regardless of how happy you are or unhappy,there is no way i would even consider contacting you..and that is just stating a fact..no offense meant at all.

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 6:45:06 AM

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No offence taken, Chezzy. Yep. I'm married and have a teen at home. So my real time with a sub is very limited. (My profile also says I'm looking for Online Romance & Friends) The hand full of times I invited a sub to attend a function - a local Munch, a couple of parties at public places - they didn't show. I don't even really blame them for getting cold feet. It's hard to walk into a party or group to meet a person who already knows everyone else there. Sort of like walking into a lion's den.

I also understand that subs are looking for "The ONE" who will be totally devoted to them... and I can't be that. I can't even be totally devoted to the man I married. If I were a 'one man' kind of woman, I wouldn't be HERE would I?

My number 1 favorite is also married Vanilla. He used to travel a lot for work and had lots of 'alone time' on the road. He took a promotion and doesn't have to travel as much. His wife put him to work remodeling the house. I really miss him but can't really complain to much as he was never truely 'mine' to begin with.

Oh well. Some of these guys who write me constantly begging "How may I serve you?" can just keep wondering why I'm so cranky about starting up a new conversation.

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 7:57:18 AM

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No offense intended, but there's a certain amount of irony in reading an OP like this from a married woman looking for a man to serve her on the side.

From the perspective of many good submissives, a married woman is pretty "taken" herself.

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 8:02:00 AM

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MsStarlett , Have you been reading my journal , wow it is like i am on This is your life , and i can so relate to the 'real life " too .

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 8:23:50 AM

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hello,
This is my first post ever

And please take anything i post with a grain of salt, because, no matter how grown up i may try and act, i'm still quite young and immature.

And no, i don't consider your post to be a 'rant'. I've noticed that out of say every 100 profiles, there might be a few that are really genuine. Now, i'm not ever one to judge others - i understand some may be on this site for a 'quickie'. I myself would like to think i'm here for more, however. Making the jump from a website to real life can certainly be a challenge (however, i'd personally rather attend a munch with someone who is already a fixture in the community and therefore could introduce me to others). It's very hard for many (myself included) to speak genuinely when there is a computer screen between him and the person he is exchanging messages with. Sometimes his thoughts can become blurred by this.

Anyways, i agree that there is a reason all the 'good ones' seem to be taken. I'd hope, however, that there are still plenty of them buried under the plethora of bad ones, who would jump at the opportunity to speak with you.

~kevin

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 9:11:51 AM

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atleast you get written to seriously about your profile..i only get... nice tits, nice tattoos, love your hair, love this like that...blah blah...

but im not genuine because i dont offer sex...so my actual profile is ignored.

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 9:18:48 AM

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Gee i was one of the dorks who wrote you and complimented your ink , thinking back i think your hair too but hey both are cool and so are you .I also think i wrote you right after a Faery festival too so shrugs i can not believe you have never been written to seriously ..

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ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl

atleast you get written to seriously about your profile..i only get... nice tits, nice tattoos, love your hair, love this like that...blah blah...

but im not genuine because i dont offer sex...so my actual profile is ignored.

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 9:25:52 AM

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the saying "the grass is greener on the other side" applies here as well

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 9:31:08 AM

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for me its not so much the grass is greener as the grass in the desert will not grow no matter how many times i have loved it and planted the seed and watered and fed it .Ahhh i get it i am the desert and nothing shall grow ..oooh that sucks ..

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 9:44:39 AM

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quote:

Gee i was one of the dorks who wrote you and complimented your ink , thinking back i think your hair too but hey both are cool and so are you .I also think i wrote you right after a Faery festival too so shrugs i can not believe you have never been written to seriously ..

when its two words in an email it is meaningless. it is usually from someone in nigeria, egypt, or other far off places.

why not say "hello...i think you have a well written profile...you know what you want and who you are...i think we may be compatible and i would like to talk to you as to get to know you better...please reply back...thanks."

nooo...never gonna happen..too many hng's out there.

< Message edited by faerytattoodgirl -- 5/19/2008 9:45:53 AM >

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 10:49:53 AM

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For Years i thought my email was broken , thankful some here have proved that not to be the case MsStarlett being one of them TY . Faery i really do not know how some that get those emails day after day put up with it nor handle it , though getting those types of correspondences does make it easy to weed out the people i bet . and i still dig yer ink .

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 12:02:01 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

Ever get that feeling that all the 'good ones' are taken? Or to far away? Or just to busy with their real lives?

*sigh* I just get a little frustrated sometimes. I have found four Excellent subs on CM. Each one seemed so devoted and perfectly matched for me when we first started communicating. Then, each one seems to have drifted away. They still write, just not as often. They don't even log onto the site.

I guess it's my own darned fault that I'm only interested in the ones who HAVE real lives. They are the more fully rounded personalities. I always said I liked a "spirited" sub who knew his own mind. Then they get caught up in those 'interesting real lives' and just don't have time to sit at a computer and type anymore.

Oh well. There's always the next one. And the one after that. And then another. Like city busses. However, subs aren't really interchangeable. Nor easily replaced when I actually grow fond of one... or two... or four.

(Not ranting. Just whining a bit. I miss my favorites.)

When I was searching for a domme, I was always leary of the married ones because I knew I could never be her "one". I was friends with a few dommes, but all were married. I played with a couple of them because we had really good chemistry, but it was disappointing to go home afterwards because I wanted to stay with the one who made me feel good.

All I can say from a subby's point of view, is the right subby for you will find a way to make time for you in his/her busy life. Good ones are out there. They are like finding diamonds in the rough. When you find one, you'll know it.

Just keep your head up. Good luck!

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 12:42:56 PM

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i should probably not come on say anything.
It is a two way street.
Both Mistresses, and subs are looking some are more sincere then others,
some more compatiable then others.
Distance does have a role i have spoken to a few Ladies i adore, but the distance is just to great.

Good subs taken.
Do not know that is fair to say, or think, You are not wrong by no means in Your opinion.
It may be true.
i am more apt to believe that it is like shopping some shoes just do not fit,
no matter how hard You try, or how many times You look, or go back.

i have been looking for a while, and it is very frustrating, to find Your choice was not good !

jim

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 2:08:55 PM

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Firts of all subtreat--how brave of you to post, don't be such a stranger and welcome back to the light---

As for the communication/lack of/ penpal status then fizzle----( and may I say I an proud that no one shoved the---get out into your community issue at this)

If I am going to find Mine, I am going to have to look outside My area--as My area are marrieds, Doms or well just won't fit---I am not going to relocate---so that narrows the field allot---what I seek is like MsStarlett--those with a real life---ok now the field gets narrower--and the commitment to communication gets harder ( and this "where there is a will there is a way"---it works LATER, it doesn't work that way in the beginning)---I don't want someone who hangs on the computer all day--ping ping ping ping---that says to Me--needy--I also don't want someone who does because maybe they don't work---I want someone interesting, fun, with interests that we can share---well people with busy lives are busy people---and that early new communication ends up going by the wayside---so its frustrating---at both ends--I have a busy life-homeschool a graduating senior, demanding job, horses so I'm not here all the time---add to that most of the boys that may have potential are in a different time zone---WHY ARE THEY ALL ON THE WEST COAST?? ok sorry, whiney moment there---I haven't found the solution---the mix of communication, the blend of getting past the interference of life--and no Dominas in the early stages cannot simply command someone to be on line or be there at a certain time---it just doesn't happen that way.

I've given up on a few occasions, I'm close again because I can't seem to find the mix to get through that first log jam.

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 2:21:40 PM

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Remember that a lot of bad ones are taken, too.

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