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RE: What Drove You to D/S - 1/12/2009 8:03:03 AM

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My childhood was mind-numbingly boring with the greatest form of torture being piano lessons and a math tutor so I can eliminate that. On the mental side, my mother was a codependent professional victim who functioned (and ruled) with all the passive-agressive tools in her bag. She kind of messed me up for awhile but my therapist swears I'm stable now.

I had odd 'feelings' from my very early teens. My fondness for playing 'army' with the neighborhood boys and tying them all to trees as I captured them probably should have tipped someone off LOL

In the early 80s, while stationed in Georgia, my date and I found ourselves with a flat tire. Steve asked me to grab something from his tool box in the trunk. I grabbed what turned out to be his toy bag and soon I was dancing a jig by the side of the road because all of a suddent, I WASNT alone in the universe anymore!!

the rest is history...

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RE: What Drove You to D/S - 1/12/2009 5:15:32 PM

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oh gosh
i had all kinds of nutty things going on in my brain in years past. used to love tying myself up and going to sleep. =p haha
i dont know really what put the ideas there
i'm not poly, and i dont have any experience with group things, so i can't say anything there
perhaps people into BDSM have a higher incidence of weird junk in their pasts, who knows. i've got lots of ornate little skeletons in my closet, but i don't know if they're the REASON for anything.

i have to admit i have some slight attraction to age play and i found myself accidentally regressing to "somewhere" once, which was rather bizarre and hard to talk to him about and i don't think i ever actually DID talk about it.
i can sit and wonder for days and months and start myself down a self-hating cycle going "why did i do/feel/think that?" OR i can just accept it for whatever it was, something that may never have an answer, and go on my way.

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RE: What Drove You to D/S - 1/13/2009 5:53:28 AM

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None of the bad stuff drove me here. I had a very healthy middle class childhood. I guess I could blame TV. I do believe it all started by watching, "Mighty Mouse". I developed a thing for playing imaginary, "being tied up and rescued". I just felt all tingly during my fantasy play. Then at the library, at the tender age of 15, I found my first Gor book. That tingle turned into a fire before I had finished reading the first chapter.

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RE: What Drove You to D/S - 1/13/2009 6:11:43 AM

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Curiosity, I'm one of those people that, if there's something out there to learn, I want to learn it... And being a total control freak. I just sort of started as someones pet, with the goal of simply trying to understand this whole thing. That didn't last terribly long, under a year. The friendship endures though. He was my friend before I found out that he was into this sort of thing, and when I did, we started talking and I was, well, I was me. Very curious. I had to learn more. And how better to learn, than to do? After a short time, it became clear that I was not sub material, as I had him waiting on me, hand and foot, and wasn't even trying to do it. >.< Buuuuut. It all worked out well in the long run. :)

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RE: What Drove You to D/S - 1/13/2009 6:58:07 AM

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I was always very sensual, sexual, did little things here and there that caused pain to myself, and had the desire of being controlled. I didn't know BDSM existed until about 4 months ago, but for me, it was just the right time for the new discovery. :)

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RE: What Drove You to D/S - 1/13/2009 7:47:42 AM

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I had your basic normal childhood, no abuse of any sort whatsoever. However, my first conscious memory of getting an erection was when I was playing cowboys and indians with the boy next door and his sister. We would up tying her up and I distinctly remember having a hard one in my pants. I don't remember how old we were at the time, but I can't imagine that we were more than ten or so. That feeling has yet to go away!

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