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RE: Internal Enslavement - 7/24/2008 7:48:32 PM   
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unless someone is physically taken against their will, it would be my asumption that they are there because they have a reason to be there.

we all live in the cages of our own minds and use others to gratify the urges that reside in our minds.

to a subbie even a dom is a tool to use to gain contentment.

i will admit that there are those so out of touch with reality that they need protection but that is not what i find to be the norm, so in the norm there is a wide latitude of behaviours

all in all i agree with barely

im far from the sensual dom type, hell im what most would call flat out devient. lol

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RE: Internal Enslavement - 7/24/2008 8:01:36 PM   
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If you want me to read your posts in future, you will need to keep the sophistry in your pocket, and deal with the hard reality of human emotions as observed by you in your own life.

I also have found that the people who type the most words usually have the least to say.


LOL:  You've got to be kidding.  Are you really advocating that arguments based on emotions and what "seems right" based on the extreemly limited experience any one of us could possible have, are more valid than arguments based on logic and facts?  If that's the way people here think, than I am in the wrong place.  I know most of us are into BDSM, but that doesn't mean we have to revert our thinking back to the dark ages.

For now forgive me if I sustain the lingering hope that the people here that feel that way tend to make up a vocal minority.


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RE: Internal Enslavement - 7/24/2008 8:02:40 PM   
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You've been trying to point out those wholes for a while.  In all the time here, you've yet to give one compelling argument as to why it should be considered acceptable for a person to be in an abusive relationship that they are unable to ever leave.   Even when trying to pick at what I say, all you've done is twist my words to mean things that I never said, attempt to drag the arguments out side the bounds of the topic (based on the question that started the thread), and attempt to make invalid comparisons.  You talk about the strength of my argument, but if this were a formal argument in a structured debate setting, you would have already been disqualified.



Well, thanks for your assessment of my debating skills, but I was not debating you. I was asking for clarification on what I believed to be your flawed argument against something. Because what I sought was clarification, I had no reason to provide an argument, for, against, or anything in between. I said your argument seemed flawed to me and I pointed out why and how I thought it was flawed, and I asked questions for clarity. You have provided none. I am, therefore, concluding that you can not and/or will not provide clarity, so I am ending this discussion.

As for twisting your words, I have quoted you endlessly, using your very own words, and I have questioned them. If quoting you directly is twisting your words, then we have vastly different definition of what "twisting" means.



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RE: Internal Enslavement - 7/24/2008 8:05:50 PM   
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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

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you've yet to give one compelling argument as to why it should be considered acceptable for a person to be in an abusive relationship that they are unable to ever leave.  

I refuse to waste my life reading this thread.  However, I would be stunned if ownedgirlie, CruelDesires or MadRabbit ever made any such claims. 


Don't be stunned. I have not made such a claim, nor will I.

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RE: Internal Enslavement - 7/24/2008 8:09:48 PM   
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If that's the way people here think, than I am in the wrong place.  I know most of us are into BDSM, but that doesn't mean we have to revert our thinking back to the dark ages.

For now forgive me if I sustain the lingering hope that the people here that feel that way tend to make up a vocal minority.


Let me know when you get as discouraged about that as I am...

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RE: Internal Enslavement - 7/24/2008 8:11:09 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CruelDesires

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Classic cultspeak.. thanks for the example.


Come with me and worship the head of lettuce named Ralph.

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LOL!  Excellent.

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RE: Internal Enslavement - 7/24/2008 8:15:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: WhiteFox77
Are you really advocating that arguments based on emotions and what "seems right" based on the extreemly limited experience any one of us could possible have, are more valid than arguments based on logic and facts?  If that's the way people here think, than I am in the wrong place. 

I'm a scientist and mathematician by profession.  Logic is only useful if one starts with correct premises. You even admitted that my first post on this thread was factually correct.  I deal exclusively in logic and facts, and if I don't, then other posters on this site had better kick my ass, or they are not helping me.

I am sure the Moderators will be happy to refund your entry fee if you decide to leave.  Hell, I'll kick in 50% myself.


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RE: Internal Enslavement - 7/24/2008 8:19:15 PM   
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Well, thanks for your assessment of my debating skills, but I was not debating you. I was asking for clarification on what I believed to be your flawed argument against something. Because what I sought was clarification, I had no reason to provide an argument, for, against, or anything in between. I said your argument seemed flawed to me and I pointed out why and how I thought it was flawed, and I asked questions for clarity. You have provided none. I am, therefore, concluding that you can not and/or will not provide clarity, so I am ending this discussion.

As for twisting your words, I have quoted you endlessly, using your very own words, and I have questioned them. If quoting you directly is twisting your words, then we have vastly different definition of what "twisting" means.


If your goal was to get clarification, and not to disagree with me, than you have my sincere apology.  I'm not sure what it is I have said that was unclear, but my base statement and entire argument was pretty simple in my opinion:

Any situation that can lead to a person being in an abusive relationship without the ability to ever leave the relationship is inherently wrong.  Since the site the thread started with clearly and unconditionally states that once a slave has entered into an IE relationship (based on the site descriptions of an IE relationship) they are incapable of leaving the relationship on their own, that kind of relationship is inherently wrong, as there is nothing to prevent the relationship from becoming permanently abusive.

This thread was started with this inquiry:
quote:

ORIGINAL: UBERMUNSCHIST
http://www.enslavement.org.uk/

This is a new website that I just stumbled upon, I would like to know if anyone else has read any of the articles and if so what they think about them.


My response:  I've read all the articles on the site, and I believe that practicing IE as it is depicted on that site is inherently wrong.



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RE: Internal Enslavement - 7/24/2008 8:28:03 PM   
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I'm a scientist and mathematician by profession.  Logic is only useful if one starts with correct premises.


As I said elsewhere, YMMV... in my science, logic is used to arrive at logical conclusions no matter what premises they support or debunk.


Some folks seem to practice the sort that sees the way the world is, and wonders if it can be made to work in theory...

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RE: Internal Enslavement - 7/24/2008 8:40:19 PM   
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I'm a scientist and mathematician by profession.  Logic is only useful if one starts with correct premises. You even admitted that my first post on this thread was factually correct.  I deal exclusively in logic and facts, and if I don't, then other posters on this site had better kick my ass, or they are not helping me.

I am sure the Moderators will be happy to refund your entry fee if you decide to leave.  Hell, I'll kick in 50% myself.


Entry fee, what entry fee?

In any case, I'm glad to hear that you aren't advocating arguing emotion over logic, as that idea really did bother me.  It does leave me curious about one thing though.  If you use logic on a regular basis, then in your initial response why didn't you respond based on the original inquiry of the topic?  Responding to a question about how IE is portrayed in a web site by talking about how IE is normally practiced because it is more "real world" would be like having someone ask you the formula for the area of a circle and responding by saying (4/3)¶r^3 and then saying "I will only give you the formula for the volume of a sphere because in the real world objects aren't two dimensional".  (4/3)¶r^3 is the volume of a sphere, and objects are not two dimensional, so what you said was factual.  It was also irrelevant to the question that was asked.

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RE: Internal Enslavement - 7/24/2008 9:13:36 PM   
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ORIGINAL: WhiteFox77

In the end I will say this:  If the only reason your slave is staying with you and obeying your orders is because he/she has been mentally conditioned to do so, then I feel very sorry for you. 


mmmmmm

quote:


My girl stays with me because she loves me, and obeys my orders because she respects me and wants to please me. 


mmmm you do realize that the love she feels and motivations to obey your orders are all due to mental conditioning. 

quote:


How could I ever believe that love and respect were real if I had mentally conditioned her to be unable to leave me or disobey me. 


you might not of consciously conditioned her.... but just being who you are conditions her to love you and respect you. 

Of course... what she is looking for in a person and what she respects in people has largely been pre-conditioned.  Parents have a significant impact... and so do past intimate relationships..  Even your on going relationship is condition her... but then again.. you are being conditioned as well.  We constantly evolve .... with each positive experience we enjoy with our partners... it further strengths the bond.... it conditions us to hold tighter and tighter on each other.  I recall a motivational speaker I heard over 20 years ago... at the time he was married to his wife for over 40 years.  He talked about how in the beginning he really loved her...but after 5 years... he learned that no.. now he really loves her... and so it went for the next forty years and he was excited for more.  I share that experience... I know that after 20 years with Alandra... my feelings for her are stronger today than they where 20 years ago.... Our experiences conditioned me.  Interestly... my feelings for Kyra are exceptionally strong... there is a really feeling of cross over from my experiences with Alandra.  Kyra has only been just over three years... but I welcome the changes in myself and the strengthing of our union with each passing day.

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The simple fact that she can leave or disobey any time she wants, and doesn't is part of what makes the relationship special. 


Logically.. it is a simple fact... emotionally.. not so simple.    In fact.... if you think she can simply leave or disobey any time she wants.. you are clearly not considering the actually depth of the emotions that exist in the relationship.  I suspect that it wouldn't be simple for her any more than it would for you.

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In the site they talk about counseling, to me anyone that wants to own another to the point where they don't have the right to leave when they choose is the person that needs some counseling, because they obviously have some abandonment issues.


I agree that everyone should have the right....... but as I have said before... having the right doesn't equate to having the ability to exercise that right.  When emotions become involved..... things are hardly simple.  I have concern about anyone's approach that seeks to undermine the ability of a person to exercise the right.  However, I am even more concerned by some people complete lack of awareness or consideration to the impact that a deeply intimate relationship will have on the people within the relationship.  A submissive person who enters slavehood is putting themselves very emotionally entwined with the Master.  This entwining can be very destructive if the Master is not careful and considerate when dealing with the emotions of their slave.  In my opinion... Ignorance of the Master tends to be a more common event that has a destructive influence to the emotionally well-being of submissive persons than those predators that intend harm.



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RE: Internal Enslavement - 7/24/2008 9:19:02 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

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ORIGINAL: HeavansKeeper
This theory of initial consent is the same line of thinking that made spousal rape legal, as by marrying you she consented to sex. 


I think I love you.

I've always felt there was something wrong with giving up the right to withdraw consent but have never been able to articulate it. That's the perfect example of why I feel this way.


I would love to give up my right to leave my Master. I would be more than willing to do so. However, he would never permit me to do that... at some level, that is one of the many ways I know he is an ethical Master who has my best interest at heart.
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RE: Internal Enslavement - 7/24/2008 9:20:37 PM   
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I thought I could wield a large enough hammer to get your attention, so you would learn something.

Conversations ebb and flow, and -- like real life -- do not fit cutely into a box.  Your #1 problem in my eyes is your excessively literal interpretation of everything.  For example, this is a free site.  There is no entry fee.  I was making a joke, because you "threatened" to go somewhere else.

If you spend less time with a rulebook, and more time with the beautiful, incredible things called human beings, your understanding of life (including BDSM) will expand.

I'm off this thread.  Good luck.


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RE: Internal Enslavement - 7/24/2008 9:36:01 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

quote:

ORIGINAL: WhiteFox77

In the end I will say this:  If the only reason your slave is staying with you and obeying your orders is because he/she has been mentally conditioned to do so, then I feel very sorry for you. 


mmmmmm

quote:


My girl stays with me because she loves me, and obeys my orders because she respects me and wants to please me. 


mmmm you do realize that the love she feels and motivations to obey your orders are all due to mental conditioning. 

quote:


How could I ever believe that love and respect were real if I had mentally conditioned her to be unable to leave me or disobey me. 


you might not of consciously conditioned her.... but just being who you are conditions her to love you and respect you. 

Of course... what she is looking for in a person and what she respects in people has largely been pre-conditioned.  Parents have a significant impact... and so do past intimate relationships..  Even your on going relationship is condition her... but then again.. you are being conditioned as well.  We constantly evolve .... with each positive experience we enjoy with our partners... it further strengths the bond.... it conditions us to hold tighter and tighter on each other.  I recall a motivational speaker I heard over 20 years ago... at the time he was married to his wife for over 40 years.  He talked about how in the beginning he really loved her...but after 5 years... he learned that no.. now he really loves her... and so it went for the next forty years and he was excited for more.  I share that experience... I know that after 20 years with Alandra... my feelings for her are stronger today than they where 20 years ago.... Our experiences conditioned me.  Interestly... my feelings for Kyra are exceptionally strong... there is a really feeling of cross over from my experiences with Alandra.  Kyra has only been just over three years... but I welcome the changes in myself and the strengthing of our union with each passing day.

quote:


The simple fact that she can leave or disobey any time she wants, and doesn't is part of what makes the relationship special. 


Logically.. it is a simple fact... emotionally.. not so simple.    In fact.... if you think she can simply leave or disobey any time she wants.. you are clearly not considering the actually depth of the emotions that exist in the relationship.  I suspect that it wouldn't be simple for her any more than it would for you.

quote:


In the site they talk about counseling, to me anyone that wants to own another to the point where they don't have the right to leave when they choose is the person that needs some counseling, because they obviously have some abandonment issues.


I agree that everyone should have the right....... but as I have said before... having the right doesn't equate to having the ability to exercise that right.  When emotions become involved..... things are hardly simple.  I have concern about anyone's approach that seeks to undermine the ability of a person to exercise the right.  However, I am even more concerned by some people complete lack of awareness or consideration to the impact that a deeply intimate relationship will have on the people within the relationship.  A submissive person who enters slavehood is putting themselves very emotionally entwined with the Master.  This entwining can be very destructive if the Master is not careful and considerate when dealing with the emotions of their slave.  In my opinion... Ignorance of the Master tends to be a more common event that has a destructive influence to the emotionally well-being of submissive persons than those predators that intend harm.


I think all I'm going to say to this is that DAM I'M IMPRESSED.  And now I have to go spend some serious time in introspection.  It appears I may have some issues relating to my ability to believe my girl is attached to me specifically, and not just to the life/environment I provide for her.


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RE: Internal Enslavement - 7/25/2008 2:32:50 AM   
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quote:

Are you really advocating that arguments based on emotions and what "seems right" based on the extreemly limited experience any one of us could possible have, are more valid than arguments based on logic and facts?


I think the logic is flawed, as some others have said.

I've not been in a M/s, or a TPE/IE relationship before. And I sorta learned the existence of TPE/IE through that site something like a year ago, and I didn't go "OMG this is horrible." either. I feel I need a sort of similar, close bond, to thrive in a relationship, maybe not M/s, or IE but the bond present in it. I will no doubt attach myself to a very high degree to someone I love. And I need to love the Dom to really appreciate being dominated. As such, leaving the relationship would be harder.

The ideal on that site is to make it extremely unlikely that it's almost impossible - but few people, despite years and decades of being together working to create achieving such an ideal environment would probably only reach something close - not that exactly.

Just like it's a Christian ideal to be Christ-like, but few if any people ever attain this, some try their best though.

If '0' was an ideal, and 0 only exists in the abstract, you could at best attain '1'. Even if you went down from 10,000. From someone outside looking in, your '1' looks like a '0'.

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RE: Internal Enslavement - 7/25/2008 6:01:03 AM   
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I think the logic is flawed, as some others have said.


Okay, I can accept that my logic might be flawed, but I'd like someone to point out the logical flaw.  So far a lot of people have tried, and none of actually shown a specific flaw in the logic.

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ORIGINAL: SaraZeal
I've not been in a M/s, or a TPE/IE relationship before. And I sorta learned the existence of TPE/IE through that site something like a year ago, and I didn't go "OMG this is horrible." either. I feel I need a sort of similar, close bond, to thrive in a relationship, maybe not M/s, or IE but the bond present in it. I will no doubt attach myself to a very high degree to someone I love. And I need to love the Dom to really appreciate being dominated. As such, leaving the relationship would be harder.

The ideal on that site is to make it extremely unlikely that it's almost impossible - but few people, despite years and decades of being together working to create achieving such an ideal environment would probably only reach something close - not that exactly.

Just like it's a Christian ideal to be Christ-like, but few if any people ever attain this, some try their best though.

If '0' was an ideal, and 0 only exists in the abstract, you could at best attain '1'. Even if you went down from 10,000. From someone outside looking in, your '1' looks like a '0'.


What you are suggesting is what is called an subjective interpretation instead of an objective interpretation (it's also what RedMagic1 is suggesting by saying I'm too literal).  In a subjective interpretation you assume that what a person is saying is not exactly what they mean.  The problem is a subjective interpretation all definitions become meaningless.  To use your analogy, a person says "you are not doing XXX unless you can reach 0", then another subjectively interprets that to mean, "well, 0 is almost impossible, so if you can reach 1 then your still doing XXX".  Another person who finds the whole thing very difficult comes along and says "since this is harder for me than for most others, I'm going to say 10 is good enough for me".  Another really lazy person comes along and says "well since we all get to decide what doing XXX means, I'm going to say I'm doing it even though I'm at 100".

Now we have a bunch of people saying they are doing XXX, even though none of them really are, and none of them are doing the same thing.  So for all realistic purposes XXX has ceased to have any meaning at all.  All of a sudden any form of logical discussion becomes impossible because we are all talking about different things.

What is more, in context of this specific topic, the site in question specifically has a section of their FAQ about this kind of interpretation.

quote:


Can't people just decide for themselves what they are?

if they're not literal slaves then we do not see how they can reasonably claim to be such (rather than making perfectly accurate statements that they like to be treated as a slave, to serve as a slave, to roleplay life as a slave or whatever other aspect of the idea of slavery they enjoy.)


I'd say the author of the site made it very clear that he expects the readers of his site to interpret the word "slave" by it's accurate literal definition.  So by suggesting that I'm taking the site too literally, you are really supporting my argument that this isn't a good site to use as an IE reference.


And in the end, yes, I absolutely expect people to say what they mean and mean what they say.  If people have a problem with that, then they need to stop suggesting I'm doing something wrong, and look inside them selves to determine what issues they have that makes them feel that way because expecting a person to accurately say what they mean should not be an unreasonable expectation.


--------------------------------------------

Now I'm going to ask my own question:  Why are people so eager to defend this site?  People say I take the sites definition of "slave" as is used on the site, too literally, yet the site specifically says to do so.  I've pointed out that by the sites "idea" of IE, the potential of a life-long abusive relationship becomes possible, and at this point, no one has been able to point out anything that the site says that suggests I'm wrong.  Yet people are still avidly defending the site.  Why?


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RE: Internal Enslavement - 7/25/2008 7:41:30 AM   
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Long answer, I see that submissive's have a certain type of an internal hard wiring in their psyche and that is what makes them what they are. That "hard wiring" is enhanced by interactions with a Dominant in a D/s type atmosphere. Continuous exchanges and interactions in a lifestyle exchange or relationship can start a "software change" process where they come to the point where they become so entrenched in their psyche that they no longer have the "will" to leave the dominant, even when they know that the relationship is unhealthy and even destructive to themselves. What IE touches on is the encouragement and exploration of this internal "change over" in a healthy and productive way. Now. A "good" dominant understands this inherent nature of a submissive and nurtures that aspect and uses that to enrich or enhance the relationship in its entirety. A "bad" dominant doesn't understand or is some cases DOES understand this fact and uses it to further their own agendas and doesn't keep the health and welfare of the submissive as a priority. Even when the submissive themselves point out the things that the dominant has done wrong and KNOWS that the the relationship is self destructing, they are so "IE soft wired" into their ways of thinking that they continue to stay long past the time that they should have ended things. I'm sure that you all have seen this behavior and commented on it or wondered why it continues. I see this "IE" soft wiring comes easier to some and is never to be attained by others. That is why some people refer certain submissive's as "natural" when they speak of them about their "levels" or "depths"of submission.  Eventually an internal "software switch" throws and the submissive can leave the unhealthy relationship or is released by the dominant but by that time may be damaged to a certain extent. If the submissive was in relatively decent mental health before the relationship started they can recover from the hurt and heartbreak and forgive "reprogram" themselves and move on with their lives. On the other hand if the submissive was damaged or was in poor mental health before the relationship started then the added emotional turmoil can make things worse and can add to the damage that they already have.  IE isn't about brainwashing someone non consensually or using their outside environment to make them stay a slave to another. It is about enhancing that inner core of who they are and encouraging that portion of their personality in a Master slave type relationship. CD

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RE: Internal Enslavement - 7/25/2008 6:38:45 PM   
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Okay, I can accept that my logic might be flawed, but I'd like someone to point out the logical flaw.  So far a lot of people have tried, and none of actually shown a specific flaw in the logic.


The logic flaw is that human emotional and psychological experiences don't fall neatly into enumerated logic of A + B = C. People devote their lives and put all their being into metaphysical deities when simple logic would dictate that they are imaginey and unreal. They continue to endure horrible hardships with their companions, unable and incapable to leave them for their own sake when simple logic would dictate to just walk out the door and put an end to it.

The flaw is that your logic isn't applicable to such experiences and such experiences aren't bound by it. A few people have tried to point this out, but you just aren't getting it nor willing to think outside the box of the order you have forced upon the world to understand it. I can't really fault you though, because I used to be the same way. 

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RE: Internal Enslavement - 7/25/2008 6:47:43 PM   
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I'd say the author of the site made it very clear that he expects the readers of his site to interpret the word "slave" by it's accurate literal definition.  So by suggesting that I'm taking the site too literally, you are really supporting my argument that this isn't a good site to use as an IE reference.


Yeah, dude....but for the last time (repeating myself yet again) the context of such a definition is one of emotional attachment steming from the slave to the Master, not a law turning the clock back to the 1800s like you keep trying to depict.

Ain't nobody keeping the slave from leaving in the M/S relationships depicted besides the slave herself.

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RE: Internal Enslavement - 7/25/2008 7:55:31 PM   
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ORIGINAL: WhiteFox77

And now I have to go spend some serious time in introspection.  It appears I may have some issues relating to my ability to believe my girl is attached to me specifically, and not just to the life/environment I provide for her.



I agree that the life/environment you provide is important... but I believe that putting that ahead of the character you are is like putting the cart before the horse.

It has been my experience that those relationships that are healthy strong and enduring have common factor to them.  First is that the individuals are connected as individuals.  The character and personality is what draws them together.  From that they look to the life/environment they can have such a person.  It's is our character and personality that creates the life/environment of our relationships.  IE... a person of low integrity is sure to bring lies and deceit to his relationships and that is the life/environment that his partners can look forward to.

I was very fortunate to cross paths with Alandra... She is a wonderful person and I unknowningly entered in a relationship that was destine to succeed becuase of the compatiability of our character and personality.  Our life/environment naturally flowed from who we are as people.  I never realized the significant connection that the character of who we are has to our life/environment until I brought someone into my life that was toxic to our life/environment.  The experience awaken my awareness to the importance of who we are far out ways our goals and even our actions.  In fact... it is who we are that our goals and actions manifest themselves from.

When we are open and authentic to our partners and this draws us together.. the bond is going to be exceedly strong.  The life/environment that we live is subjected to a variety of things that are beyond our individual control.  But.. who I am... I who I am.  Holding to this is holding on to the rock.  Holding on to a life/environment can be like holding on to air because it can change so rapidly.  The attachment of my girls to Who I am and not because of what I do for them is much preferred in my world.  Who I am doesn't change... it is constant... and as such.. I can expect the attachment to be just as constant.  But... If they are attached because of the life/environment I provide... who is really the Master.  They would serve me... but yet... I would serve them to provide the life/environment they would expect from me.  These may seem like subtle things to many... but from my experience of living a power dynamic relationship.. it is significant.

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