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RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals - 6/6/2008 8:29:28 AM

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this is the snarkiest non-snarky response that i've written in a long time, though most of my posts seem to be coming across that way lately lol.

Not at all, your reply was measured, it was fine - I DID love your crouton allusion though

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RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals - 6/6/2008 8:30:54 AM

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*whisper* do you want answers from 'fresh' subs because they might be easier to pick up on? Just curious */whisper*

I am sure that has nothing to do with it. He sounds like a happily married man.

In more important news: Won't someone please adopt me before I become realllly stale?

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RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals - 6/6/2008 8:31:07 AM

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I have browsed through many profiles of subs and I see a re occuring theme. Why do subs feel the need to tell the entire collar community about the great things that go on between themselves and their Doms?? It is like the family newsletter where the part about Uncle Joe getting a DWI and Aunt Sarah banging the pizza delivery boy are conveniently left out. I have seen too many times, people expressing how perfect their relationship is, how deeply they love, how they found the perfect soul mate and three months later, they are saying the same thing about someone else.

My question is who are you trying to convince???

Coming from 15 years of real life experience: It's usually a combination of trying to convince themselves and gloating. I also have a theory that the more they continue on about "perfect" and "soul mate", the shorter the relationship will be.

The fact of the matter is that a large chunk of people in WIITWD think with their genitals. Another large chunk come into this life and suddenly they're a hot commodity and it goes to their heads. In response, they throw themselves into "lifelong" relationships without really knowing the person they've committed themselves to. They're drunk on a new relationship that consists of kinky sex-BDSM-D/s-M/s. After about three months they figure out that they really don't like the person they're with, end the relationship and repeat.

But I will chastise you for generalization: Not all subs do what you've said they do. My profile says nothing about Master.

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Please if you have over 500 post's do not reply, I would like some fresh insight.

Too bad. It's a public board and anyone can post.

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RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals - 6/6/2008 8:31:10 AM

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What the heck i am gonna answer. I write about my and Masters love in my journal because it makes me happy to do so. I am not trying to convince myself or others it is just something i like to do.

As for the 3 month thing i have been with my Master over 2 years so you must be reading the wrong journals.

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RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals - 6/6/2008 8:31:12 AM

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RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals - 6/6/2008 8:33:49 AM

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Why do subs feel the need to tell the entire collar community about the great things that go on between themselves and their Doms??

perhaps their journal is a place where they can express their joy and share with others. sharing joy can be a very good feeling!!! often, this gives folks reading it warm fuzzies and/or hope.

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My question is who are you trying to convince???

perhaps they aren't...maybe they are merely journalling their experiences without any expectation of convincing anyone of anything. it's not like they have started a post on a community message board asking for folks to respond to their joy with assumed perceptions of intent.

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Please if you have over 500 post's do not reply, I would like some fresh insight.

apologies for our post total not meeting your response criteria.

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RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals - 6/6/2008 8:35:10 AM

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ORIGINAL: CyberDom08

I don't like hearing from people with thousands of post's because as you have demostrated, I think most are interested in just saying something in ridicule.

You opened yourself up forridicule. This thread might have gotten some real answers had you left the last line off. The jokes made are mainly about that, not about your topic. Just sayin.

I have thousands of posts, becasue I have a lot of information to give, and more opinions than I know what to do with. Including on this subject.
Fox has a journal elsewhere, not on here. He doesnt write about the problems we have, becasue we resolve them. Keeping a log of the problems would be a constant reminder of the issue. He will note that there was a bump in the road but it was smoothed out. The bigger impression he has is from the things that go well. He likes sharing his positive experiences for otehrs to read, becasue for so long he was afraid he wouldnt GET to have those experiences tat he wants to make sure others know they are out there. Besides, the positive stuff makes for better reading. Who wants to read a whiny journal full of negativity?

Just my take, discount it if you will, since I hav emore than 6000 posts I cant possibly have anything worthwhile to say.
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PS: the logic behind the fresh subs posting is becasue THEY are the ones who have the 3 month turnovers. Those stale and stable ones dont believe they have found "The One" each and every time.

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RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals - 6/6/2008 8:39:57 AM

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What the heck i am gonna answer. I write about my and Masters love in my journal because it makes me happy to do so. I am not trying to convince myself or others it is just something i like to do.

As for the 3 month thing i have been with my Master over 2 years so you must be reading the wrong journals.

Matt's littleone

Yeah, but I don't think he's referring to someone like you. You're a long term relationship and you're making it work.

He's talking about the "velcro collar" folks. They meet the love of their lives every 3 months or so. I've seen it over and over and over again. It's like a soap opera.

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RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals - 6/6/2008 8:44:19 AM

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PS: the logic behind the fresh subs posting is becasue THEY are the ones who have the 3 month turnovers. Those stale and stable ones dont believe they have found "The One" each and every time.

okay i can see that, but maybe i'm misreading something somewhere. what does post count have to do with that? isn't possible to go through a lot of partners and still have a high post count? like i said it's entirely possible i'm making the wrong connection though.

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RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals - 6/6/2008 8:44:19 AM

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I'll post here too as I'm an equal member to anyone else here, the OP isn't a Mod and there are actually TOS as to what can and can't be posted here and by who. I have yet to read anywhere on CM that membership equates to ownership of this site.

The way I see it I see a pot and I see a kettle. There's two boxes provided for every member on this website, one for a profile, and another for a journal, these are personal spaces for members to do with as they wish subject of course to the TOS.

And as such the content of either lies very clearly beyond any sort of discussion on these boards.

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RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals - 6/6/2008 8:49:00 AM

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I would actually love to write more in public spaces because I love to document, I love to re-read (Anais Nin said something to the effect that if you write about something you get to live it twice). I am also an attention whore and I like to know that other people enjoyed living vicariously through me. He is not the attention whore I am though and so I have to find a balance.

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RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals - 6/6/2008 9:03:14 AM

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Personal attacks are always the first sign, I see that a peson does not have an intelligent answer.

Intelligent answers require intelligent questions.

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My question is who are you trying to convince???

Your mother.

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RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals - 6/6/2008 9:10:22 AM

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Dear Cyberdom, I realize that you will discount anything I say because (1) I have more than 500 posts (2) I'm not likely to come to you to solve all my life problems online as you so wonderously offer in your profile and (3) I'm another male Dominant and therefore, in your rather warped "male house cat" way of viewing the world, I'm competition (tell me bucko, in what world could you compete with Me?). *

Nonetheless, I'd like to address your concern in a serious response: When people are infatuated, they tend to shout it from the rooftops. It is one of the recurring themes of art, literature, music, etc. All of the other comments from the teeming multitude above regarding the ability to post here safely and say things one couldn't otherwise say, and the right to put in one's journal that which one wants to write (so long as the TOS are observed) are all true. But, fundamentally, people like to crow. Shout Hallelujah, come on, get happy.**

Now parenthetically, I will note that when you are down, and troubled, and you need a helping hand***, reading about how lovely subby "A" has found her Lord and Master who is all things wonderful, induces Richter-scale quality orgasms and has just won a Macarthur Fellowship, can be a kick in the nuts. OTH, when you are the subject of such a post from said lovely subby "A", it feels pretty damn good.

Oh, and CyberDom (I just LOVE evocative handles), when you read other people's journals, try try try to remember that maybe, just maybe, "it ain't all about YOU".

Fondly, and with hopes your life will be happier,

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RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals - 6/6/2008 9:13:29 AM

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isn't possible to go through a lot of partners and still have a high post count? like i said it's entirely possible i'm making the wrong connection though.

LMAO, oh, hell, yeah. There are a couple of women in the community out here that I've known for 15 years. And the 3month revolving door has been going on the entire time I've known them. And that's "real life" revolving door, not "cyber life" revolving door. Oy, the drama.

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RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals - 6/6/2008 9:15:06 AM

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isn't possible to go through a lot of partners and still have a high post count? like i said it's entirely possible i'm making the wrong connection though.

LMAO, oh, hell, yeah. There are a couple of women in the community out here that I've known for 15 years. And the 3month revolving door has been going on the entire time I've known them. And that's "real life" revolving door, not "cyber life" revolving door. Oy, the drama.

like i said the connection didn't seem all that clear to me lol.

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RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals - 6/6/2008 9:17:41 AM

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ORIGINAL: fluffyswitch

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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

PS: the logic behind the fresh subs posting is becasue THEY are the ones who have the 3 month turnovers. Those stale and stable ones dont believe they have found "The One" each and every time.

okay i can see that, but maybe i'm misreading something somewhere. what does post count have to do with that? isn't possible to go through a lot of partners and still have a high post count? like i said it's entirely possible i'm making the wrong connection though.

I believe HE is. I am just saying I think I know whre his logic is coming from, but I dont say I agree with it. We have some posters here who are the velcro collar types. We have some who are in long term stable reationships. We have some who have been single the entire time. We also have someone who are continually positive and would write what he talks about in teir journals and others who are private and wouldnt dream of it whether their partners were of 3 months or 3 years...
You cannot generalize. Just like you cant generalize that the more regular posters are going to snark. We can be serous, unless someone else throws the first jab (which he did in the OP) and opens the door for us.

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RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals - 6/6/2008 9:34:25 AM

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To me, posting the negative things about the person you are with is disloyal. There are private journals for the ups and downs, the brain-dumps, etc., that can be shared with just each other. But to put that stuff out there for anybody? No way.

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RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals - 6/6/2008 9:46:04 AM

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Intelligent answers require intelligent people. How old are you?? Ten?? Insulting someone's mother, please. Do you feel like a big man now???

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RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals - 6/6/2008 9:49:13 AM

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Intelligent answers require intelligent people. How old are you?? Ten?? Insulting someone's mother, please. Do you feel like a big man now???

Intelligent answers require intelligent questions. How old are you?? Ten?? Insulting a whole bunch of people based on post count, please. Do you feel like a big man now???

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RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals - 6/6/2008 9:52:48 AM

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Intelligent answers require intelligent people. How old are you?? Ten?? Insulting someone's mother, please. Do you feel like a big man now???