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I'm in the minority. A collar doesn't 'mean' anything to me. Whatever I feel for him is there whether a collar is around my neck or not.

I'm not knocking collars for other people, for some it means a great deal, for others not so much, and still for others, nothing at all.

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince
girlie,

you bring up an interesting point when you state I was owned for 6 months prior to a collar. How did that status become known to the path walkers?

CP

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to me - the collar around my neck is a symbol of my life long commitment and submission to Daddy accepting Him as my Dominant, Daddy, and Owner

to Daddy - it's a symbol of His life long ownership of me.

i also wear a wrist chain, ring and ankle chains - other symbols of His ownership

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For me a collar is just a means to "walk" me.
I gave up a long time ago of it ever being anything else other than a physical thing around my neck used for control.

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So yes, it certainly has significance, but, what that significance is to me, is undoubtedly different to what it is for other people.

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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

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ORIGINAL: greenearth21

sometimes i feel like i'm the only one who doesnt think so much of a collar. (no offense to anyone or their beliefs)...but then again I will be honest in saying that its something I havent fully experienced either (at least not to the degree of it being worth talking about).  Although I have spoken to enough people, read enough post and even fantasized about it and itjust...doesnt really seem like the IT of the relationship. 
I believe i can be fully devoted to a dominant man, serve him well and as long as I am satisfied, content and happy in the dynamic of the relationship....a piece of metal or leather wouldnt make the relationship any more real or kinky.  I have had conversations with a few men who consider and some who are dominant, where the main thing is "when i collar...this" when I put my collar...that" and its like...sheesh...could we just focus on the "here and now" than "there".
I realize that to some or a sub a collar is the ultimate gift of feeling owned...cant you be owned without one?  I can really relate to the dominant side of placing a collar on a lady but...maybe someone can help with that.
I am not negative regarding the topicof collars whatsoever...and I strongly believe that if/when i receive one...i'll be happy if not more than that.  But if i never get it...it wont make a difference as long as the things that truly matter within the relationship are there.

again: this wasn't / isn't intended to offend anyone.  If you have a flame or an attack...pass on.  Questions are certainly of interest to me...perhaps i'll realize/learn something new.

I appreciate your perspective and you asked some good questions.  My collar is certainly not the IT of our relationship - it is a symbol of af commitment.  The IT of our relationship is my submission and his mastery of my submission, and what that creates.  So I'm with you on that one.  :)

I was owned prior to receiving his collar.  In my life, I never really felt like I belonged anywhere.  I think for me, emotionally, the collar represented my place of belonging.  I was incredibly insecure the first couple of years of our relationship, and the ability to fondle my collar when nervous or unsure in life was very helpful to me.  It reminded me that I belonged somewhere, and that I was wanted (a first for me).  It's symbolism was very important to me during those insecure days.

This is just one person's perspective on why my collar was important to me.  I like symbolisms.  I like my tattood marking that he put on me.  I like the collar.  I like the shirt of his that he gave me to sleep in.  And so on.  The most important, however, is the internal bond.  But this other stuff is cool, too. 

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

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for me it symbolizes my commitment to my M'Lady and to my poly family. i am married and collared to different persons. my M'Lady and i are both married and have children not by each other. i am faithful to my wife and submissive to my M'Lady and respectfully to my M'Ladys husband. each of them has a say in what i am allowed to do and communication is open to each. my collar both my formal leather one and my vanilla one, are very important to me and value them most highly. this is how i view my collar and not how anyone else may do so.

proudly collared by LadyPact

littleclip,

sounds complicated, especially with a vanilla collar.

CP

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The collar is the stereotypical symbol for expressing some degree of commitment or attachment in a D/S or M/S relationship.

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I think a collar is like a wedding ring in-that it show that the submissive is in a commited relationship, the sigificance of that collar goes much deeper for the submissive or slave wearing it of course, it's much more about being owned, mind, body and soul by the Mistress or Master.

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it remains until Master, or the coroner, takes it off.

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There may be many different levels of collars. My Master uses 4, I talked to one Dom that uses 10, and in such cases you progressively move up through them. I've seen "public" collars.