kiki blue
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Joined: 1/16/2004 From: Brisbane, Australia Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: sub4hire In my own relationship I am my Dominants submissive. That means I have a brain and I think. Yes, sometimes better than he does. He respects me for that. I am in no way beneath him. However, I do submit to him 100%. I often run across the mentality that a slave has no intelligence, no will, no thought process of their own (or that they should). I don't define a slave as someone who has given up all free will. If they have, I don't think it's healthy. I differentiate between slave and submissive by what it is that drives them, in a kink relationship. I see a submissive as someone whose driving force, what gets them going, what floats their boat, as the act of submitting, a pleaser, a server. I see someone as a slave who prefers to give all authority to someone else in a relationship, that they may not love the act of submission as much as their submissive counterparts, but that it's part and parcel of allowing someone else authority over them. Like I've probably said elsewhere on the board, I identify most with the "pleasure slaves", Oriental style, not American slaves. I see my role as being there to be pleasing to my owner, in whatever form that takes. I prefer to have someone else have final authority over me in a relationship - I can function quite well without it, but it's my preference. I don't see slaves as being stuck on automaton, unable to do anything by themselves without permission or guidance (though, I'm sure, such relationships exist). While I may enjoy submitting occasionally, it isn't my driving force, though I will do it as part of the relationship structure. And since I choose what relationships I enter into, I'm also very mindful of choosing partners whose morals and ethics align with mine, and I'm not going to be with someone who would want to chop my legs off or indulge in extreme examples someone may bring up to prove their point.
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