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ORIGINAL: Sundowner

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

His jokes arent always the best 

Oh Greeds - you are so so wrong! 

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And this I still can't quite get - rape is a pretty firm and deeply personal taboo. People who go around raping girls get put in prison. Yet the rape fantasy is hugely common and can often form part of play.

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ORIGINAL: badlilthang

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a slap that comes out of the blue, can trigger a natural reaction of defense - hence the slap back. No thought - just a reaction...does that make sense?
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ORIGINAL: KMsAngel

jokes are just too "british humour" subtle, sd

i've been infected with the virus that makes one understand them. not always a good thing, lol

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I think having the readers project their own personal lack of control or previous bad experiences onto you is unfair and foolish.

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ORIGINAL: Daddysredhead

I can relate to so many different perspectives in the responses posted here.  I have never been slapped really hard in the face by Daddy, so I am not sure what that would be like.  He has, on a couple of occasions, kind of "tapped" me in the face in order to get me to re-focus during play, not hard at all - just as an attention getter.  Recently, I have watched some bdsm videos where there has been face-slapping during play or passion and I have been rather turned on by what I have seen.  I have told Him that this has picqued my interest and asked Him if He would be able to slap me and He said "yes."  He hasn't done it so far, but I am growing more curious as to what it would be like, during a hot scene or rough sex.  I sent Him links to the clips I watched so He could see in what context I found this activity erotic.  He knows that this has always been a hard limit for me because I would have always said, "Slap me and I'll slap you back, no matter what the orientation or situation."  But now, it's something I would like to explore - but only in the realms defined above. 

I still believe that any act of physical violence that is done to me during an actual argument or fight is still likely going to get an "in kind" response just out of automatic reaction, though I've never had to worry about that with Daddy in the 5 years we have been together.  The amount of restraint and respect I have been able to muster during any disagreements with Him is nothing short of miraculous in comparison with my typical past reactions with others.  I have always been the typical hot-headed, short-tempered redhead that loves to rip into my opponent during an argument.  This doesn't usually lend itself well to being "naturally" submissive IMO, but it has led me to a deeper connection with Daddy, in that, He knows this about me, and doesn't take advantage or press my buttons just to see if I can remain in my submissive place with Him.  (My submissive place has only been occupied by me during the last 5 years of my life, before that, it was merely a vacant lot.) 

Just my .
DRH

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ORIGINAL: Sundowner

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ORIGINAL: badlilthang
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a slap that comes out of the blue, can trigger a natural reaction of defense - hence the slap back. No thought - just a reaction...does that make sense?
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Makes sense entirely blt. It's what's behind the response that I'm struggling with - why does this over-ride a normal submissive response?

And as so often, rs puts a context well - "I’m talking about that corrective slap, that mild slap ... you apply when a slave is so far out of line she needs a little physical jolt to get her thinking straight again."

So for those anxious to help me with my "anger" and "control" - just pretend I can handle those and look instead at the different issue. Why is blt's reaction a common one?

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ORIGINAL: OTKkindaGirl

...  sometimes the best attention getter is a slap to the face and sometimes, yes, people deserve them.  i don't condone abuse and there is a difference between a single slap and a punch to the face, and i certainly do not agree with hitting when anger is present.  i understand the tone in which this OP was presented and not even knowing this guy, i understood his position and knew that he didn't mean "truly" angry.... not when there is playful barb going back and forth.  to me, it would have been a shattering experience to be slapped not knowing that i had crossed a line in playful mincing of words.  i wouldn't have slapped back but rather stepped back, withdrawn and assessed the situation quietly.  if i felt i was in fact out of line or insulting with disrespect i would accept it as a mild correction and hopefully we would talk about it.   if it was done out of true anger and i had unwittingly hit an old nerve with my barbs then i would expect a conversation about the incident and what caused the reaction (i'm fair and maybe i'll stay a sub/slave or maybe we'll part and stay friends).  in an extreme case, if i intentionally said something maliciously disrespectful that i knew would provoke such a response, then i deserved it and would be accepting of it, but i should probably be reassessing the relationship altogether and walk away from it.  if i want to hit you, you no longer have my mind, my heart, or my spirit and the best thing for me to do in such case is to part ways and you aren't my friend.

imagine my surprise when i met my first face slapping Dom earlier this spring!  *grin*     love ya *C*

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ORIGINAL: christine1

Sundown, somehwere you mentioned getting slapped on the ass.  i can take a harder slap to my face than i can my ass and i've often wondered if it is becuase of the severe spankings i used to get as a kid.   shrugs. 

aren't we all so beautifully, wonderfully intricate and interesting in what makes us tick?

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