Oberonrex
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Thank You for your attention and answers to this question. i have read several posts that say limits are something that everyone has and that it is normal to have them. My question to You is: Would you accept certain limits and feel ok with them, or do you feel that your submissive should give complete trust in their Master to know what is best for them and therefore should not have limits. Everyone has limits, and someone just starting out is likely to have quite a list of them. Part of my duty is to help explore those and push the limits so that the person grows. There are some that can never and should never be crossed. There are others that with time, experience, and trust, be blown past with abandon. Anyone who says they have no limits is likely lying to themselves. Anyone who says you should have no limits with them right off the bat is someone to move rapidly away from. quote:
If you have a submissive with no limits how do You feel about them, do You know certain things are hot spots and stay away from them? While I think most such are not being honest with themselves, I have also met a couple of people who truly had no limits, and would have given themselves over to anything including death. To be presented such a gift after time to get to know one another is an honor, and scary as all get-out. To see it given at random to anyone is just plain scary. My own take is that with a true no limits, go carefully and check for landmines. If/when found, work around them or help them work through them. quote:
Would You rather be told up front during negotiation what their limits are so that You know in advance? YES! To me, it is essential when first meeting someone. quote:
i have had several Dominants tell me that true subs don't have any limits (and by that token, how do you proceed?) Subs, and even slaves, have limits, especially at the start. A sub will grow, and those limits change over time. A slave should, by the time a collar is given, trust their Master enough to know that they will not harm them, and move to the limits imposed by the Master. In neither case is the process quick and immediate, it takes time. Per my previous, if someone tells you that you should have no limits with them, and you are just getting to know them, move rapidly away and don't look back. Just my two cents worth.
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