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Well, I guess it's a sign of our friendship, and that we are friends. Nothing particularly fancy about it.

In terms of what he calls me, I'm "his sub" as opposed to "his girlfriend" or "his wife". But, we're friends, who have a purely platonic relationship, I just need a label, apparently :)

As a point of clarification, he didn't give the necklace (which is what it is) to me as a collar per se, it just sort of turned into one over time, and we're both comfy with that.

I've never spent a long time analysing it before.

(in reply to CelticPrince

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what i think of when i think of a collar is that Sir cares about me, he choses me to be his.. It signifies that i please, delight, and serve only him.

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ORIGINAL: coupleowl

A collar no matter which form it may take; be that ring, bracelet, or...Collar. Is worn by the submissive to express the master's statement of "This one belongs to me, Body, mind and sould". While at the same time it allows the Submissive to state "I live to serve and obey".

And in another way it says "If you can't see the wedding ring, this also means i'm off limits"

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Sticks and stones
May break my bones
But whips and chains excite me
So tie me up
Or hold me down
And bite me baby, bite me!

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

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In terms of what he calls me, I'm "his sub" as opposed to "his girlfriend" or "his wife". But, we're friends, who have a purely platonic relationship

ivy,
Ok I am confused, It is considered a collar, he calls you his sub, but it is strictly platonic??????????
You have indeed set a new standard.
CP

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

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Well, I guess it's a sign of our friendship, and that we are friends. Nothing particularly fancy about it.

In terms of what he calls me, I'm "his sub" as opposed to "his girlfriend" or "his wife". But, we're friends, who have a purely platonic relationship, I just need a label, apparently :)

As a point of clarification, he didn't give the necklace (which is what it is) to me as a collar per se, it just sort of turned into one over time, and we're both comfy with that.

I've never spent a long time analysing it before.

(in reply to CelticPrince

ivy,

Ok I am confused, It is considered a collar, he calls you his sub, but it is strictly platonic??????????

You have indeed set a new standard.

CP

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ORIGINAL: TwoNYCDommes

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

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In terms of what he calls me, I'm "his sub" as opposed to "his girlfriend" or "his wife". But, we're friends, who have a purely platonic relationship

ivy,
Ok I am confused, It is considered a collar, he calls you his sub, but it is strictly platonic??????????
You have indeed set a new standard.
CP

How is this a new standard?  Many BDSM-relationships are neither sexual nor romatic in nature.

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ORIGINAL: TwoNYCDommes

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

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In terms of what he calls me, I'm "his sub" as opposed to "his girlfriend" or "his wife". But, we're friends, who have a purely platonic relationship

ivy,
Ok I am confused, It is considered a collar, he calls you his sub, but it is strictly platonic??????????
You have indeed set a new standard.
CP

How is this a new standard?  Many BDSM-relationships are neither sexual nor romatic in nature.

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How is this a new standard? Many BDSM-relationships are neither sexual nor romatic in nature.

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I don't mean to be confusing. He calls me his "sub" because he has a wife, and he has a girlfriend, and I'm not *just* a friend (on the basis that we sort of crossed that line a while ago), and he has to call me something. We worked out kinda early on that he says "do this" and I do it, reflexivly, and there was a very strange conversation about my driving him and his wife to York (it was a *very* strange conversation), so in some ways, there's a dominant/submissive sort of element to how we interact, and so, combining that with the fact that I identify as a "sub", I get to be called "his sub".

We now have a completely platonic relationship, or as complete as a relationship where it's perfectly natural for him to study/grope my boobs as a greeting can be platonic. We used to be much less platonic, but, the relationship (as far as platonic ness goes) is set by him and what he wants (seeing that he's the dominant party vibe again?) and so now, we are.

Roll on August when I get to see him (and his new ickle one) again :)

n.b. the ickly one will be "his daughter", she gets a label too.

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A collar is what the people involved in the relationship have decided it to mean....it can mean everything to some.. nothing to others..it can be some thing you can reach up and touch .. or just feeling in your heart ...to me it is just like every other aspect of this lifestyle...each relationship is unique and designed by the people involed... there is no right or wrong.. there is no black and white ... to each their own .

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Good Evening,

I have a collar...an eternity style. My Lord and I bought it together...after we had a written contract for us.

I will admit that I think it got purchased originally becuase "we" thought it was a requirement or we needed one. It was (and still is) used as an attachement point, or a hold to pull me closer. Now it's become a symbol of who I am. I am a woman who enjoys her submissive nature and is not afraid of it. (I used to be.) For me the collar means I am his. It does give me a sense of security. I will play with it when I'm nervous or just for the fun of it. I would say that the meaning evolves with the growth of the relationship.

I agree that it's very hard to explain sometimes. My mom hates it, she'd love it if it came off. I'm not sure if it's because she has some inkling of what it could mean or what. Most times I explain it as a choker. I've actually gotten compliments from the 'nillas about it and wondered where they could get one.

Just my $0.02...

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ORIGINAL: masterofdrkness2

A collar is what the people involved in the relationship  have decided it  to mean....it can mean everything to some.. nothing to others..it can be some thing you can reach up and touch .. or just feeling in your heart ...to me it is just like every  other aspect of this  lifestyle...each relationship is unique and designed by the people involed... there is no right or wrong.. there is no black and white ... to each their own .

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t's a device which I use to tug on his neck playfully or gently, but also with a great amount of forcefulness.