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RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) - 6/18/2008 10:46:00 PM   
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I was going to suggest purchasing a couple of "Naked-Yoga," and/or "Naked-TaiChi" DVDs, but, since you mentioned you do not have a TV that would be pointless... Does anybody know if they still print these things I used to get information from, back in the day, called books?

...anyone?



Well, we do have a television... but when I was replying to the comment, I meant to say that we don't have cable, so it's not a habit of ours to sit on our butts all day in front of XYZ reality television shows. We've tried Yoga but found it hard to stay engaged, I think the nude version might do some good! I'll see if I can find it around. Thanks for the suggestion!


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RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) - 6/18/2008 10:56:58 PM   
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Lots of people are finding the Wii to be a great way to get moving and have fun.  Not me of course - I hate shit like that.  I prefer to get my workout busting balls, making 10 minute shoe dangle videos, and beating the snot out of a painslut.  Frankly, Bella's suggestion is damned brilliant.

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RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) - 6/19/2008 8:00:12 PM   
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I think the thing that works best for a lot of couples is making the commitment to be healthier together. It won't be nagging if you're putting out the effort as well (not that you need to, I think you're gorgeous the way you are... just saying lol) My mom has been struggling to loose weight for years, she too is suffering some health issues because of it. She was never able to stay committed to anything because she always had to work around my dad's schedule and cook separate meals etc. I ended up back home a few months ago, I talked to her about it and about how much it bothered her. After that we decided the WHOLE family would go on the south beach diet (really its not as bad as it sounds, its pretty easy actually and the weight comes off fast) and EVERYONE would find forms of exercise together or separately, as long as they were active every day. Its worked thus far... she's lost about 30 pounds and she's happy to be able to fit into pants with zippers again lol. It sounds like you two are already on the right track and its great that he's even asked you to help :)
Good luck!

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RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) - 6/19/2008 9:36:41 PM   
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If you;ve always wanted a dog or were going to get one anyway great, but getting a dog just so you'll go on walks is irresponcible and unrealistic. What are you going to do with the dog the 99.9 percent of other times, and animals are extreamly expensive to keep and feed properly.
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get a dog - always walk it after dinner together. 
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RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) - 6/23/2008 9:41:56 PM   
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as a former trainer and nutritionist, cut calories, figure out what his normal intake is then go down a third,  no soda and chips, snack on lite things through the day like vegtables to keep the metabolism up, theres no magic diet but something i have seen lately on tv that i have said for years also is protein intake, good for muscle and keeps appetite down, slim fast doesnt offer much protein and is exspensive over time, i say look online and find a 5lb container of whey protein and replace one meal with a shake and you get get that for under 30 dollars and that will last 3 months with one serving a day which is so much cheaper then the other diet drinks, i will look to see what i have still, there are about 2 brands i have found that taste amazing unlike the old days, for the last idea is do what exercise he can, lite curls, pushups, dips and any cardio that doesnt hurt to bad meaning for his back because if it doesnt hurt any its not a work out, gl

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RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) - 6/23/2008 9:59:29 PM   
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I say just make it so the lifestyle is changed.  Where the structure of your life includes a lot of physical activities.  A few suggestions:
(1) dump all the junkfood in the house and replace it with healthy snacks like nuts, berries, and fruit...even granola bars  (all without high fructose corn syrup or any preservatives),
(2) get rid of all the clutter in the house and outside of the house (dump it all in the garage or a storage place) so you'll be encouraged to walk and move about the house more and that is half the battle,
(3) Replace crappy unsupportive furniture like couches or mattresses with holes in them, with firm supportive chairs and mattresses. 
(4) get rid of stresses in your life, and start including lavender candles that help to relax, deal with pent up emotions that you tried to "eat away"
(5) make it where you have to bike or walk to get food if you run out in the house from the super market or fast food place, this will force you to excercise and eat... and you both do it together. 

With these minor changes, you will see your lifestyle/life routine change, it will be demanding of more energy at first, but afterwards the feeling of balance, being lighter, and having more strength/energy will be all worth it...it will be like a drug, the addictive drug of living well in body, mind, spirit.  Just ask him if he wants to come join you since its a beautiful day in walking the dog or other active stuff together...  doesn't have to be a triatholon.


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RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) - 6/24/2008 3:52:08 PM   
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yep if its not in the house you cant eat it

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RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) - 6/25/2008 4:08:02 PM   
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In terms of motivation, another approach is to measure the weight loss as centimetres lost from the body - sometimes seeing this change is more immediately satisfying than watching the scales constantly.

Measure specific areas of the body - chest, upper arms (widest point), forearms (widest point), waist, hips, widest part of butt area, upper thigh (widest point), lower thigh (widest point) and calves. Record the measurements initially, then take measurements every week. Even if you can't feel the weightloss, you can actually see it gradually happen.

Callanetics work well, initially quite difficult, but there's a sense of acheivement when you can keep up with the screen-timer for the exercises..and they're designed to not put any pressure on the back or joints.

Couple this with a much-reduced fat intake and you've got it sorted in no time.

Oh..and I have to say..if you do decide to try the tape-measure approach, it obviously has to be done naked, and may result in many giggles

Hope this helps as a suggestion. Good luck n all

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RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) - 6/26/2008 7:23:45 PM   
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Also measure your inches as well as weight. Lets say your stomach is 57 inches and your weight is 200 pounds, the scale maybe will not show any loss but inches will.

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RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) - 6/26/2008 7:55:00 PM   
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Naked frisbee.

I just started playing frisbee again in an attempt to have fun while losing weight.  I forgot how much exercise you get, particularly if the person throwing the thing has bad aim.

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RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) - 6/26/2008 8:47:51 PM   
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Losing weight can actually happen *very* easily if you understand the biochemisty. There have been so many fad diets and trends over the last 50 years that I know what I have to say here may very well meet with some resistence. But let me lay out the general argument.

Fat is not the result of a static process. We have tended to think of fat as being similar to a suitcase where we keep all our extra calories... and in some ways, that's actually what's happening. But that's not what's supposed to be happening.

Unless we have too much insulin circulating in our bodies, or unless we are putting a huge demand for energy on our bodies (like an athlete in training), almost everything we eat--everything, carbs, fats, and proteins--is converted to body fat, and at the same time, body fat is being converted into energy. So in balance, fat is going in, coming out, going in, coming out... continually.

But in the last 30, 40 years, more and more of our diet has consisted of refined carbohydrates... cookies, pies, cakes, candy, pastry, ice cream, bread, crackers, muffins, etc., etc., etc. These foods trigger the pancreas to pour out insulin into the blood stream.

Insulin in continually high levels like this, whether produced by your body or shot into your body via a needle, has an extremely detrimental effect over time. It's been implicated in cancer, heart disease, and stroke as well as in the obvious disease, diabetes.

Insulin also works in conjunction with another substance in our bodies to LOCK IN OUR BODY FAT, to stop it from coming out. So here we are, working, working to convert all those refined carbs into fat, which then STOP the normal process of in and out, so that all it does is go IN, IN, IN. No energy is coming out, out, out.

Is it any wonder that the more donuts we eat and soda we drink, the more donuts we want to eat and the more soda we want to drink, never minding our stomachs are stretched to the breaking point? Our bodies are screaming at us, "MORE!! MORE!! I'm not GETTING anything here!!"

We get fatter and fatter and have less and less energy.

Now don't get me wrong; complex carbos are fabulous... spinach, apples, wild rice, squash, tomatoes, kiwi, beans, carrots, red peppers, plums, cauliflower, peas, canteloup, olives, blueberries, corn on the cob, and so forth. All fabulous. Our bodies have evolved to handle them. Our bodies handle complex carbs, protein and dietary fat all perfectly well. In and out, in and out, in and out.

Dietary fat is NOT the problem. Refined CARBS are the problem. In, in, in.

What does this mean for someone who wants to lose weight? Well... let me tell you my experience. Once I grasped the biochemistry of nutrition, I cut out most refined carbs... not to lose weight. I actually like having some bulk. (I know, I know, that's not a politically correct thing to say.) But I wasn't feeling well... no energy.

So I boosted the ratio of protein and complex carbs I was eating, and also the dietary fat, simply by cutting out refined carbs. And yes, I do feel a lot better.

Unfortunately, I'm also losing weight... not that I don't have plenty to spare; I *am* overweight. But really, this wasn't about losing weight for me.  No matter how much protein, complex carbs, and dietary I eat, I have been burning off about seven or eight pounds a month. I eat as much as I please of anything I want... except refined carbs: cookies, pies, candy, etc. (see above!). Lots of protein. Lots of fat. Lots of complex carbs. As much as I want. And I'm dropping weight. My triglycerides are falling. My blood pressure has returned to normal. I feel great.

Remember back in the day, when we used to think cookies, pies, cakes, etc. were fattening? They are.

And once you stop eating them, you don't want them anymore. At all.

So you want more detail on this process? Pick up a copy of Gary Taubes' book, Good Calories, Bad Calories. This is not a fad diet. It is not South Beach, It is not Atkins (although it does explain the logic behind Atkins and South Beach). Gary Taubes has gone over the research, painstakingly following every loose end, refuting every false claim, examining every study. He has no agenda, no axe to grind, nothing to sell (well, the book!). There are 240 pages of citations at the back of the book.

I'm not a nutitionist. I am a tech writer. I come from a medical family. I've worked in the medical field. This guy is spot on. Check it out.

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RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) - 6/26/2008 8:59:15 PM   
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There are 240 pages of citations at the back of the book.




Ummm... that would be 140 pages of citations.

Sunny

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RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) - 6/26/2008 9:04:26 PM   
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Starting with a brisk walk a few times a week might be a good plan.  After a few months of eating better and getting at least a little regular light cardio, he should have more energy and might be willing to jog, bike, hike, or swim.  :)

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RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) - 6/26/2008 10:47:38 PM   
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Naked frisbee.

I just started playing frisbee again in an attempt to have fun while losing weight.  I forgot how much exercise you get, particularly if the person throwing the thing has bad aim.


I love this idea! a week ago in wal mart I saw frisbees, but had no where to go to play with one... just a couple days ago we went on a walk and found the perfect park with a field that seemed made for frisbee throwing. I think I've got my sign!


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