Elisabella
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ORIGINAL: speeder I want to know how to deal with a situation where the wife is a slave to another man(Master) and he has total control over her, her marital relationship, her household, etc and makes all decisions and choices for her. Should he get out of the marriage of 14 years or make alot of compromises and work things out? That depends on what you want out of the marriage. If you want a wife who loves you and respects you, kick the bastard out of your wife's bed. If that fails, then I'd leave. You have a mother-in-law for this shit, you don't need some other guy doing it too. That being said if you're weighing the pros and cons of divorce, if you don't really love your wife anymore and a divorce will cause a huge financial mess, if there are conveniences to being married and you aren't going to be looking for anyone else for awhile, there's no need to rush a divorce. But that's only if you don't love her anymore. I know most people think that's a given, but if a man loved me I'd expect him to fight to keep me, and it doesn't sound like you have done that. You seem pretty ambivalent toward her. Especially if you're asking strangers for advice over whether you should stay or leave...it sounds like you really don't care either way. If that is the case, then look at whichever is more convenient. Divorce is expensive and she'll likely keep a lot of the assets. But if you don't get divorced you won't get a chance to start again with a new woman. Which is more important to you - financial comfort or a romantic future?
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