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RE: "Just lower your standards" - 9/30/2008 11:19:49 AM

SnowRanger

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Hello A/all,

This thread has come around again and I read the original post with refreshed eyes. In my previous post to this thread I was trying to point out that standards can be too specfic. Consequently, one can exclude many really terrific people from one's life.

I don't think that you should "lower" your standards. Perhaps you should loosen them a bit. First decide what are hard criterion. If she has to have a C-cup chest (not B, not D, but C!) then that's that. Then decide what where you can find some wiggle room. For instance, you may decide that you can put up with her chewing tobacco because she is good with a single tail Finally, recognize that your tastes may change as you go along.

I confess that I spent a lot of time looking for a perfect partner when a lot of perfectly wonderful women were right in front of me.

Respectfully,
Mike
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RE: "Just lower your standards" - 9/30/2008 11:30:00 AM

michaelOfGeorgia

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i've raised my standards...not many here seem to meet them though

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RE: "Just lower your standards" - 9/30/2008 12:42:38 PM

Ialdabaoth

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ORIGINAL: zakkan

Some of the clothes look pretty good. You really can design these things... if those are designed by you...

Which clothes are you talking about?

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RE: "Just lower your standards" - 9/30/2008 2:21:28 PM

lilmisssubmiss

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If you feel llike you have to change something about yourself for a relationship to work, it wont work and in the end you'll spend so much time trying to get a doomed relationship to work...you'd be wasting both peoples time.
It takes time sometimes and patience to find exactly what you want, but if you are consitant and willing to not give up you'll find someone eventually that will be worth the wait.
Don't settle for anything less than what you want to, have enough self respect not to do that. But i understand the temptation.
When...something perfect comes along you'll just know it's right, and believe me you'll be so glad you waited.
Good luck:).

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RE: "Just lower your standards" - 10/3/2008 8:42:15 PM

Jeptha

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One thing that struck me is how much you have wrapped up in this one fetish; it's a relationship model, a sexual fetish, and your artistic outlet all at the same time.
(Pardon me if I've got that wrong - it's a long thread!)

Can any of this stuff be parsed out seperately?
The reasoning being that these three things might be easier to address as individual facets of your life, rather than as one big, interwoven project.

I don't know if that would be possible or desirable, just throwing it out there for the heck of it.

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RE: "Just lower your standards" - 10/4/2008 4:05:15 AM

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a bad profile means death by chastity. I can see some poor soul dragging his overloaded testicles around in a wheelbarrow.....

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