NovelApproach
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Kolekorin - You seem to assume we have something wrong with us. I can assure you that, in my case at least, there is absolutely nothing "wrong." I was a healthy, happy child, with a stable home life in a safe upper-middle class neighborhood, and a normal social life at a good school. My Dominant personality manifested pretty early in life - I was involved in leadership programs like sports and student council as early as elementary school, and continued with similar activities until I finished high school. In my junior year, I got involved with my first polyamorous relationship, which was quite healthy and rewarding compared to the trainwreck dating my peers seemed to be involved with, and a few other relationships I got involved in at that time were with boys who would later come out as submissives. By the time I entered college, I had developed an interest in kink, mostly in the form of erotica and porn, and I knew more or less who I was and what I wanted. Shortly thereafter I did have an experience with rape, which did affect a my life in many areas, but my sexuality was not one of them. I find it prudent to add that my parents are *very* vanilla and that we're Asian. The culture is very patriarchal, with women being rasied to be demure homemakers, and men to be stoic professionals. However, I didn't feel a need to "rebel" against this mindset with my Dominance, especially because my extended family consists mostly of very strong, willful women. I am attracted to D/s because its who I am. I think I was always meant to be dominant, and am most comfortable in a D/s relationship. I am attracted to the level of trust and intimacy D/s requires, and enjoy the responsibility of being in a Dominant, nurturing position. Sexually, I'm a "giver," and I find that being in a dominant role allows me to give fully, and my partner to receive fully. D/s satisfies me, emotionally and physically. My formative experiences have nothing to do with that. In short, my upbringing was pleasant and normal, I suffer from no mental illness (though having been a "Talented and Gifted" kid, I'm not exactly neurotypical), and the environment I was raised in did not lean towards the lifestyle or female dominance in any way. I'm just who I am.
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Don't talk at me about the joystick and buttons... tell me about the game. Sure, I'll Dungeon Master for you. Do you like Eberron? ...oh. That kind of dungeon. Is it just me or do Theatre Majors make excellent play partners?
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