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RE: When does BDSM become unhealthy or destructive - 7/4/2008 10:17:40 PM   
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when it tastes like liver... time to bounce

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RE: When does BDSM become unhealthy or destructive - 7/4/2008 11:02:33 PM   
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ORIGINAL: variation30

are girls that swallow cannibals?


depends on how religious you are :)


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RE: When does BDSM become unhealthy or destructive - 7/5/2008 12:55:55 AM   
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The meaning of 'healthy' is different for different people.  It is a relative term.. some speak of the healthof the body, others the mind, yet others the soul.. who is to say who is right?  I certainly will not.  What I will do is add my own viewpoint to the mix, though.  For me it is not a matter of the length of ones life.. when it comes down to it in the cosmic scheme of things one year or one hundred years are both just an eyeblink.  What matters is the quality of that life. 

Example:  I lived in Spain for a time and while I was there I attended a bullfight.  The were three bullfighting matches on the ticket that day and the first one I nearly puked.. however as I watched what was happeneing, some things became clear to me.  First, those bulls live a great life up to the point they are put into the ring (certainly far better than the ones my grandfather raised on his farm, and my grandfather took good care of his livestock, from the ethical standpoint of those who do that sort of thing); Secondly, those bulls get a chance to fight back which is something we do not offer our own cattle here in the US.; Third, the bulls that we saw killed in the ring that day were available on the menu of a local restaurant that evening.. and yet people who have never seen a bullfight say that such fights are cruel.  Well I grew up here in the US, I spent summers on a farm as a child learning to care for those animals.. and they were cared for.. but I think the bulls raised to fight and die in that ring led far higher quality lives.  It is all a matter pf perspective.

Now there are people who will say one cannot make a comparison like that and apply it to human beings.. I say life is life.  It is always too brief, it is usually filled with misery, especially for people, who have the awareness to know misery better perhaps than any other creature.(and this reason alone.. our capacity to understand the absurdity of our own existence.. is the only excuse we have for the way we treat other living things on this earth, if any excuse is even possible)  I, for one prefer quality over quantity.  It is your life.  It is meant to be experienced.  It will be experienced, whether you want to or not, so you might as well have those experiences you desire, provided you do not impinge on the rights of others to do the same.

Some kinks are not considered healthy physically, some are not healthy mentally, some are considered completely taboo spiritually.. screw all that.  If it makes you happy and everyone involved is an informed and consenting adult then do it.  And if when you have finished, you feel the rest of your life will not have a high enough quality, to make it worth living, then end it.  This is a balancing act.. weigh the cost and make your decision, then live with it or dont.  It is your life.

edit:  I feel a need to add a further comment here so people do not come tho the conclusion that I have just thrown one of the basic modern tenets of BDSM out the window.. Safe, Sane, and Consensual.. I still practice this rule, but consensual ranks highest of the three for me.  I define 'safe' and 'sane' by more or less combining  my partners limits and the United Nations declaration of Human Rights and by that standard I feel I am managing just fine, thank you.  Also I must admit that I am a reincarnationist (not simply because it is convenient, but because to my mind it is easier to concieve of returning to a world I know exists rather than some mythical paradise elsewhere), and that makes many of these decisions considerably easier.


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RE: When does BDSM become unhealthy or destructive - 7/5/2008 3:32:24 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Amaros

Considering that Buddhism centers around self denial[...]


Err... calling that a gross simplification would be charitable. If anything, it would seem more appropriate to say that Buddhism centers on self discovery, unclouded awareness and direct perception by stripping away the layers of interpretation that cloud our ability to see what is as-is. The rest is mostly window dressing and mass reenactment of paths that have led others to those goals in the past.

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language is a process of abstract logic and reasoning


More like language is an interface to that process. In fact, you'll note that there are a lot of aspects of language that are not tied to these, or even contradict them. For instance, spatial anaphora are a gross hack, and even the most basic conjunctions fail to overlap with those used in logic. Language is more a matter of response prediction, serializing state according to a pattern that has been learned to have a high probability of inducing the desired state in the receiver.

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it's quite likely that they arose more or less in tandem


Do you have material to support this, or is it conjecture on your part?

If the latter is the case, I would note that my conjecture has been that language serves as a scaffolding for the development of abstract reasoning, but otherwise simply reuses existing infrastructure in the brain, particularly the unified presentation format (cf. input data to the entorhineal cortex) and the cortical columns. I currently lack the manpower to test my theories, however, so I can't be certain yet.

Either way, language is more a tool of culture than of reasoning, in a practical sense.

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language is the external representation of internal abstract symbolic/cognitive processes, and language itself in turn affects cognition


Roughly so, but this also illustrates a core aspect of both Buddhism and Zen: the search for a state wherein cognition is unaffected by language. And there is a bit of variability in terms of how much language affects cognition: most actually go so far as to subvocalize to some extent, it seems, while some don't, and almost all productive mental states are required to employ abstraction, although only a few things run deep enough to be truly influential (e.g. color classification) if one does the mental legwork to collapse the false infrastructure (e.g. values, culture and objectively asemantic transforms and symbols).

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"the sky is blue"


Who said we agree on that? You will note that some languages actually use the sky as a point of reference for a particular shade of green (roughly speaking, given the lack of a clear difference between the two; some have proposed the word "grue" to cover this compound color), and some languages do not distinguish color at all, beyond light and dark, in which case the day sky is light and the night sky is dark.

You're omitting mathematics from the matter, by the way. If any abstraction is unique to humans, that would be it. Setting aside such things as Euler's (?) Identity, the modality is also suited to expressing fundamentally truthful deductions about life. For instance, if the aspect of reality known as entropy has truth to it, then it holds as an axiom from which we can then deduce some rather grim facts about the necessary illusions that sustain the human world. Facts that go beyond mere nihilism, yet also permit infinitely more options than the illusions do.

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Abstract logic and language is a unique attribute of humans


You haven't spent too much time around animals, I take it?

Try following a pack of wolves in East Europe until they accept (or eat, apropos- a rare honor) you.

If you have the DRD4R7 allelle that you referenced, then they can read your general body language if you strip it down and bear in mind some basics. If you lack that allelle, they cannot read your body language, period, although you can learn to emulate theirs. Either way, if you spend enough time with wolves, on their terms, you will find that your assertion is not correct. Compare them to H. Sapiens children, age 3-5, and you will find that they are intellectually equivalent. It is no accident that dogs were bred from the only species that can keep up with humans over long distances.

Afterwards, perhaps you will be ready to more objectively study the behavior of other animals in their own environments. I have noted distinct, polysyllabic vocalizations in cats, although I haven't yet had a chance to study them closely. As their facilities for vocalization are limited, they rely on tonal contour (a workaround that also arose in Asia as a consequence of mutations in the genes coding for microencephaly). I have seen cats use body language and vocalizations to impart important information, such as how to safely cross a road. You will not be able to observe that in a lab, nor will you be able to observe it in an urban (i.e. noisy) environment. This is supported by the basic theories of human language development, which rely on self-organizing systems that have clearly shown that noise determines possible coding density (I am actually seeing one such recoding in action up here, with the transition from ç/ʃ to ʃ-only in urban environments). When coding density becomes too low to support a sufficient number of distinct states, communication does not develop.

Animal culture has been observed in the wild, but is generally not replicable in the lab.

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we have no evidence any of them are capable of forming higher level abstractions, catagories for example


This is a quantitative issue, not a qualitative one. I can form higher level abstractions that less than one in a hundred people can form, but that does not mean I possess a unique faculty in a qualitative sense, only that I possess more of the same faculty than the bulk of the population. While I certainly don't mind if you care to make that a figure of merit that sets one set of beings apart from others, I would not care to do so myself.

The basic faculty is indeed essential to many animals, as well.

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if these two becoem associated linguistically, it forms a model of cause and effect that becomes a matter of consensus reality.


Amazing. We agree on something. Connotations are a basic element of consensus reality, yes. Which is not to say that it is inappropriate to point out the lack of objective substance, just that people will ignore the lack of substance as they always have. What I'm saying is that there are some mental states that are objectively different from normal states in a qualitative sense, and some that are different from that person's normal state. There is no grounds to assert that these objective criterion (whether one deems them pathologies or not) are applicable to all individuals with an interest in or desire for these extreme activities, whether acted upon or not.

Whether it is a deviation from consensus in the West, however, is hardly worth debating: it is.

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Sometime about 75kya, a mutation occured in the human genome, the DRD7R4 allele mutated into soemthing like 7 different versions - this occured at roughly the same time as teh Toba supereruption and the theoretical MtDNA "bottlneck".


You are no doubt referring to DRD4R7, not DRD7R4, as there is no D7-receptor.

The 7R allelle does not occur to any significant extent in the general population, apart from America, where the indigenous population ranges from 25% to 75% expression of this gene, particularly Cheyenne indians, Maya, and the South American continent. The bulk of those areas express greater than 40% prevalence, with Xavante showing a high frequency of the even rarer 8R allelle.

The 4R allelle is dominant in North America, Europe, Scandinavia, Africa and Asia.

The 3R allelle occurs in the area of expansion of the Thessalo-Danubian branch of the proposed Anatolian urheimat, with some lesser expression in Asia, predominantly the coastal regions. It is also found to some small extent among Yemenite Jews, but this expression can probably be accounted for by the presence of the Varangian Guard in the region. The coastal regions of Asia can be accounted for if the theory of Viking expeditions in the area is correct.

The 2R allelle follows the distribution proposed by that set of theories very closely.

In any case, this gene is involved in precortical and orbitofrontal function, as well as being implicated in the extent of novelty seeking vs complacency. Its function has not been clearly mapped, but there is some evidence to suggest it is involved in abstract and rational thinking, as opposed to ritualism and strict adherence to cultural norms.

Currently, it is implicated in conditions that are deemed pathological, such as rejecting cultural norms.

That, more than most things, is a very interesting fact in this debate.

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Shortly after, these mutations spread rapidly among the population through both selection and drift, and  large and significant changes in human culture began to appear


No, the mutation did not spread extensively. In fact, as I stated above, it is confined to specific geographical regions, as are all the allelles, apart from the normal 4R variant. Consult the geographic distribution of the DRD4 exon 3 section 48 base pair repeat if you don't care to take my word for it. Yale University had a publicly available database that contained this information, last I heard.

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This allele has been associated with behavioral disorders, ADHD in particular, and thrill seeking in general, and the theory is that this represents an increase in the population of people who are "easily bored", and thus prone to breaking out of abstract cultural restrictions and engage in innovative behaviors, and it is innovation that is the definitive driver of what we term "modern" behavior, which of course has resulted in modern techno-information culture.


This is quite speculative, as the etiology of ADHD is not at all clear, beyond the fact that there are at least a handful of different conditions that are conveniently lumped together under that diagnostic category. If you consult recent work done by professor J. Haavik, you will find that the picture is not nearly as clear as previously thought. I can ask him about a summary or citations the next time I correspond with him, if you like.

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Again, this tends to often run counter to what is often defined by a dominant culture as acceptable behavior.


NFS...

Some of the people I know with these abnormalities are among the brightest abstract thinkers this world has to offer, and their experiences have quite universally involved a rejection of social norms. Quite a few have become embittered with the accepted delusions of mainstream culture and the friction this causes when trying to actually work for the common good of all.

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i.e., it's how an ideal like Christianity: "love thy neighbor" can become "kill everybody who isn't a Christian".


In all fairness, love thy neighbour was always a bit of a simplification, but you probably don't want to get into that on this thread. Psychiatry is a side-line for me; religion is not. We would just derail the thread.

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We have tried, in our current institutions, the constitution, capitalism and the Anglo Saxon legal system to create a stable system of cultural values without allowing it to sclerotify into status quo feudalism


In some ways, it has been a success, but the system has stable operating points and it is advantageous to game the system. Hence, it has really been a pretty massive failure on a macroscale, since it provides an illusion of working that gives a false sense that little needs to be done, and that small, incremental changes are the only way to go. While those changes tick along at a predictably slow rate, with occasional outswings that can be modelled with classical mechanics (tragic, really), people are suffering and dying to preserve that illusion, or being deprived of their basic dignity and liberty.

Good post, by the way.

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RE: When does BDSM become unhealthy or destructive - 7/5/2008 3:40:38 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan

You are not spiritual or deep.  You're bugfuck nuts.  Do not pass go.  Go directly to the psych ward.  Better yet, remove yourself from the gene pool before you spawn.


As noted in the thread, Catholics do the symbolic equivalent on a regular basis.

And to a pretty large segment of the population, BDSM symbolism is hot and good, until you act on it.

It isn't nearly so clear cut as you think to say that your opinions are not subject to that same modality of thought, which you've already rejected with regard to your own life style choices. Bearing that in mind, and considering that in other contexts, sacrifice is a highly valued thing (e.g. soldiers, firefighters, mothers who opt to save the baby instead of themselves), it shouldn't be all that hard to see that your assertions are heavily based in a single cultural frame of reference.

After all, it's not that long ago that "everyone" knew that Jews were a plague, at best.
Or that black people were simply meant to be slaves to white people.
Or that being gay was a mental illness and quite abhorrent.

...or that women should stay in the kitchen when not spreading their legs...

Perhaps there are some past cultural norms you'd reject, yes?
At some point in the future, our norms will be the past.
Being overly invested in them seems shortsighted.

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RE: When does BDSM become unhealthy or destructive - 7/5/2008 3:53:38 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

But it IS the business of societies that prohibit these acts. And illegal is illegal in context.


No, it's not their business, per se.

It's just another case of jungle law demonstrating the economics of scale.

A large group can more effectively suppress a minority, and that isn't so much a matter of what is whose business as it is a matter of who has the raw power to force their will upon others, regardless of whether others have committed any offense against such a majority. Oppression is oppression, no matter how you dress it up and who is doing it.

Legally speaking, the Taliban wasn't doing anything wrong in executing women for the simple accident of dropping their veil in public. Legally speaking, Saddam wasn't doing anything wrong in oppressing the religious majority in his country. Legally speaking, when said majority gets to pursue their own interest, the impending genocide against the religious minority will not be wrong.

Morally speaking, one might find some flaws in the logic that law equates to justice, though.

In fact, I believe that was quite repeatedly set forth by Martin Luther King, Jr.

Would you say that he was an immoral man for opposing the law?

Was it wrong of him to oppose the legal majority?

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And the courts tend to be HARDER on people who do this rationally and coldly- since they know they did so quite willfully-and with malice of forethought. It shows a sociopathic disregard of the rule of law-and that is intolerable.


Nobody here has posited that doing this out of malice is different from doing anything else out of malice. The courts' inability to see that some people may find a socially unacceptable or illegal act as an expression of love (anal sex comes to mind; it was banned in several states, and may still be for all I know) is entirely their own shortcoming.

Possessing more than a handful (pardon the pun) of sex toys in one state is (or was?) "possession with intent to distribute," and illegal. While definitions may or may not agree with me here, I would have to object to the notion that blatant, calculated disregard for this and premeditated possession of a dozen dildos constitutes sociopathy. In fact, subjectively, that notion seems ludicrous.

Would you really posit that intentional possession of a selection of floggers is sociopathic?

If not, you might want to rethink your fallback to a legal argument.

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RE: When does BDSM become unhealthy or destructive - 7/5/2008 3:59:35 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

And to head off his next rationalization.....it can also be argued that beating ass is illegal as assault in many places. With the major difference that you can heal from that-and much less likely to be prosecuted. Whereas-missing body parts are sort of hard to shrug off as "consensual" in front of a prosecutor.


You have headed off nothing.

The relevance of gaming the system is lost on me.

Furthermore, if you went to Norway and ate some submissive's labia, for instance, with her consent (of course), then you would not be in violation of the law. Laws regarding biological materials don't apply. Laws against unqualified surgery only apply if she isn't doing it herself, and equate to a fine. Laws against bodily insult are contingent on the absence of consent (and, incidentally, reciprocal bodily insult tends to be legally viewed as consent). Laws against grievous bodily harm are not applicable, as there is no loss of work capacity or ability to reproduce.

Does that mean it would be amoral and sociopathic if you did it in the US, but okay up here?

That seems a rather unreflected (or morally preconventional) position to me.

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RE: When does BDSM become unhealthy or destructive - 7/5/2008 4:01:26 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MasterDragon1963

I know that this comment on the cannibal aspect is a bit late, but would this in any way conclude that Hannibal Lector would meerly be a extremely advanced food play connoisseur who has not of yet learned that if he began his dark delights on the external extrimeties, he might not have to replace his partners so often.


The issue with Hannibal is not his actions, but his reasons, his state of mind, and the lack of consent.

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RE: When does BDSM become unhealthy or destructive - 7/5/2008 5:07:37 AM   
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I'm pretty certain that body part removal involves the physical destruction of another human being.   That eating somebody as outlined in the OP involves the physical destruction of another human being. 

I really certain that the example in the OP was rather extreme.

I'm pretty certain an overwhelming number of people don't want to be chopped up and eaten, not take things to that extreme.

I'm pretty certain that most people won't consider nor view the example in the OP, as healthy, safe and sane.  Let alone somehow believe that it was some constructive thing to do.  Death and wacking body parts off is "literally" destuctive. 

I'm pretty certain it should be obvious, why many people would not be into doing this activitity.

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RE: When does BDSM become unhealthy or destructive - 7/5/2008 6:04:17 AM   
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Quite honestly...THIS is when it becomes unhealthy AND destructive
http://www.collarchat.com/m_1985839/tm.htm

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RE: When does BDSM become unhealthy or destructive - 7/5/2008 6:57:28 AM   
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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

Quite honestly...THIS is when it becomes unhealthy AND destructive
http://www.collarchat.com/m_1985839/tm.htm


I would have to agree there. Hooking up isn't enough. It has to work out, too.

What was that thing Ron said about women and happiness?

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RE: When does BDSM become unhealthy or destructive - 7/5/2008 8:52:49 AM   
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~Another fast and general reply~

Ok, going to put the humor on a shelf for a minute and actually do a serious reply. Why, I don’t know…but fuck, this piss poor excuse of a thread dragged me in dayumit.

For clarification I would like to say that TO ME; BDSM MEANS ONLY BONDAGE, DOMINANCE, SADISM, MASOCHISM. In addition to this, the word DOMINANCE, when used in conjunction with BDSM, TO ME ONLY, simply is a way of referring to THE ACT OF DOMINANTING SOMEONE WITHIN A SCENE.
 
Now, I guess you could, technically, when using the definitions used by 99% of those on this site; classify me as a hard core masochist. I, however, do not personally use that when trying to define my own peculiar ‘kinks’.

Yes, I love pain; but not because it makes me feel all mushy, high, or aroused. I like pain because it reminds me that I am ALIVE, and the more alive I feel, the more I count my own blessings. I seek out pain like others would seek out a drink of water to curb a fleeting thirst.

I USE AND ABUSE pain like addicts do drugs or alcohol. I do this because of one reason. My own personality is so violent that pain is what I use to curb that violence. And when I refer to violence, I am referring to the kind that would kill a person if left un-harnessed.


( Now, before all the usual bullshit starts flying; I want to say that I grew up in a family that was loving, caring, generous, loyal, attentive, and privileged. I adored/adore/will always adore my family; and that adoration is returned with; sometimes concern; but always without a fault. )

I was 12 when I started banging. No pressure, no coercion, no need for a ‘substitute family’, no need for money. I liked it. Pure and simple. As I said, I was and am a very violent person. I enjoyed it; but more than that, I enjoyed the HIGH RUSH THAT I GOT FROM THE VIOLENCE THAT WAS A PART OF THAT LIFE. Mmm, oh yes. Violence is the one turn on sexually for me. It was then, it still is now. I was 13 when I started hanging with the most deadly gang know in the US. I was 16 when I put my first grind in the hospital. He was member of the same gang who just happened to look at me wrong. I beat him so badly that I had to be pulled off. He spent fourteen months in the hospital learning to walk again. Not bragging because I am proud of it; stating it as a fact so that my mindset at that time can be understood. By the time I was 17, I knew two things for certain. My life had two roads that were perfectly crisscrossing each other ; one to prison and the other to death; and I was barreling down both of them at top speed with no intention of slowing down or stopping. Quite literally; I DID NOT GIVE A FLYING FUCK. Just after I turned 18, a wonderful person, who saw and understood the destruction that I was so gleefully encouraging; took the wheel from my hands and slammed it into my head. That day, I happened to pick the right person to try and fuck up; only to have him fuck me up instead. By the time he was finished; I was not only a quivering, bloody mess; but was so turned on that I realized there was another path for me that I could take. One that led not to prison; not to death; but to understanding and peace. I took the path and never looked back. 20 years later, all I can say is that the day I slammed a bat in his face, was the day I learned what control could do for a person.

Psychotic? By your definitions and standards; most probably.
Do I care? No.
Why? Because sometimes…SOMETIMES…unhealthy and destructive is actually healthy and cleansing for the soul. And sometimes, it can save a life; in more ways than one.
Do I encourage the cutting off of body parts so that another can exercise their so called dominance?
No
Do I condemn it?
No.
Do I judge the act?
Yes; but only by my own standards.
Do I judge the participants?
No; because quite frankly; it’s not as bad as some things I have seen in life that people do for and to each other.
Do I feel that the participants are mentally unstable?
No; I do not have the training or credentials to judge what is stable and unstable; nor do I wish to have such power in my hands.

Now that I have done my serious bit for the day; I am going back to my regular scheduled program in my typical bitch mode.

By the way, hope ya’ll had a safe and fun Independence day J



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RE: When does BDSM become unhealthy or destructive - 7/5/2008 1:39:46 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Vestonika

when it tastes like liver... time to bounce


I quite like liver, and actually have a a recipe for a raw-food liver pate that is excellent, as well as a recipe for a raw-meat sandwich humorously called "Cannibal Sandwiches". Kidney and lung, on the other hand, may be two of the most disgusting meats in creation, and I never really 'got' the love for 'sweetbreads' (calf brains)... to each their own, I guess.

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RE: When does BDSM become unhealthy or destructive - 7/5/2008 8:58:28 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Aswad

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ORIGINAL: Amaros

Considering that Buddhism centers around self denial[...]


Err... calling that a gross simplification would be charitable. If anything, it would seem more appropriate to say that Buddhism centers on self discovery, unclouded awareness and direct perception by stripping away the layers of interpretation that cloud our ability to see what is as-is. The rest is mostly window dressing and mass reenactment of paths that have led others to those goals in the past.

Self discovory through denial then - I'm forced to oversimplify in several places here, I'm writing a post for laymen, of which I am one, not a book for graduates, so not everything is going to be as nuanced as some might like.
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language is a process of abstract logic and reasoning


More like language is an interface to that process. In fact, you'll note that there are a lot of aspects of language that are not tied to these, or even contradict them. For instance, spatial anaphora are a gross hack, and even the most basic conjunctions fail to overlap with those used in logic. Language is more a matter of response prediction, serializing state according to a pattern that has been learned to have a high probability of inducing the desired state in the receiver.

Certainly an interface, but there is every indication that as we tend to lump objects and their associated processes and behaviors into discrete symbols, sort of shorthand - linguistic processes are retreival processes of these symbols, themselves aggregate associations of different types of memory - this is why propaganda is so successful - symbols are abstract associations by definition, and since anything external to us is already an abstract object, it is relatively easy to corrupt these associations through simple methods like transference, association or dissociation and hammered in via repitition - a symbol is like the address of a building  - again, an oversimplification, but an address is really a route,  and routes become ruts- for all practical purposes if you force somebody to go through a bad neigborhood every time they try to get to that address, you will eventually elicit an change in emotional response that is subsequentlly projected onto the object in question.

Language is coersive, that we agree on, and that it contradicts logic is not an issue - most people employ very little logic in their thinking - most decisions and predictions are based on emotion, not logic: i.e., evolved responses to specific stimuli or stressors - we aren't really talking logic here, we're talking symbolic abstractions that are simultaneously expressions of emotional motives, and attempts to coerce the reciever through symbolic/behavioral association, whether the thing is "logical" in any empirical sense or not.
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it's quite likely that they arose more or less in tandem


Do you have material to support this, or is it conjecture on your part?

If the latter is the case, I would note that my conjecture has been that language serves as a scaffolding for the development of abstract reasoning, but otherwise simply reuses existing infrastructure in the brain, particularly the unified presentation format (cf. input data to the entorhineal cortex) and the cortical columns. I currently lack the manpower to test my theories, however, so I can't be certain yet.

Either way, language is more a tool of culture than of reasoning, in a practical sense.

Conjecture - most genetic abnormalities that affect language also affect the hands and forearms, which appear to be directly connected to the speech centers of the brain which suggests they evolved in tandem. It is entirely possible that abstraction catagorization preceeded language, it could hardly be the other way around, but my gut feeling is that primary advantage of abstraction is the ability to communicate abstract concepts. Since we're talking about something that evolved over the course of several million years, I think it's safe to say they overlapped significantly.
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language is the external representation of internal abstract symbolic/cognitive processes, and language itself in turn affects cognition


Roughly so, but this also illustrates a core aspect of both Buddhism and Zen: the search for a state wherein cognition is unaffected by language. And there is a bit of variability in terms of how much language affects cognition: most actually go so far as to subvocalize to some extent, it seems, while some don't, and almost all productive mental states are required to employ abstraction, although only a few things run deep enough to be truly influential (e.g. color classification) if one does the mental legwork to collapse the false infrastructure (e.g. values, culture and objectively asemantic transforms and symbols).

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"the sky is blue"


Who said we agree on that? You will note that some languages actually use the sky as a point of reference for a particular shade of green (roughly speaking, given the lack of a clear difference between the two; some have proposed the word "grue" to cover this compound color), and some languages do not distinguish color at all, beyond light and dark, in which case the day sky is light and the night sky is dark.

Beside the point, or rather reinforcing it, as this is an example of subjective consensus reality formation which is, by definition... subjective.
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You're omitting mathematics from the matter, by the way. If any abstraction is unique to humans, that would be it. Setting aside such things as Euler's (?) Identity, the modality is also suited to expressing fundamentally truthful deductions about life. For instance, if the aspect of reality known as entropy has truth to it, then it holds as an axiom from which we can then deduce some rather grim facts about the necessary illusions that sustain the human world. Facts that go beyond mere nihilism, yet also permit infinitely more options than the illusions do.

I'm not much of a mathmatician.
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Abstract logic and language is a unique attribute of humans


You haven't spent too much time around animals, I take it?

Try following a pack of wolves in East Europe until they accept (or eat, apropos- a rare honor) you.

If you have the DRD4R7 allelle that you referenced, then they can read your general body language if you strip it down and bear in mind some basics. If you lack that allelle, they cannot read your body language, period, although you can learn to emulate theirs. Either way, if you spend enough time with wolves, on their terms, you will find that your assertion is not correct. Compare them to H. Sapiens children, age 3-5, and you will find that they are intellectually equivalent. It is no accident that dogs were bred from the only species that can keep up with humans over long distances.

Afterwards, perhaps you will be ready to more objectively study the behavior of other animals in their own environments. I have noted distinct, polysyllabic vocalizations in cats, although I haven't yet had a chance to study them closely. As their facilities for vocalization are limited, they rely on tonal contour (a workaround that also arose in Asia as a consequence of mutations in the genes coding for microencephaly). I have seen cats use body language and vocalizations to impart important information, such as how to safely cross a road. You will not be able to observe that in a lab, nor will you be able to observe it in an urban (i.e. noisy) environment. This is supported by the basic theories of human language development, which rely on self-organizing systems that have clearly shown that noise determines possible coding density (I am actually seeing one such recoding in action up here, with the transition from ç/ʃ to ʃ-only in urban environments). When coding density becomes too low to support a sufficient number of distinct states, communication does not develop.

Animal culture has been observed in the wild, but is generally not replicable in the lab.

Sorry, you'll have to demonstrate this - as I said, it's never been demonstrated. In Chimp language studies, they are able to use the symbol for "banana", and even anticipate a banana (they look over their shoulders when they anticipate), but they are only thinking about one banana, the banana they see or hope to get - which is something of an abstraction of course, but they do not appear to be capable of forming an abstract catagory of all bananas, or an abstract catagory of "fruit", of which bananas are a member, and so on up the ladder, to consumable objects, etc.
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we have no evidence any of them are capable of forming higher level abstractions, catagories for example


This is a quantitative issue, not a qualitative one. I can form higher level abstractions that less than one in a hundred people can form, but that does not mean I possess a unique faculty in a qualitative sense, only that I possess more of the same faculty than the bulk of the population. While I certainly don't mind if you care to make that a figure of merit that sets one set of beings apart from others, I would not care to do so myself.

The basic faculty is indeed essential to many animals, as well.

It may well be a quantitative value rather than a qualitative value, a factor of neural density in the cerberal cortex, but at some point it quantitatively drops below the point where it is practically relevent. It is well known that your wolves have complex behavioral and social adaptations, but in qualitative terms, I don't think they have much need for higher level abstractions.

It may well be that as the century progresses, and environmental stressors reach extinction level proportions, we may see odd instances of rapid mutation in some places that might include some fairly abstract behavior - unless they learn to talk though, we'll probobly never know.
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if these two become associated linguistically, it forms a model of cause and effect that becomes a matter of consensus reality.


Amazing. We agree on something. Connotations are a basic element of consensus reality, yes. Which is not to say that it is inappropriate to point out the lack of objective substance, just that people will ignore the lack of substance as they always have. What I'm saying is that there are some mental states that are objectively different from normal states in a qualitative sense, and some that are different from that person's normal state. There is no grounds to assert that these objective criterion (whether one deems them pathologies or not) are applicable to all individuals with an interest in or desire for these extreme activities, whether acted upon or not.

Whether it is a deviation from consensus in the West, however, is hardly worth debating: it is.

I don't know wheter to agree or disagree, I don't know what a "normal" state is, in an objective sense, it's a subjective term - typical perhaps,  but mental states are essentially adaptations, and how "normal" the state of mind is is pretty much a factor of the stressors or stimuli it is an adaptation to - it might be easier if you furnished and example.
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Sometime about 75kya, a mutation occured in the human genome, the DRD7R4 allele mutated into soemthing like 7 different versions - this occured at roughly the same time as teh Toba supereruption and the theoretical MtDNA "bottlneck".


You are no doubt referring to DRD4R7, not DRD7R4, as there is no D7-receptor.

The 7R allelle does not occur to any significant extent in the general population, apart from America, where the indigenous population ranges from 25% to 75% expression of this gene, particularly Cheyenne indians, Maya, and the South American continent. The bulk of those areas express greater than 40% prevalence, with Xavante showing a high frequency of the even rarer 8R allelle.

The 4R allelle is dominant in North America, Europe, Scandinavia, Africa and Asia.

The 3R allelle occurs in the area of expansion of the Thessalo-Danubian branch of the proposed Anatolian urheimat, with some lesser expression in Asia, predominantly the coastal regions. It is also found to some small extent among Yemenite Jews, but this expression can probably be accounted for by the presence of the Varangian Guard in the region. The coastal regions of Asia can be accounted for if the theory of Viking expeditions in the area is correct.

The 2R allelle follows the distribution proposed by that set of theories very closely.

In any case, this gene is involved in precortical and orbitofrontal function, as well as being implicated in the extent of novelty seeking vs complacency. Its function has not been clearly mapped, but there is some evidence to suggest it is involved in abstract and rational thinking, as opposed to ritualism and strict adherence to cultural norms.

Currently, it is implicated in conditions that are deemed pathological, such as rejecting cultural norms.

That, more than most things, is a very interesting fact in this debate.

DRD4-R7, right, I'm not a geneticist either. In any case, what I do know is that nobody knows squat about how genes work in the wholistic sense yet, the science is still in it's infancy, and it's a whole lotta shit going on - my own hunches involve stationary phase mutation with respect to noncoding DNA, under certain stress conditions.

You might like this blog which at least reduces both our case in question and the orthodox view of it to the same level:
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As to the cultural relativism of saying that the boredom addicted
disease state is equally as good as being healthy - what rubbish! If
boredom addiction is real, and is a disease state, then it is not
equally valid, any more than being an adrenaline addict unable to
spend time doing anything but progressively more physically dangerous
activities with no purpose but unable to see this because of the
associated cognitive distortion is equally as good as being healthy.
Or that an alcohol addict is just as good as being healthy.

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Shortly after, these mutations spread rapidly among the population through both selection and drift, and  large and significant changes in human culture began to appear


No, the mutation did not spread extensively. In fact, as I stated above, it is confined to specific geographical regions, as are all the allelles, apart from the normal 4R variant. Consult the geographic distribution of the DRD4 exon 3 section 48 base pair repeat if you don't care to take my word for it. Yale University had a publicly available database that contained this information, last I heard.

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This allele has been associated with behavioral disorders, ADHD in particular, and thrill seeking in general, and the theory is that this represents an increase in the population of people who are "easily bored", and thus prone to breaking out of abstract cultural restrictions and engage in innovative behaviors, and it is innovation that is the definitive driver of what we term "modern" behavior, which of course has resulted in modern techno-information culture.


This is quite speculative, as the etiology of ADHD is not at all clear, beyond the fact that there are at least a handful of different conditions that are conveniently lumped together under that diagnostic category. If you consult recent work done by professor J. Haavik, you will find that the picture is not nearly as clear as previously thought. I can ask him about a summary or citations the next time I correspond with him, if you like.

Since you mention just about every major continent on the planet, I'm not sure just  how  "widespread" doesn't apply, athe point being that something occurred, and shit happened - I might be accused of being Eurocentric, I can cop to that. North America, Europe, Scandinavia, Africa and Asia are pretty much the regions where technological development occurred most rapidly and in the greatest variety - Africa led in the development of metallurgy, contrary to popular belief - it was a definite step away from grubbing tubers.
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Again, this tends to often run counter to what is often defined by a dominant culture as acceptable behavior.


NFS...

Some of the people I know with these abnormalities are among the brightest abstract thinkers this world has to offer, and their experiences have quite universally involved a rejection of social norms. Quite a few have become embittered with the accepted delusions of mainstream culture and the friction this causes when trying to actually work for the common good of all.

As I mentioned, perhaps strongly enough, it is fairly well impossible to inniovate at all without rejecting cultural norms, to do anything outside a cultural norm is to violate it, and innovation by definition is change - once youve take that step, the entire thing becomes questionable, or vice versa.

Probobly why most of our cultural icons, the DWM's (dead White men), died in miserable poverty and disgrace.
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i.e., it's how an ideal like Christianity: "love thy neighbor" can become "kill everybody who isn't a Christian".


In all fairness, love thy neighbour was always a bit of a simplification, but you probably don't want to get into that on this thread. Psychiatry is a side-line for me; religion is not. We would just derail the thread.

The Golden rule is explicitly the "greatest commandment" - and is almost a perfect way to paraphrase reciporical altruism.
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We have tried, in our current institutions, the constitution, capitalism and the Anglo Saxon legal system to create a stable system of cultural values without allowing it to sclerotify into status quo feudalism


In some ways, it has been a success, but the system has stable operating points and it is advantageous to game the system. Hence, it has really been a pretty massive failure on a macroscale, since it provides an illusion of working that gives a false sense that little needs to be done, and that small, incremental changes are the only way to go. While those changes tick along at a predictably slow rate, with occasional outswings that can be modelled with classical mechanics (tragic, really), people are suffering and dying to preserve that illusion, or being deprived of their basic dignity and liberty.

Good post, by the way.

Health,
al-Aswad.


Yes, the gaming thing is troubling, particularly with the addition of the phenomona of a truely global mass media. It only works if you adhere strictly to the rules of competitive self interest, and keep things in flux - Soon as you start trying to change the rules, rational self interest, ala rand (everyones self interest is rational - to them) etc., it stratifies, sclerotofies and gradually turns into feudalism and stasis.

Some people have more to lose than others, and a significant majority of people will simply value social stability and predictability over consensus formation through debate in good faith with respect to the empirical evidence, which often entails confusing contraditions, ethical dillemas, potential personal sacrifice, etc. i.e., rationalization of short term advantage vs. long term planning.

i.e., it's easier to say the poor are stupid, and blame everything on them.

tsk*, what would Jesus think.

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First of all the Master from the story isn't really a Master at all, he's a pshyco and the girl is just as pshyco for going along with it.

SSC is what i base my slavery on, i dont care who my Dominant is at that time, as much as i may adore, worship and even love that Dominant you might as well forget me ever crossing certain bariers that will never be broken and all of them are things that are illegal and things that just completely mortify me (one being scat) i dont knock the people that do it but, my stomach really couldn't handle it......cut me, stick needles in me fine....i'll take it, i'll accept it, and i'll actually get wet from it even though i'm still terrified of it but, dont even think about crossing my biggest barriers now or ever.....

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RE: When does BDSM become unhealthy or destructive - 7/5/2008 9:37:22 PM   
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But it IS the business of societies that prohibit these acts. And illegal is illegal in context.


No, it's not their business, per se.

It's just another case of jungle law demonstrating the economics of scale.

A large group can more effectively suppress a minority, and that isn't so much a matter of what is whose business as it is a matter of who has the raw power to force their will upon others, regardless of whether others have committed any offense against such a majority. Oppression is oppression, no matter how you dress it up and who is doing it.

Legally speaking, the Taliban wasn't doing anything wrong in executing women for the simple accident of dropping their veil in public. Legally speaking, Saddam wasn't doing anything wrong in oppressing the religious majority in his country. Legally speaking, when said majority gets to pursue their own interest, the impending genocide against the religious minority will not be wrong.

Morally speaking, one might find some flaws in the logic that law equates to justice, though.

In fact, I believe that was quite repeatedly set forth by Martin Luther King, Jr.

Would you say that he was an immoral man for opposing the law?

Was it wrong of him to oppose the legal majority?

All technically true, but you are really only replacing one "law" with another, and you are failing to consider that group level selection vehichles are involved - law itself is a product of the group vehicle.

This behavior offers no immediate and clear benefit to the group, and suggests the possibility of significant negative effects to at least this one member of the group, if not both, and thus, subject to scrutiny.

It's the same with your examples: Saddam's or the Talibans political expressions of group selection rationalizations benefitted certain groups involved, i.e.. advantageous to and within a narrow political consensus, but is deemed likely to have negative overall effects on group fitness with respect to the broadest consensus - the requirements of all humans - in a technological information society womens physical disadvantages are rendered irrelevent, and accentric behavior is accorded a higher value than ritualistic centripetal behaviors (They both cannot be lumped together of course, Saddam's regime was the polar opposite of the Taliban regime, progressive rather than regressive) - this is in keeping with a higher value assignment for human rights in general, at least theoretically .

In other words, nobody would have given a shit about the Taliban 30 years ago, at least not in any explicit, orthodox sense (androcentric alpha hierarchies), since nobody gave much of a shit about women in general at all at that time, in a still largely labor intensive, centripetalized smokestack economy - they are now a significant factor in the extra-domestic labor market.

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RE: When does BDSM become unhealthy or destructive - 7/5/2008 10:02:00 PM   
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You are welcome of course, to question the validity of any given group level value assignment, particualrly with respect to the sort of speech aphasia we're recently been observing with respect to symbolic values and their traditional objective meanings in political screed - but I really don't think you'll ever be able to overcome the phenomona of group selection vehicles themselves - without a group to assign it, individual innovation has no value - not even to the individual.

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The sorts of emotional response presented during the course of this debate reinforce several points: most of these demonstrations of centripetal group selection vs. accentric individualism value assessments that have been performed via unconsious symbolic reasoning, expressed in a rush of hormonal secretion, have assessed in a matter of milliseconds what has taken me several thousand two dollar words to deconstruct logically.

Whether such value assignments are empirically valid or not, of course, often demands such deconstruction in order to empirically assess the ethics of it - in this case, I think intervention is the valid course, if nothing else to satisfy the logical requirement to err on the side of safety - but we all know that this ain't exactly Disneyland and safety can mean a lot of things to a lot of different people - this can typically only occur on a case by case basis, and this happens to be a particularly tricky catagory, similar in some respects to the solicitation to commit a crime catagory, which is notoriously complicated.



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Dude, some people just like to get their jollies yanking your chain.
 
Question being, how much do you let it twitch you?
 
I just laugh.

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